Overnight visits?

So first im sorry ladies, i wasnt going to post this but i just want to hear what others think. well and cause its probably getting annoying...well my babys father had her last week from wed-thur and when i got her back she was fine and everything. We finally sat down and talked about stuff cause i said he wasnt going to be taking her cause i wasnt sure i could get her back. So he has agreed that having her wed-thur (yes overnight) is ok? which he wanted her tue night-fri morning. But do you ladys thing that if fine for her to be with him that long, like to be without me that long. oh and she is about 3months now.He takes great care of her and i know she is safe with him. Cause i know if we go to court he might even get more than that.
oh and even though all of this we are going to take and work things out between us and if it work then great but if it doesnt then we can atleast say we tried.

If you are comfortable with her going then I don't see a problem.

actually he wouldnt get overnight visits until the child is 4. Check with an attorney and find out your rights. It will be better for you in the long run. Most attorneys do not charge you to have a confrence with them to see what your case is about.

Well that is her father and you did say:"you know she is safe with him and he takes care of her", so i dont see the problem with her staying that long.
If you honestly dont feel comfortable about leaving her there that long tell him you dont think its a good idea, and maybe yall can work on that happening one day.

Other then that i hope things work out between yall.

I don't think there's anything wrong with him getting to see her the times he wants so much as you are comfortable. If things don't work out between my baby's dad and I, I'll allow him to have over nights with her even if she's under the age of 4. I know he's good with her, that's his child and he loves her and cares for her just as much as I do, why deprive him of bonding with her if you know there's nothing to worry about? That's just setting up the position for things to go bad and there to be hate between 2 people, and being a child from a divorced family, I feel I'm lucky that my parents don't bad mouth each other (too much) but when it happens it gets uncomfy.

I don't think you should take him to court if you guys can work things out your selves. That's just going to make things get ugly and you look like a bitch.

I dont know i for some reason think that her being away from me is like going to mess her up mentally or something and it sounds stupid but if its only one night and since it has been going on for the past 2weeks. I think its just more of me not wanted to let go but i dont want her not to know him, i want them to have the best relationship they can have.
And if we do it now an we dont end up working things out i think it might be easier for her when she gets older right?

Quoting Mommy Melissa*:“ I dont know i for some reason think that her being away from me is like going to mess her up mentally ... [snip!] ... have. And if we do it now an we dont end up working things out i think it might be easier for her when she gets older right?”

It won't mess her up mentally. Just make sure it is the same night every week so she's in a routine and knows what to expect.  As long as you trust him, then it is fine

Quoting emily*:“ I don't think there's anything wrong with him getting to see her the times he wants so much as you are ... [snip!] ... him to court if you guys can work things out your selves. That's just going to make things get ugly and you look like a bitch.”

I am not saying she should take him to court. But now adays you need to be prepared. Knowledge is power. I come from a divoreced family myself and my parents were able to work things out. But when me and my sons dad split it didnt matter what compramise i tried to make it wasnt good enough. So just knowing your rights and what the trouble could be ahead if, and thats a big if, something should go wrong and one night is not enough right now with her being so young. I wish more guys would be able to see that when they are young that its best for everyone to try to make it easy on the child, not the parents.

Quoting Megan♥GObama*gtfo*:“ It won't mess her up mentally. Just make sure it is the same night every week so she's in a routine and knows what to expect. As long as you trust him, then it is fine”

Thats a really good idea...kids only know what they know. If that makes sense. What I mean is the normal for her is different than the normal for my child and so on. As long as there is structure and balance then she will be just fine and if your confident with her daddy then I see no problem in letting him keep her. They need to form a good relationship too! and of course as the mommy we always feel that we can do it best!

Thanks ladies. It makes me feel so much better than im not just crazy for thinking its ok for him to take her.