Quoting Elizabeth (mountainbaby): I don't know if I should post here on not but I'll try. Tell me to go away if you want. My husband is ... [snip!] ... you and the people you love. I'm angry that I let myself be treated so poorly for so long. I probably need therapy myself.
My God, you've described MY ex! Right to a T!
He was/is the same way..severely bipolar,abusive, everything you've described your ex doing,mine did too.
I think my ex was/is also schizo-affective,if not full-blown schizophrenic.And he blamed everyone and anyone but himself for being violent,abusive,cruel,sexually innaproppriate,ect.
He didn't bother to take his meds unless I handed them to him,and even then he would flat refuse at times,and though he was going to court-ordered anger -management,he never opened up about how bad things were going.
And he never tried to go to any one-on-ne therapy.
Wow..it's creepy,how alike the two of them are.