petrified to have a c-section

Ok...This may sound stupid to some but I found out the other day that I have marginal previa and they want to give me a c-section. I had my son naturally and truly do not want to do it any other way. I have come to the realization that I don't have a choice but it is scaring me so much. I dont think I am afraid of actually having the procedure, I think I am more scared of the recovery time. I already have a very active 2-year-old and it scares me that I will not be able to do much with him. Any advice would be greatly appreciated. I just need someone to put my mind at ease. My doc tells me it is not as bad as I think but he is not the one being cut open. 

My sister had her second as an emergency C-section and got out of the hospital in two days. I reccomend staying in a little longer so you have a little time to rest and heal a little more but thats just me. Anyways, she had a four year old at the time and she managed fine. Are you planning on breastfeeding?

oh momma, you will get thru it. I , too was so scared. It is really not that bad. It's quick, over and done with. Yes, recovery time does take a little longer, but it is not terrible. You will be able to get thru it. Try to get as much done around the house before you go in. Make meals and freeze them, get caught up on laundry and other housework. Ask a friend to come over after you have been home a few days to run the vacumn and help out for an hour or two. Your two year old can run and grab you daipers or a change of clothes for the baby. Get stuff set up in a laundry basket and keep it down at his level. Breastfeeding makes life easier once you get comfortable doing it. No late nite trips to the kitchen, just feed the baby in your room , and put him in his bassinett next to your bed. Your scared cause it's new, different. But it will work out and baby will be healthy!

I am going to try and breastfeed but my doc told me it is going to be difficult to breastfeed becuase I will be so sore. I thik he is just trying to prepare me for the worst. Thanks for the advice. My mom will be here to help too but I have an issue with letting someone do everythin for me. I am a little weird I guess.

Quoting richiesgirl60638:“ I am going to try and breastfeed but my doc told me it is going to be difficult to breastfeed becuase ... [snip!] ... My mom will be here to help too but I have an issue with letting someone do everythin for me. I am a little weird I guess.”

Oh I dont beleive that because you just have the baby resting on a pillow...the doc. sounds like an idiot and how the hell would he really know anyway... talk to mummas that have been through it... I have had 3 and generally get out day2 or 3... and I had a 4 year old with no 2 and a 2 year old and 6 year old after number 3... It really isnt too bad..I mean its no trip to disneyland but what birth is...you will be great just have confidence

Holly--

Trust me I dont blame you. Since I found out I have not really slept. That and I was really scared of the marginal previa thing. I made the mistake of looking it up on the internet and reading all about and freaked myself out. I go back to see today if it moved and if it did then he will let me labor but if not he is going to schedule me already. I guess I have to look on the bright side that the baby is healthy and they are only trying to protect me. He said if they let me labor I could start hemorrhagin and have to have a blood transfusion and I dont want that.