I'm going to fucking kill him

so my hubby has a friend who's horible influince. my husban has restrictions cause he's on probation till jan (stupid reason) not allowed wepons drugs drinking ect this friend has tried get my hubby do coke go on a hunting trip n invited him to his house while his moms not there for a party with drinking n minors. my husban hasn't done enything with him but never tells me cause he says he can handle it doesn't want to worrie me. well finialy I make him pick a childish old hs life with this guy or his family well he chooses his family well I find out when my hubby goes fishing (one night a week) this guy has been going and this guy called him yesterday saying I know ur day off let's hang out. I may sound like a bitch but this guy has done a lot to make me mad like have sex with a minor in my daughters room (i didn't know at the time) my husban swears no wrong just this guy won't leave him alone. I'd love for them to be able be friends but not with the lieing and the past they had n this guy lives at home with mom smokes weed does coke n drinks when he's not working (hes a firefighter) and always trying to get my hubby to partie I know he hasn't but how long till he does? I wanna kill my husban for lieing to me all my trust is gone

omg hon.. ID BE wanting to strangle some1 too.. ssooo sorry you have 2 put up with this.. ID be making it def known..that this GUY cant not come around. esp when hes messed with A MINOR.. in YOUR DAUGHTERS room.. doesnt your husband have common sense.. HES A MOLESTER .. imsure if he thought of that MINOR girl as his daughter.. HE'D be so outraged he wouldnt even think 2x of hanging with this IDIOT.. id drop a nice little birdy to the FF and let them know whats goingon... and the cops.. hes A sick indvid. and needs to b stopped..

that was hard to read.

but all your trust is gone just because this guy goes along on the fishing trips?
its not soo bad, but i understand you not wanting his influence on your husband.
i would straight up talk to the guy, tell him you really dont like him around, your not stupid you know what goes down but if he must be there, to not offer anything like drugs to your husband and that he has more important things to do than party with him. you are the woman you run the shit. whats he gonna do?
your husband already said he chooses you. you should rethink 'losing ALL your trust in him'

true.. just be cause your HUSBANDS friends a OXYMORON.. doesnt mean your husband is 2.. bc if he was.. imsure you wouldnt of married him.
just let both of them KNOW u wont tolerate it..
if htey want to hang together.. finE .. BUT quit the lying and sneeking around crap. and the drugs and minors.. ARE def a no-NO... thats just sick and creepy

yeah I wrote the guy and told him not to talk to my husban that he already told him they couldn't talk anymore (i was there when he told him) but this guy still calls I know they been friends for like 8 years but some prople just don't grow up past hs like this guy and my husban feels obligated to this guy but if this guy was a real friend he wouldn't put my husban in jepordy I mean comeon he can't have even a paintball gun yet invite him on a hunting trip. my husban was in jail till court and he called this guy and he has the nerve to tell my husban to pay his phone bill I'm sorry but you can reject the calls. my husbans in trouble for soemthing happened in hs but just finally went to court which is why he's on probation and this guy is part of the reason it happened. I'm sorry but my kids mean way more to me then a obligation to stay friends with someone who's putting my life and family in jepordy just cause he was a good friend in hs. this guy even ask my husban pay for his food and gas when he's in town cause he visited us when he really was in town to see some girl had extra time and crashed at our place. I use to be friends with him to untill he started telling my hubby I was to controling he needed to leave me (im prego hormones duh) then told my husban I was trying to sleep with him and always flirted with him. umm ew no I don't like white men (sry not racist) my husbans the only white guy I ever been attracted to. for real I'm about to pop have a toddler I run my house have a babyshower I'm doing this weekend my mom got cancer just found out the dr fucked up her breast bone in surgery now needs physical theripy. thw 3 year aniversary of my dads death just passed and did I mention my husbans family is in town and I have to entertain them I don't need this crap now or to not have trust for my husban

you cant tell a man who he can and cant be friends with. its just going to piss him off and wanna be friends with him more. plus..hes grown....you dont do that to someone who is grown. if he choosoes to hang out with this guy, thats his own decision. he nows how you feel about it, and its obviously showing what he thinks of your opinion. So either accept it as it is, or leave.

actuly I found out he use to hang out with him behind my back not any more. also my husban doesn't like the guy half the time but but belives in being loyal to longtime friends. and I'm not stupid enough to leave my husban over this. that would just be dumb and sometimes a grown up needs to be shown that something isn't right for him. if grown ups could just go around doing what they felt was ok cause they are grown and can't be told what to do this world would be hell. what kind of wife would I be if I saw something or in this case someone that could destroy all that he has worked for and the family he has by doing something stupid and didn't point it out to him. in my mind just letting him do whatever or me do whatever we wanted cause we are "grown" would be stupid. I'd love to do whatever I want but I have children a husban and a life I care more about then just running around doing whatever I want cause I'm grown and I hope if I ever did put my wants before my family they slap me silly and show me reality

exactly. we would all love to be able to do what we want..but we dont, because we KNOW we have responsibilities. People only treat you as bad as you LET them treat you (thank you dr phil) if he knows how you feel about it and still does it...that proves it right hthere. being loyal to a friend isnt a reason, its an excuse. If he was GROWN, he wouldnt need to have his wife tell him not to be friends with a guy like that, he would know enough to stay the hell away for the good of his family.

please read I found out they use to hang out without me knowing now after I told him I didn't want them talking he doesn't talk to him but this guy still calls what made me pissed off was finding out I didn't know in the past they where hanging out not that they are doing it now

didnt you say they went fishing together this week?