is it wrong?

to be jealous of my friend?

she just had her baby last week and i feel so horrible.

im glad she had her and shes a cute little thing and i wish nothing but the best for them... but...

my friend is young... and still way too inmature.

and i feel like nothing should have been wrong with my baby and i should still be pregnant bc im READY to be a mom.

anyone feel that way?

i dont really know how to describe it..

i lost my pregnancy about 2 weeks ago and we talked about wearing condoms till we were ready to try again... and he hasnt made a point in wearing them... and neither have i.

bleh.  

Quoting krystalbroome:“ to be jealous of my friend? she just had her baby last week and i feel so horrible. im glad she ... [snip!] ... wearing condoms till we were ready to try again... and he hasnt made a point in wearing them... and neither have i. bleh.  ”

You shouldn't be having sex so soon after a miscarriage for risk of infection.

sweetie youre very young too, and theres a reason for everything. I know it hurts just give yourself time to heal. and it is absolutely alright for you to feel jealous, but try to stay positive. and the infection thing is true btw, have you seen a doctor since it happened? cause they should tell you when its ok to have sex again.

what ur feeling is normal expecially since ur loss was so recent.when my daughter passed away i hated being around pregnant people and newborn babies.i had alot of resentment and didnt see why my baby couldnt have been ok.eventually it gets to where u dont mind it so much.u just have to get thru the roughest time.now i'm pregnant again and very happy yet at the same time nervous,i hope the best for u and when u guys r ready to try again good luck with everything

Quoting SummerMama333:“ sweetie youre very young too, and theres a reason for everything. I know it hurts just give yourself ... [snip!] ... thing is true btw, have you seen a doctor since it happened? cause they should tell you when its ok to have sex again.”

i know, and thanks for your replies.
i saw him today for a checkup to make sure everything was alright.

ok, i looked it up. apparently its 2-3 weeks or when you stop bleeding/spotting for intercourse.
and the american med association recommends waiting 1-3 memstrual cycles before ttc again. oh and also, according to them, it is very rare for a woman to ever have more than one blighted ovum miscarriage.

Quoting krystalbroome:“ i know, and thanks for your replies. i saw him today for a checkup to make sure everything was alright.”

oh ok good. youre on top of things then  . and i just realized i never said how sorry i am for your loss. i hope next time everything works out great, as i'm sure it will  

Quoting SummerMama333:“ ok, i looked it up. apparently its 2-3 weeks or when you stop bleeding/spotting for intercourse. and ... [snip!] ... ttc again. oh and also, according to them, it is very rare for a woman to ever have more than one blighted ovum miscarriage.”

yea, we started haveing sex after i got done bleeding, i refused when i was bleeding.
we arent REALLY trying right now.. i really dont know... im confused as far as that... i think we should wait and on the other hand i want to get pregnant again.. but i kow your supposed to wait, like you said, 2-3 cycles.

Quoting SummerMama333:“ oh ok good. youre on top of things then  . and i just realized i never said how sorry i am for your loss. i hope next time everything works out great, as i'm sure it will  ”

thanks, im just really worried.
my mom had 7 blighted ovums before she had me and she had to go to a fertility clinic... i dont know if its in our genes or her and my dads chromosomes didnt agree or what. and after she had me she was told she couldnt have anymore.. and she got pregnant with my brother.. and almost miscarried.. then after him they told her no more, and she had 2 more anyways....

You are too young to be making babies anyways. I understand you feel sad and I am sure you are more mature than her. Just because you feel you are READY for a baby, I promise you that you are not. Nobody is ever ready, it is the most unbelievable thing that I can't even explain. Just because you are mature doesn't mean you have to have a baby either! I am in nursing school, and I am half way done and it is soooo hard having Sienna and trying to get it all done. Don't make plans for the future because they will NEVER go as you wanted.

Quoting JAGER MEISTER.:“ You are too young to be making babies anyways. I understand you feel sad and I am sure you are more mature ... [snip!] ... hard having Sienna and trying to get it all done. Don't make plans for the future because they will NEVER go as you wanted.”

i also plan to go to nursing school.
and yes i have thought of the problems it will cause with having a baby and having to go to school full time... but i tel myself if it happens.. it happens.. and if it doesnt .. it doesnt.

Quoting krystalbroome:“ i also plan to go to nursing school. and yes i have thought of the problems it will cause with having ... [snip!] ... a baby and having to go to school full time... but i tel myself if it happens.. it happens.. and if it doesnt .. it doesnt.”

But why make you life harder, and your babies life harder when you are not ready to give them your undivided attention?? School takes up sooo much time, and work on top of that, your baby needs you and having one definately delays your plans.

* I read your profile, that's why I told you about my nursing school experience...(:

Quoting JAGER MEISTER.:“ But why make you life harder, and your babies life harder when you are not ready to give them your ... [snip!] ... one definately delays your plans. * I read your profile, that's why I told you about my nursing school experience...(:”

thank you ^_^

Quoting krystalbroome:“ thank you ^_^”

Are you going to answer my question though??

Darling Im in the same boat, my friends are all popping up preggo and having babies....its sad...I was one of them until my mc last month. You should wait a couple more weeks before trying again though, because there is a risk for infection. You should just be happy for them, and steal their babies whenever possible   Im a chronic baby stealer, I have like 4 "fantasy children" that are my friend's but they let me hold them and feed them and stuff because they understand what Im going through....and it helps.