Would you say something?

OK this post will probably make me out to be some kind of unappreciative bitch but Im really hurt and upset by this however stupid its gonna sound. My Mum has decided she would like to buy our pushchair for the baby and I agreed to this I said if she wants to buy ıt then thats fine. I assumed that she would wait for me to choose it myself and tell her the one I like blah blah blah but the other night I recieved a text message saying 'oh your pushchair is lovley' I was really confused and I rang her up and asked her and she said that her and my Dad had gone out and brought my pushchair....  Now alot of people would have appreciated this but I wanted to scream at her because she didnt even ask me what sort of pushchair I wanted and didnt wait for me to come home..I would have been quiet happy letting her choose one with me. BUT NO...she always has to do this she is always trying to prove herself to the neighbours trying to be the best granny on the street why cant she think about what I might of wanted? I really wanna say something to her because she startıng to get on my nerves as each time I talk to her she talks about what she has brought the baby..never about the birth which alot more important but ıts always about material with her..should I say something or should I just keep my mouth shut? Because at the end of the day I feel she ıs taking over already and helpıng out and taking over are 2 different things...xx thanks for readıng xx

Quoting ***Yummy**Mummy***:“ OK this post will probably make me out to be some kind of unappreciative bitch but Im really hurt and ... [snip!] ... she ıs taking over already and helpıng out and taking over are 2 different things...xx thanks for readıng xx”

is it your mom or MIL?

Did you see what she brought?

Quoting ***Yummy**Mummy***:“ OK this post will probably make me out to be some kind of unappreciative bitch but Im really hurt and ... [snip!] ... she ıs taking over already and helpıng out and taking over are 2 different things...xx thanks for readıng xx”

I had the same problem with my mom. Only it was overa crib, she called me told me to choose 3 that i like, and before I told her my choices she called back and told me she had already bought one. I was pissed, and i expressed it to her...

No its my mum.....my MIL is fantastic. I got the point last night I just cried because my Mum doesnt speak to my husband for no reason. He hasnt even done anything to her. I just cried because she does everything to piss me off.
Shes brought loads of clothes and bottles and well everythıng and yes I do appreciate what she is doing but going out and buying the pushchair took it too far. Thats something I wanted to chose considering Im the one pushing it around and not her...anyone would think she is having the baby and not me...arghhh she makes me so mad xx

I personaly think you're being selfish. If your mother is buying it as a gift to you, you should just be greatful and take what you get. Smile and thank her. Sure I'll agree that it's nice to have the things you want, and the things you like. But if its a gift I really don't think you should be so angry about it. But, that's just my opinion.

it sounds like youre scared to tell her thats why i asked if it was your MIL.its your mom!tell her how u feel.

Well if it's upsetting you then yes, you should sit her down and talk to her about it.
If you don't get your feelings out and make sure she understands then you're going to be feeling very overwhelmed and frustratedwhen it's time to give birth and afterwards if you are feeling like she is trying to take over.

Quoting Kimberlea:“ I personaly think you're being selfish. If your mother is buying it as a gift to you, you should just ... [snip!] ... and the things you like. But if its a gift I really don't think you should be so angry about it. But, that's just my opinion.”

I dissagree totally. She said she appreciapted her moms help but when someone is doing these things just to prove how good of a person they are thats just wrong. It sounds like to me she is not taking daughters feelings into consideration and just doing things to prove they are good at buying material things. Id tell her thank you but BACK OFF

I mean lıke I said I do appreciate her buying the pushchair but its the fact she never asked me what sot of pushchair I liked which pisses me off x

Just accept it and be happy. We don't always choose our gifts. If you truly don't like it- sell it and get a different one. My mom bought me a crib with my last baby- I didn't chose it. And- I had twins and she knew I wanted matching ones so I would have to buy the other one. I was just glad she bought one.

my MIL was like that with my first. She bought loads and loads of stuff. And then paraded it around "look what i did out of the goodness of my heart" Yeah i appreciated but half the stuff wasnt needed. Never was I asked what was NEEDED or what I wanted. You have every right to be pissed and you should sit her down and have an honest conversation with her about boundaries and needs vresus wants.

IDK - I think it depends on the details of the situation.. With my firstborn my Mom bought me loads of stuff, to include the stroller - which she picked out..

But the husband and I weren't in the best of financial situations so I really had no room to complain about a free, good quality stroller..

This time around though, knowing that we could amply afford baby stuff, my Mom was much more inquisitive on exactly what I wanted..

Those were my situations anyway but I completely understand either way being a little disappointed that you didn't get any input.. Maybe it should have been talked about more beforehand but I'm pretty sure your Mom is just super excited and thinks everything babyish is cute and that you will too..

I'd wait to see what she picked out though before saying anything - Who knows? She may have really good taste in strollers?

it seems to me like its not really about the chair...even if its pretty your still upset that she is trying to "take over", and I understand that. Im sure its a nice one but thats not the point Im sure.

what the hell is a pushchair?

are you talking about a stroller?

Yeah sorry ıts a stroller haha English call it a pushchair... xx