Venting ... pregnant, but not me!

I can't help but need to vent.

It's not fair! It's not fair at all. People get pregnant all the time ... they have their baby and life is good. Well, I want that. I want to feel that happiness. I have to feel that tossing and turning, kicking and hiccuping inside my belly again.

I'm feeling very frustrated and discouraged. I just want to be pregnant. I want to be one of them ... one of those who are happy and hormonal, cute and preggers ... I just want it. Everyone says to forget about it, but it seems that everyone is pregnant these days. It could be my age ... but I swear it's in the water at work. Everyone, I look left, I look right ... everyone is pregnant. Everyone except me!

How can I get passed these feelings of frustration and jealousy? How can I try to forget about trying and just let it happen? There's no way that I can forget, when everywhere I look, someone is pregnant! Ahhh!

I am sorry. I hate how some ladies that get pregnant shouldnt have babies when those who cant have babies should. I wish nothing but the best for you. Good luck!

I don't know.. once you find out how..let me know because I tend to have days where I feel the same way.

And people that tell me to "stop trying." yea they can go to hell. I know they have best intentions at heart but I don't know how many times I hear that a day.

just relax. dont stress yourself out so much. the more you stress, the less likely youll get pregnant. it takes time and patience sometimes. just keep it positive.

Quoting amy1234:“ I am sorry. I hate how some ladies that get pregnant shouldnt have babies when those who cant have babies should. I wish nothing but the best for you. Good luck!”

Is it bad that I feel that way?! I feel like I, who deserves a child, can't have one ... It's so frustrating.

first off let me say i'm sorry you're having such a hard time with TTC, and i have no idea what you are going thru, but maybe you could try and not forget that you are TTC, but focuz on your husband more, have fun with your family and live life a little more and maybe luck might turn your way, they say the pot that is watched never boils... well... the egg that is watched never conceives!!! just let loose & have a blast & baby dust!!!

Quoting Love my lil Kimberlynn!!:“ first off let me say i'm sorry you're having such a hard time with TTC, and i have no idea what you are ... [snip!] ... watched never boils... well... the egg that is watched never conceives!!! just let loose & have a blast & baby dust!!!”

That's a great suggestion ... but it's definitely easier said that done.

Quoting [allyson]:“ Is it bad that I feel that way?! I feel like I, who deserves a child, can't have one ... It's so frustrating.”

no its not bad for you to feel that way, you do deserve to have a child, and you have one in heaven, but you deserve nothing less than to have a child on this earth to hold and be with. its hard to hear people say just stop trying and it will happen, it really is, i hated hearing that and around when everyone is pregnant, especially family and close friends, it makes it harder and hurt worse, not that you aren't happy for them, but that you want that happiness for yourself also and thats fair, no one can tell you otherwise, just try not to stress and get too upset about it no matter how hard it is, from someone who knows the pain and heartache of not only losing a child but struggling with TTC....But I guess i really just wanted to say that no matter what you have support in us, and if you just want to vent and yell about it, we are here to support you through it, and you WILL get through this. i wish you nothing but the best of luck, i hope it gets easier for you soon.

I hear you, it's like the minute I lost my previous baby all the stupid woemn I know concieved.
I wouldn't forget about trying to concieve, I would put it in the back of your mind and try not to stress out about it. When you leaste expect it that's when it'll happen.
I am still jealous that moms who in my opinion don't deserve to take on a baby-but than feel guilty for thinking negatively about it. It's not my job to judge. But I fully understand where you're coming from.
Do you chart or anything?

Quoting [allyson]:“ Is it bad that I feel that way?! I feel like I, who deserves a child, can't have one ... It's so frustrating.”

I dont think it is bad to think that. Some peoeple truely shouldnt have babies and some people really should who have a hard time. I feel for those ladies.
I couldnt even begin to think about how you are feeling. I would get frustrated if people kept telling me to stop trying too. Just try to stay positive.

Quoting jan the baby wrangler:“ no its not bad for you to feel that way, you do deserve to have a child, and you have one in heaven, ... [snip!] ... you through it, and you WILL get through this. i wish you nothing but the best of luck, i hope it gets easier for you soon.”

*Sighs* I guess it all goes back to the ole saying, 'When you feel like you've hit rock bottom, things can only go up from here ...', right? I keep hoping and praying that something goes my way ... that I can share in that joy and happiness of expecting. But nope!

I hate my period! I hate all the BFN's. Just gimme a positive already! UGH

Quoting amy1234:“ I dont think it is bad to think that. Some peoeple truely shouldnt have babies and some people really ... [snip!] ... about how you are feeling. I would get frustrated if people kept telling me to stop trying too. Just try to stay positive.”

Thanks for the support.
I have been positive through these trying months ... for the most part.
I just feel very overwhelmed right now. Today is definitely not my day!

Quoting [allyson]:“ *Sighs* I guess it all goes back to the ole saying, 'When you feel like you've hit rock bottom, things ... [snip!] ... in that joy and happiness of expecting. But nope! I hate my period! I hate all the BFN's. Just gimme a positive already! UGH”

Its so hard to find silver lining in the clouds when there are SO many clouds in the sky to look at.i dont want to say "i know how you feel" because i always hated when people told me that after the loss of my daughter and in the pain of TTC, but i can say that you are not alone in your pain, and i say bull crap to the saying after you hit rock bottom you can only climb up, but let me tell you, that climb upis like a slow crawl from the bottom of a the grand canyon, but i can tell you that things will get easier, just take things day by day and enjoy the things you enjoy. for me when i started taking a cake decorating class when me and the hubby were ttc, it really really helped me, becuase i was doing something just for me, and that really helped me feel better about myself and i didnt concentrate so much on the bfns i was getting every month. maybe something like that would be good for you, do something just for you, it will do so much for your morale and make you feel so much better

Quoting jan the baby wrangler:“ Its so hard to find silver lining in the clouds when there are SO many clouds in the sky to look at.i ... [snip!] ... like that would be good for you, do something just for you, it will do so much for your morale and make you feel so much better”

I haven't thought of that ... doing something for me. Everything that he and I do, we do together. I'll have to find something that I can do on my own, and definitely consider taking part in it.

Quoting [allyson]:“ I haven't thought of that ... doing something for me. Everything that he and I do, we do together. I'll have to find something that I can do on my own, and definitely consider taking part in it.”

thats good, something just for you would be good for you, if theres something youve always been interested in and never tried now is the time to try, say youve wanted to take up sewing but never got around to it, go to the local fabric store and sign up for classes, theres so much out there and you'll be able to meet other women who have other things to talk about besides not being pregnant, and the occasional girls night out will help too!