SO's internet habits (help)

Ok, so I know there's a lot of posts about this kind of thing all over the place, but I have to get a fresh start. So my fiance has been looking at porn for a few months now. It didn't bother me that much until I got to looking at the history and apparently he's not only been lookin at porn sites, but actually SEARCHING for skanks on myspace within a 20 mi radius of where we live and looking at their almost nude pics. (totally nude isn't allowed on there) A couple of the people he was looking at are actually ON his friends list! It wouldn't be so bad if I knew he would never meet these girls, but the fact that they live so close, he's gone for most of the day "working on a truck at his dad's" from 10 am to 8 pm, and doesn't even smell like a car at all (which he does when he comes home from work at AutoZone)!!! This is just really starting to piss me off to no extent! He's always telling me that looking at other guys is cheating, so wouldn't this be cheating too? And he tells me all the time that I'm the only one he looks at, which is BS. And I know he gets himself off, cuz the Astroglide always ends up right next to the computer and there's a new pile of TP in the trash next to it. I just don't know what to do...

Personally, that would piss me off to the extreme.  Porn is one thing, 20 miles radius is toooootally different!

I think he crossed the line by adding them to his friends list. He could drive to meet them if they are close. Have you checked his messages? I am sorry girly that sucks! I would ask him about it and tell him how much it bothers you. Ask him he how he would feel if you were doing the same thing.

I was going to say who cares, its just porn and skanks on myspace. But since they are so close. I would flip out. I don't know what advice to give. Because I would just react, no thinking.

I would also go nuts and add all the hot guys in the area to my myspace.

Quoting ♡ ♥ MM:“ Personally, that would piss me off to the extreme. Porn is one thing, 20 miles radius is toooootally different!”

That's what I was thinking... and the fact that he's gone almost all day every day doesn't help. I was going to block certain sites on here, but I can't block it on his account   I took all the sites he looked at this morning with me 3 feet away in bed asleep, and put them up on seperate pages. I'm just going to let him find them when he gets home. Whenever that may be...

Quoting Ashley (5weekstilbaby):“ Ok, so I know there's a lot of posts about this kind of thing all over the place, but I have to get a ... [snip!] ... always ends up right next to the computer and there's a new pile of TP in the trash next to it. I just don't know what to do...”

girl you better follow his ass around! lkeave and go past his dads and see if he's working on that truck. That is WAAAAY shady..... You have a baby coming soon... no no no... so wrong.... and YES it most def. is cheating just looking at other girls in a lustful way... (if they're half naked esp!) No way you should or need to be putting up with that! absolutely not! Searchingfor, looking at, having them on his friends list on ms.... you need to do a little detective work... call me crazy, but thats exactly what id do.. thats just wrong

There is no reason for you man to be searching for women on myspace.
Looking at porn is fine those are not real women that you can actually go meet up with in your area. It's a fantasy thing.

I would definatly confront him. If he's searching for women in your area, he either has done something, or is planning on doing something

Well my boyfriend Ive only caught once, looking at porn, and admitted to wackin off, now I didn't really think anything of it until I found out that I was in the shower & he knows that I'm willing at anytime. I felt so betrayed. Like I wasn't good enough. & why would he have to look at someone else while I was right there and play w/ himself instead of w/ me?   Still upsets me to this day.

Quoting Monica♥sMcKenzie:“ I think he crossed the line by adding them to his friends list. He could drive to meet them if they are ... [snip!] ... I would ask him about it and tell him how much it bothers you. Ask him he how he would feel if you were doing the same thing.”

They were already on his friends list... which makes me wonder if somethings been going on, and yea, i did look at his messages on there. Nothing to those girls at all... I kinda emailed his password to his email and got it from there since he's always logged into his msn email  

There is nothing wrong with getting off by yourself. nothing

But searching for rl women is wrong.

Quoting Ashley (5weekstilbaby):“ That's what I was thinking... and the fact that he's gone almost all day every day doesn't help. I was ... [snip!] ... bed asleep, and put them up on seperate pages. I'm just going to let him find them when he gets home. Whenever that may be...”

I wouldnt block any sites... youre just saving his ass bc he can use a computer somewhere else.... and you will never find out.

Quoting Krystle 1st Time Mommy:“ Well my boyfriend Ive only caught once, looking at porn, and admitted to wackin off, now I didn't really ... [snip!] ... he have to look at someone else while I was right there and play w/ himself instead of w/ me?   Still upsets me to this day.”

That is completely different than searching for REAL women in his area.
Also men jerk off, there is nothing wrong with it.
It has nothing to do with you, they ALL do it. If their bored, frustrated, angry, depressed, happy, stressed, whatever. They've all done it sense they were younger and it's a habit.
You cant tell them not to. I'd be pissed off if my finace told me i couldn't masterbate.

Quoting Ashley (5weekstilbaby):“ They were already on his friends list... which makes me wonder if somethings been going on, and yea, ... [snip!] ... girls at all... I kinda emailed his password to his email and got it from there since he's always logged into his msn email  ”

I have done that before. Since there is no trace of him speaking to them, I wouldn't be too worried about him cheating. But I would still say something and be upset.

Quoting Hannah's mommy :“ I wouldnt block any sites... youre just saving his ass bc he can use a computer somewhere else.... and you will never find out.”

true. i was only going to do it so he could see that i knew about it. i think posting them all on the desktop will scare the crap out of him enough.