Update from my rant yesterday *LONG*

This is my thread from yesterday
http://forum.baby-gaga.com/about349107.html

So Patricia (Chris' mom) said she would bring the baby home to me at 5:30 because she was out and about and running errands. I agreed to that even though I get off work at 4:30. 5:30 rolled around and no baby. 6:00 I sent her a text asking where she was. No answer. 6:40 came and went so I called. She answered and said she was very disappointed with me because I had called Chris a deadbeat because he wouldn't watch the baby while I went to a movie (I did call him a deadbeat but NOT for that reason). She said that since I'd been so hateful that she had volunteered to watch the baby until 10 so that I could go see my precious movie. I informed her that neither she nor Chris had sent me any kind of text to let me know what the plan was and that I did not appreciate it in the slightest.
I told her I would call her right back so once I figured out what I was going to do. I called her back 10 minutes later and she didn't answer the phone. I tried several more times with similar luck.
Finally at 8:30 I got a hold of her and told her I'd be by to pick up Hayden. When I got over there she reminded me (immediately) that I owed her $75. I told her I'd have to run back home and get it and would bring it by (I'd left it on the table thinking she was bringing him to ME not me going to get him). Since we live so close to each other it wasn't a big deal. I asked for his pacifier because he didn't have one in his mouth. She said she wouldn't be giving it to me because SHE paid for it. I asked what happened to the one I paid for and she said "I guess it's at Chris'". So she denied my child his comfort object to be petty.
I told her I would run right home and be back. I got a phone call so I answered it and she made a rude remark about me being on the phone. As the phone call ended I look over and she has climbed INTO MY CAR and says "well I'll just ride along with you so we can talk"  
She rode over with me to my house, I got her money and she IMMEDIATELY noticed that I didn't give her the $12.50. I told her that Chris would pay for it all that I wasn't going to and she launched into what a BAD person I was and how she didn't care what Chris did or didn't do that I wasn't perfect and I just needed to be more tolerant and understanding of his "situation" (ummmmmm his DUI is NOT my fault and I wasn't even talking to him when he got it).
When I kept arguing with her she told me that I should just "pray about it" because she was sure that god would force me to see her point of view.
That right there scares me. She basically is saying that to disagree with her is to disagree with god himself so therefore she always has a higher power to quote in our arguments.
I need advice. Tactful ways to handle that heinous bitch. I told her I'd take Chris to court for child support and get what I deserve if he doesn't kick in and she said "we'll fight it". I also told her that I would be taking him somewhere else and she went off on me for being a controlling bitch that never lets Chris make any decisions about our child.

Oh my God!   I would not be leaving my baby in the care of someone so obviously in need of psychiatric attention! I would put him into regular daycare asap. What a looney!

Wow, I can't think of anything tactful to say to such a hateful person. If fact you've been far more patient with her then I could have ever been.

I KNOW PEOPLE IF YOU KNOW WHAT I MEAN?! hahhahahah

Quoting PirateTink *Morrigan*:“ This is my thread from yesterday http://forum.baby-gaga.com/about349107.html So Patricia (Chris' ... [snip!] ... somewhere else and she went off on me for being a controlling bitch that never lets Chris make any decisions about our child.”

wow, i don't even know what to tell you...but i wouldn't let your baby with her at all if at all possible.

Quoting Sarah_Marie {*HBC*}:“ Oh my God!   I would not be leaving my baby in the care of someone so obviously in need to psychiatric attention! I would put him into regular daycare asap. What a looney!”

it scared me!

WOW  

I dont have advice I guess, but I would definitely do what you said and A. Stop taking him there! You can find someone (who isnt crazy) to watch him for less than 12.50 an hour! And B. Take him to court. It isnt your fault that he isnt responsible!

Good luck, this sounds like a family of crazies!

That woman is a crack head. She was in "YOUR CAR?" and she had you son? never. again.

Can they fight it? The whole child support thing? I don't deny him his child. He's a GREAT father when it comes to the relationship side of things. I just need help with the financial and he refuses to do that. I don't care if he continues to see him all the time but I need financial help.

run like hell from that pyscho....and dont let her watch your child...and i would look into getting a lawyer youre probably gonna need one it wouldnt suprise me if she tried to tell ppl you do drugs blah blah blah......oh and if my MIL acted like that id probably knock the hell out of her. 

Quoting PirateTink *Morrigan*:“ Can they fight it? The whole child support thing? I don't deny him his child. He's a GREAT father when ... [snip!] ... with the financial and he refuses to do that. I don't care if he continues to see him all the time but I need financial help.”

I dont know for sure, but I am sure that they could fight it. I dont know how far they will get, because if he isnt paying, he isnt paying. Plain and simple. I think the biggest thing would to make it court ordered, that way once he does miss a payment he would actually be held accountable for it.

Quoting PirateTink *Morrigan*:“ Can they fight it? The whole child support thing? I don't deny him his child. He's a GREAT father when ... [snip!] ... with the financial and he refuses to do that. I don't care if he continues to see him all the time but I need financial help.”

No they can't fight it. The state will tell him exactly how much he has to pay based on both of your income and bills. Then you can even set it up so that he pays thru the state, and the state sends you the check. That way you don't have to worry about him not paying you. If he doesn't pay them on time, he can go even go to jail. They'll start to garnish his wages if he refuses to pay.

Quoting PirateTink *Morrigan*:“ Can they fight it? The whole child support thing? I don't deny him his child. He's a GREAT father when ... [snip!] ... with the financial and he refuses to do that. I don't care if he continues to see him all the time but I need financial help.”

He has to pay if you file. I mean he can't get away with not paying at all, it's not fair to you that he doesn't help out financially. The worst they could get is really low payments that really wouldn't help you out too much anyways.

those kinds of people want control over anything and everything, or else they throw fits. ive read your other post about this issue and i say avoid the whole situation and put him in day care, especially if its cheaper. they cant fight child support. i dont know your story with your childs father but i dont know a single person who has faught child support. you can file, but you may not always get what you should. i have it filed, but the idiot cant keep a job.

Why are you asking us for advice-God has all the answers!