i need to vent about my boyfriends mother.

my boyfriend of 5 years purposed to me,and of course i said yes,and i thought everything would just be wonderful from here on...OH NO..hes over barring mother called me and i said."you will not marry my son" she told me that im using him,because he has a trust fund....ha i beg to differ... i graduated HS when i was 16 and went straight to college and i know have my degree in public relations and i work for an amazing PR firm...so i have my own money..so for her to say that i cant marry her son,or have child from him makes me so disgusted...honsetly i think its because im bapstist and hes jewish. she has been a problem since day one.
and to make things worse my boyfriend was like well "she my mom and i want to respect her" WTF does that mean..grrrr

Tell him to grow up, his mommy can't tell him what to do!.I hate when parents get in the middle of things, like, stay out of it, it's not your buisness to be in the middle! She should just be happy that he found someone, no matter what religion you are.

wow... so does that mean he won't marry you now because of her?

My fiance's mom never said anything to me directly, but I know she didn't like me at the beginning. Now she's great, even helping plan my baby shower. Hopefully yours will come around!

Quoting .:Last Regrets:.:“ wow... so does that mean he won't marry you now because of her?”

who knows...im sure he will still marry me..lol if he backs out because of his mommy i will cut of his manhood

How old is your bf? He can respect her without her being up in your business. He is living his own life now with you, she'll get use to it eventually. I have the same problem. My husbands mother doesn't care for me, he is an only child, and didn't want us to get married and was so not excited when we told her I am prego again. She doesn't care for my mother either which makes things difficult for my husband and I, but lately I just shrug it off cause this is our life, not hers.

Quoting Laura Jane *:“ Tell him to grow up, his mommy can't tell him what to do!.I hate when parents get in the middle of things, ... [snip!] ... it's not your buisness to be in the middle! She should just be happy that he found someone, no matter what religion you are.”

   

sHE SHOULD JUST BE HAPPY THAT SOMEONE LOVES HER SON THAT MUCH TO SAY YES TO MARRYING HIM YOU KNOW. MY MOM DIDN'T LIKE MY HUSBAND IN THE BEGINNING WHEN WE FIRST STARTED DATING AND GUESS WHAT I MARRIED HIM ANYWAY BECAUSE HE MAKES ME HAPPY AND THATS ALL THAT MATTERS.

So does that mean he is backing out on the proposal? I understanding wanting to respect our mothers and all.He has to live his own life. His mother cant live his life for him

Quoting Courtney + 3 boys:“ How old is your bf? He can respect her without her being up in your business. He is living his own life ... [snip!] ... either which makes things difficult for my husband and I, but lately I just shrug it off cause this is our life, not hers.”

hes 21,and im just like ugh grow up...you have not even lived with her for 7 years....

Quoting Super~Mommy:“ So does that mean he is backing out on the proposal? I understanding wanting to respect our mothers and all.He has to live his own life. His mother cant live his life for him”

no i dont think he will

Well stop trying to have his baby till he Marries you. If he doesn't move on. If his family don't like you and he won't stand up and be your man then get over him. I bet you can find a man that will love you. And a man who's family will exept you with open arms.

my MIL has the same thing going on...but we said F*ck her and went on. She is only nice to me now becuase I gave birth to her grandson. But before, it was hell on earth. If he loves you, he wont care what his mother thinks. He needs to talk to her and let her know he is a Big Boy and he can mkae his own choices in life. So what if you two are different religions...my husband is pentacostal, and I am methodist...if you can make it work, then let it. Dont worry about her. Very few mommas in here have great in-laws...most of them are the same way you are describing!!!~!

If you have been living together for years and you've been trying to have a baby for over a year, i doubt anything his mother says now will change anything. Having a baby is a FAR greater committment than getting married. You can always get a divorce, but you will be responsible for your child until the day you die. If this is stressing you out, then having a baby might cause alot more stress/problems between you.

Does his mom know you have a well paid job, and that you are independent and paying your own way? seems abit strange she would have an issue with money if you are financially secure and you've been together for years  

oh yes.see we want to have a baby first....we are a very nontraditional couple