Adoption wait times

So, I'm getting pretty sick of seeing posts on this forum from women complaining about women who get abortions when so many families would give anything to have a child of their own, and why don't they just give those babies to those families?

Well, MY question is why don't those families adopt children in foster care who need families NOW - there are over 500,000 children in foster care at the moment, many of them are waiting for adoption:

http://www.acf.hhs.gov/programs/cb/stats_research/afcars/waiting2005.htm
http://www.acf.hhs.gov/programs/cb/stats_research/afcars/trends.htm


That's a lot of foster kids waiting to be adopted every year.

Why are only healthy, Caucasian babies in demand for adoption? Shouldn't families who just want a kid more than anything be happy with anyone to love?

http://www.adoptionservices.org/adoption/adoption_waiting_period.htm

Your total waiting period to adopt a child depends upon many factors including whether you proceed with a domestic or international adoption.

The total waiting period in a domestic child adoption depends on several factors including the age, health, cultural heritage, race, and nationality of the child. It also depends on your child adoption budget, whether you find the child yourself, work with a private agency or attorney, or adopt through a state sponsored child adoption program.

Typically, the placement of a child from a state's foster care program or the placement of a special needs or other "hard-to-place" child can be done within a matter of a few months. The adoption of a healthy newborn will take longer.

The wait with a private child adoption agency placement can depend on whether the agency uses a fixed waiting list or a pooling program. An agency using a fixed waiting list may be able to give you a good idea of the wait while a pooling program, which allows the birth parents to select a family from a pool of families, can only give you an estimate based on averages. In general, waiting periods for a fixed list and a pooling program can vary from about 4-6 months up to several years.

Our Agency's (Adoption Services) domestic child adoption program uses a fixed waiting list and not a pooling program. As soon as registration materials are received you are placed on our fixed waiting list. By using the fixed waiting on a "first-come, first served" basis, we are able to provide you with a realistic placement waiting time.

Our current waiting time for the placement of a healthy US-born Caucasian infant is approximately 6 to 24 months. For a healthy US-born Black or bi-racial (Caucasian/African-American) infant the wait is approximately 2 to 6 months.

Maybe I'm just a jerk who doesn't get it, because I've never longed for a baby and haven't been able to have one the way some of these families do, but I really don't think so. I think these families that want a child more than anything, but only one who is a perfect white child and who cares about all the other children who need love are the ones who need new priorities - along with the women who lambast women who have abortions because these families are busy waiting for their healthy white babies instead of choosing one from foster care.

C.

I don't understand why a lot of people go to different countries and adopt kids, when there are so many that need help over here. Off the subject, sorry! Just needed to get that off my chest.

I guess this could be said for anyone.

Any one of us mothers on this site giving birth to our own new babies when there a a half million kids who need homes?

No?

maybe they want whit children so they dont question why theyre a different color idk but i think the waiting period should be somewhere around 3 months.

my husband and i raised foster kids for 4 years and we wanted to keep some of them but the vast majority of them had more problems than we could ever deal with we almost adopted a sibling group of 4 until i got pregnant with ally and started having problems...we have a major need for just foster parents here in our county added to the adoptive families that are needed..

Thank you so much for posting this. 

yep my mom works for dcfs and there are soo many children in foster care who need a stable home..its sad and you get help financially when you take in foster children

Quoting Runaway Slave:“ I guess this could be said for anyone. Any one of us mothers on this site giving birth to our own new babies when there a a half million kids who need homes? No?”

Yes, this is true as well.

Women on this forum generally don't give us hell for that choice, though, which was the main impetus for this thread.

C.

*Claps* Thank you for this post. Very Informantional!

Quoting lindseyglover:“ my husband and i raised foster kids for 4 years and we wanted to keep some of them but the vast majority ... [snip!] ... problems...we have a major need for just foster parents here in our county added to the adoptive families that are needed..”

Yes, I should have though to mention foster families as well. Thank you.

C.

Quoting God:“ So, I'm getting pretty sick of seeing posts on this forum from women complaining about women who get ... [snip!] ... abortions because these families are busy waiting for their healthy white babies instead of choosing one from foster care. C.”

RIGHT ON!

Me and DH plan on adopting (from America) one day when we get older.  

Quoting God:“ So, I'm getting pretty sick of seeing posts on this forum from women complaining about women who get ... [snip!] ... abortions because these families are busy waiting for their healthy white babies instead of choosing one from foster care. C.”

Adoptions can cost alot of money. Also some people are picky with the kids they want sadly, they want babies- not older kids.

Quoting God:“ Yes, this is true as well. Women on this forum generally don't give us hell for that choice, though, which was the main impetus for this thread. C.”

I don't get it then.

Double standard I guess.

Why is it ok for us to reproduce thousands of new babies each year...but not ok for a couple who can't have children to want a newborn. Why should they have to settle because they have a physical defect that doesn't allow them to reproduce.

They shouldn't and they shouldn't be condemned for it.

DH and I have decided that if we want a 3rd baby, we will adopt a girl from China.

If we could get a girl from the States with the guarantee that the birth mom won't ever try to contact her or take her back, we'd do that, but when my mom tried to adopt she was told in-country adoptions have that risk attached to them...

And I know China has plenty of little girls who need homes. And I say we'd only get a girl b/c hubby's family has a crap ton of boys, and I want a little girl someday, no matter if she's mine biologically or not, I will get a daughter, LOL.