i dont wanna be alone!

soooo... for the last 9 months.. my bf hasnt done anything.. he doesnt have a full time job.. he does landscaping.. nothing full time.. then when he does get paid..he spends his money on beer.. all he seems to worry about is the next party!!! we have been living together since last year....when i found out i was pregnant...we decided to stay w/ my mama ..so we could save money... well that didnt work out... in august my dr. put me on bedrest .. so i couldnt work anymore..my bf wasnt working.. and my mama said she wasnt gonna pay the bills by herself...... so me and my mama went to live with my sister and he went to live w/ his alcoholic dad who gets drunk/high with his son..how pathetic.....this is my 3rd week not living with him........

yesterday he asked me to come over today ....... but he never calls me or anything. . so i call him tonight about 9.. hes at a party... why even invite me over and not call me the next day??? its like his friends are more important than me... im sittin there crying.. he thinks im being crazy....but i hate for someone to lie to me.

he does nothing for me.. why is so hard to just let it go???? and only worry about me and my soon to be son???? its obvious i have no future with him!! grrrr. it makes me so mad that i cant be alone.. i hate to be a single 1st time mom..but i have a feeling...thats whats gonna happen.. im alone either way..so it shouldnt matter..right??

i know being alone sux i cant stand it.....and yes being a single mom is hard but the way he's acting you'll be doing it alone anyways..... this relationship most likely isnt the best for you and even tho it hurts im sure you'll find someone who will treat you right and will love you  ...

Just think about being a good mamma to your baby... You dont need him to be a good mom...!!! This is kinda harsh, but it sounds like you got the best part of him anyways... Good Luck hun...

i think youll be alot happier without someone put a damper on your life and the way you live it.

aaww mammas.....im sorry my hubby is a military man nd lemme tell u all they do is drink over there and im so excited when i ifinally get a call from him hes either drunk or too tired to talk breaks my heart so i can understand where ur comin from but like the other girls said u dont need anyone to be a good mother....but well all have to agree it does feel sooo much better when u have support from husbands/bfs stick in there love and im sure once that baby comes into this world......he'll change his ways they all turn to big bowls of pudding!!!!!

Quoting h0llie:“ soooo... for the last 9 months.. my bf hasnt done anything.. he doesnt have a full time job.. he does ... [snip!] ... be a single 1st time mom..but i have a feeling...thats whats gonna happen.. im alone either way..so it shouldnt matter..right??”

I am going through exactly what you are going through...except my BD/BF refuses to get a job and has refused since august 07...he lives with his mom and just sleeps all day and sits on the computer and runs around with friends all night long...he spends his mom's money on nothing but alcohol and cigarettes and refuses to come and see me...he never talks to me at all...he doesn't invite me to spend time with him...I live by myself and can't work right now...I invite him over here and have asked him to live with me...he refuses it...he hasn't bought anything for our son at all...now he is going to court on October 20th for a 4th degree DUI and has a possible 90+ days in jail...I already know that he is never going to be around...I know that I am going to do the single mommy thing too and I don't want to...But I am slowly moving on since I never see him or talk to him...He is making it so easy for me to just move on...

I went through almost the same exact thing. I got pregnant with my first when i was 19, was not with the father of my son for many reasons. I was a single parent until my son turned 2. I very little financial help. I had to work to support my son and I. It can be very stressful but the thankful for the people who are there to support you. Don't be afraid to ask for help and take a break when you need it. Trust me, doing it alone your gonna need time to yourself, even if it is just for a couple of hours. My son is 2, im happily married and pregnant again, but still doing it alone because my husband is overseas and won't be back until our little girl is almost 6 months old! Its not the easiest job in the world but definitely the most rewarding. I would tell you to not stress about the small things and enjoy the time you have with your little one coming. Good Luck!