Godparent's?

So my boyfriend that lives across the country just texted me and TOLD me that his best friend that I have never met and that I know nothing about except he smokes weed and drinks all the timeis going to be our babys "godfather". Isn't that supposed to be like a mutual decision, like who the god parents would be... I mean I'm not even that religious at all, and he is going to tell me who the person is?? He says I'm supposed to choose the god mother and he's supposed to choose the godfather... is that normal? I mean I honestly dont think I want her to have godparent's...

You should pick Godparents together if you're going have them and definitely not some alcoholic pothead

Don't sweat it... The chances he would ever end up with custody are slim to none.

If it makes your boyfriend happy, I'd just suck it up. One of your parents or one of your boyfriends parents would probably be given custody if anything happened to both of you.

well its supposed to be a mutual decision
and a godparent is like a second mom and second dad to the kid so it has to be someone that no matter will always be there for the child...

Quoting .Uhh.lexX.uH.:“ So my boyfriend that lives across the country just texted me and TOLD me that his best friend that I ... [snip!] ... and he's supposed to choose the godfather... is that normal? I mean I honestly dont think I want her to have godparent's...”

Honestly, I don't know if it is anything more than a title. DH and I are not doing the whole godparent thing. We're making a will that states exactly what should happen to our child/children should anything happen to us. If it really bothers you though you should probably talk to him calmly when it is just the two of you (and definitely not in front of this new "godfather"). Good luck!!!

Quoting LESBIAN MOMMY:“ well its supposed to be a mutual decision and a godparent is like a second mom and second dad to the kid so it has to be someone that no matter will always be there for the child...”

So, probably shouldn't make my pets godparents, huh? Kidding!!!!

shit sum pets are most responsible and smarter then sum adults i know...

Naming a person a godparent gives them absolutely no legal rights. So don't sweat it. If your boyfriend wants to name this guy the "godfather" I wouldn't fight it. You can name your own too.

If something were to happen to both of you, custody of the child would be determined by your will. If you don't have a will, the state decides who gets your child.

I highly recommend having a will. They are not expensive to have drawn up.

The grandparents would probably get your baby if anything was to happen. I wouldn't worry to much. I just find the whole Godparent thing a whole title thing. If my ex & I was to be laying in our death beds we'll probably say that they'll go to my mother, because we'd be damn if my ex's best friend would take care of our children. He smokes, drinks, & is really immature, but that's my ex's best friend & that's who he chose for the boys godfather.

I just can't believe he would choose someone without me and not even tell me about it until 7 day's before i have the baby, And it's someone that I have never met... And honestly If wedid choose god parent's for her I would want it to be some one older and more responsible then me and him are, not some one younger and,, well i dont know, i dont want to talk bad about the guy but honestly i dont want the baby to think all the things he does are ok.

yea i got a will since my kids have different god parents i dont want them being seperated if anything happens to me or dad so they go to my mom..
she raised 12 of us my 4 wnt kill her but they might tie her up

God parents have a very important role if you are religious, but if you aren't, why even have them...I think boys like it cuz of the movie...seriously, they are lame hehe.
THe purpose of God parents is for your child to have another set of religious role models, who will promise to help raise your child in the faith you have chossen. They are also accepting the role of religious education if something should happen to you or your partner. My husband and I are very religous, so this was an important decision for us, if you are not then it is simply a name.....as far as gardianship goes....make a will, get it noterised and inform your family of your wishes, and do it soon, I am sure nothing bad will happen, but better safe then sorry!
Good luck!