Just an Army wife venting!

I talked to my hubby today and he mentioned that after we get settled back in new york, he'll be leaving for 2 weeks for some sort of school. No biggie, I already knew about this. A few minutes later we were IMing and he said he just checked his email and said that he has to go to Ranger school soon for 62 days and he'll be on lockdown (no phones, internet, I can write but he can't write back) I am so furious with him. A few weeks he had said he wasn't going because 1. I would kill him and 2. We weren't PCSing to a Ranger regiment anyway (I don't understand all thismilitary talk yet) So I was very happy that I was going to finally have my family together after him being gone for 14 months. I just don't get him. I asked him what the point of going to the school was and he said because he can and only 1% of the military can get in blah blah blah. He told me a million times "don't be mad" but how can I not be upset? He doesn't understand how it feels to always be put second (which of course he denies) and then I said that regardless of what I say hes going to go anyways and said "yeah" WTF?! I just wish he would realize that he has a family now. Im just so frustrated. Maybe I'm overreacting and being a hormonal bitch. I realize that this is his job but if he doesn't have to go why would he? Anyways, thanks for letting me vent!!!

Just having that qualification will make him very desirable to companies after he gets out. In turn, that means more money. And it's only 62 days!

more money = I wouldn't care! lol

Quoting SupremeBabyMaker♠:“ Just having that qualification will make him very desirable to companies after he gets out. In turn, that means more money. And it's only 62 days!”

I know but thats 62 days of no communication which is what irritates me. i know 62 days is nothing compared to 14 months but at least I get to talk to him almost everyday. Hes already missed out on my entire pregnancy, and I was looking forward to getting our life back to normal

Quoting army wife 1-87:“ I know but thats 62 days of no communication which is what irritates me. i know 62 days is nothing compared ... [snip!] ... almost everyday. Hes already missed out on my entire pregnancy, and I was looking forward to getting our life back to normal”

Sometimes you have to look in the long run. What's best for you and your child, the family that you guys created, that he's trying to support. Yes, him being able to talk to you is a great thing, but so is this training. I did a LOT of "pointless" training while I was in the Marine Corps, things that my fellow shopmates didn't, and now that we're all out, guess what? I have a better job and make more money. That training is what got me my job, actually, and I make a great salary. All of those people I worked with, when they got out, they have decent jobs now, yeah, but nothing compared to what I have, for doing more than the minimum, like they did. It makes him more well-rounded and more desirable for the company that he'll choose to work for.

And you should be proud. He's right, not a lot of people get selected for Ranger school. It's a huge honor.

Quoting SupremeBabyMaker♠:“ Sometimes you have to look in the long run. What's best for you and your child, the family that you ... [snip!] ... to work for. And you should be proud. He's right, not a lot of people get selected for Ranger school. It's a huge honor.”

Thank you for all your input. I guess I just gotta put my big girl panties on and suck it up!

Quoting army wife 1-87:“ Thank you for all your input. I guess I just gotta put my big girl panties on and suck it up!”

And above all, BE SUPPORTIVE! It's as hard on him as it is on you, but he's not being completely selfish about it. He's doing it for your family's well-being in the long run. So whenever you start feeling sorry for yourself about him not being there for those two months, imagine what he's going through. Ranger school is no joke.

I'd be so proud if my hubby were accepted into something like that! Congratulations, it is a wonderful achievement!
It will be wonderful for you in the end.. It is only temporary. Be proud of him, and support him, he'll need it.



If you start feeling sorry for yourself read this....
http://www.kltv.com/Global/story.asp?S=9116005

Soldier gets home just in time to see triplets birth

He got to come home to see them be born, but he has to go back to Afghani.
She's going to be alone with three babies, and her hubby is in a war zone.

Quoting army wife 1-87:“ I talked to my hubby today and he mentioned that after we get settled back in new york, he'll be leaving ... [snip!] ... bitch. I realize that this is his job but if he doesn't have to go why would he? Anyways, thanks for letting me vent!!!”

Try to stay calm! The military is a bunch of b.s.!!

Quoting Sunkissed Sweetheart:“ I'd be so proud if my hubby were accepted into something like that! Congratulations, it is a wonderful ... [snip!] ... see them be born, but he has to go back to Afghani. She's going to be alone with three babies, and her hubby is in a war zone.”

I don't think it's that she's not proud.. its just rough coming out of a deployment and having him leave again! It's a horrible feeling!

Quoting *Andi*:“ I don't think it's that she's not proud.. its just rough coming out of a deployment and having him leave again! It's a horrible feeling!”

Sunkissed is also a military wife.

Quoting SupremeBabyMaker♠:“ Sunkissed is also a military wife.”

Oh ok sorry I didn't know that...

ranger school is a big deal an iv knownof wives talkn to thier hubbys its all about being sneaky lol..be proud they only pick selected few to go to the school an not all of the graudate from it eitehr its really hard i hear! it does suck that was gone an now hes gone again but its the army for you they dont give a shit about the wifes an the kids they only care bout their soldiers! we are second to the army our husbands try as hard as possible to make us first but with the army making them leave an do all this shit its hard for them as well

Quoting *Andi*:“ I don't think it's that she's not proud.. its just rough coming out of a deployment and having him leave again! It's a horrible feeling!”

It was more of a congrats on the good news.

Quoting Sunkissed Sweetheart:“ It was more of a congrats on the good news.”

I know I wasn't trying to say it mean towards you.. Sorry if it came off that way.. I was more just saying I can see why she is upset