I LOST MY BABY :(

oh my gosh i didnt think i would be able to do this! it's such a long story!!!!!! can u believe i was 4 days away from being 6 months pregnant and lost my child? its still very hard to talk about and there are several possibilities to why this could've happened i was in the hospital 4 a week going through so much!!!!!!!i got to hold her and everything but she passed shortly after but i just want to let you guys no that if you start experiencing anything thats not normal talk to your doctor its better to know then to be sorry....take care of yourself! sometimes i find myspef blaming me for what happened but then again i dont no what caused her to be born born so early have anybody else gone throuugh this?

I lost a baby at about four months I was never really given an explanation and I was seventeen at the time. It happened at home but the baby came out when I had dull cramping and I was horrified. I'm sorry for your loss, but sometimes there is nothing you can do.

OMG........ SORRY TO HEAR THAT WAS THIS YOUR FIRST BABY.. DID THEY TELL WHAT CAUSE IT..........  

i am so sorry for your loss   speaking to you as someone who has miscarried before and a nurse,it is absolutely not your fault...sometimes these things just happen...i know that nothing i say is going to heal your pain, but everything is going to be alright...  

THE STORY

when i was 18 weeks pregnant i went in for an ultrasound to see the sex of the baby and the sonagrapher told the doctor it looked like i had a short cervix so 4 days later the doctor wanted to see me to measure my cervix she said it was normal and everything looked fine i was worried though becuz it was a 3 centimeters and i think its suppose to be like 4... i start crying and my doctor calmed me down and she was like everything is fine its okay if your cervix is a centimeter short it really looks like your going to be okay so after she told me that i felt a lot better before i left she told me if i start experiencing cramping,pressure on my lower stomach,discharge, or bleeding to make an appointment to see her

I was 22 weeks pregnant going on 23 and i was just laying down to go to sleep my stomach start hurting so i start sitting up to ease the pain a little bit i never had cramps b4 when i was on my period so this was all new to me i start thinking something was wrong with me but i then i thought i was over reacting because my stomach was only hurting i thought it would go away. In the morning i told my mom i was feeling pressure on my lower stomach so she and i both called the hospital to make appointments

It took the advice nurse hours to return my call when i explained to her that i was having cramps and seeing discharge she told me to drink a lot of water because it sounded like i was dehydrated myself! she also toold me to get off my feet! i was like my doctor told me to make an appointment if anything like this happpend because of my cervix problem and she was like well call me 2morrow and lemme no if your still feeling the same way after you drink a lot of water   becuase its normal for women th experience early contractions a couple hours after drinking a lot of water and staying off my feet i went 2 the bathroom and noticed i was bleeding my sister rushed me to the hospital( its a hospital right by my house) not the one i normally go to though

they took a urine sample and told me to wipe myself to see how bad i was bleeding they also listened to my babys heart beat....after they looked at my urine they could tell that i had a UTI which is a bladder infection so they said thhat explained why i was having contrctions, bleeding, and discharge. now if they would've did an ultrasound they wouldve seen the REAL problem!!!! the next day i called the nurse at my hospital to tell her what had happened she told me i had to see another doctor just to examine me to make everything was okay and to get more medicine for my uti
thats when they did a ultra sound and seen that my cervix had OPENED and i could deliver i had to be rushed to the emergrncy and when i got to the hospital i found out my water bag was ruptured

I had 2 options i could stick in there for my baby and wait to see what happened or they could take her out. The only thing is i had just turned 23 weeks! and they told me chances were real low that she would survive and even if she would survive she would have a lot of medical problems... they knew i would deliver soon because i was already dialating they also told me since my water bag was leaking i could get infected but i still chose to stick in there 4 her i still had HOPE .... because the longer she stayed in there ,she would have better chances of survival rate

I was going through so much pain for days!!!! i could tell the doctors wanted me to let them do what they had to do but i had faith i couldnt just give up the fight for my daughter i had to let nature take its place   after going through all that i became infected and they told me that i had to deliver because me and the baby was in harm because of the infection.... i just have so many questions and i really want to know why this happened and what caused my cervix to open ??????she was so tiny and beautiful she only weighed 1 pound and 3.6 ounces

this was my first baby and im 18 yrs old

i myself have never had a miscarriage.. i don't know what to say to you... i can only imagine the pain that you're in. I read your story and I am still crying...when i got pregnant the second time around i didn't feel a bond between me and the baby... i'm only 18 wks but when i was pregnant with my first there was bond right away... anyways... the past few months i couldn't help but think that i didn't want the baby, and i wouldn't care if i had a miscarriage (becuase i'm at a high risk for having one) but after reading your story....i don't know how i'd handle it if i did miscarry... i just looked down at my stomach and appologized to the baby and i know you probably don't care, but your story helped me. I felt a bond instantly when i touched my stomach a minute ago...i know you've got to be going thru a lot of pain right now. i'm very sorry... but i wanted to say thank you for sharing it with me.... so thank you....very much. and i hope you're ok. i'm so sorry for your loss...  

So sorry for your loss...your story touched me! i dont know how i would handle that. your very strong just hang in there. i go everyday blessed to make it another day because of all the stories i hear about women losing their babies. thanks for sharing and good luck.
god bless,

Sorry for your loss...i cant imagine how hard that must be. Im not sure what causes the cervix to shorten so early but when i was 28 weeks i found out mine was only 2.6 cm and the doctors want it to be well over 3cms when ur that early. they put me on bed rest and im now 34 weeks and it still isnt over 3cms.

i was 32 weeks when i lost my son Cahrlie he was 2oz from being 4lbs and 19ins long he was going to be a big boy ! i lost im in a matter of hrs i was in the docs office @ 5pm on friday and he was just fine just a little sleepy as they called it said he may be runing out of room so he was not moveing so much but i was in the hosp. @ midnight and could not find a heart beat he did not have him in till sunday night they have no reason why we lost him and after a yr we really still dont know but please have hope b/c i now have a 6month old little girl talking off my ear playing on the floor next to me im truly sorry for your lost no one can ever feel your hurt
Nachelle

i am terribly sry for what happened i was dif. tounched and god is with you

Wow. That was so hard to read. I'm so sorry for your loss. I'm glad that you got to hold her so that you could say Hello before you had to say Goodbye. What was her name? I'm sure this will be something you will never forget and will be hard to get through. But, be happy that you got to share a few moments with your baby. Remember, you are still a Mom. Your baby will always be your baby, but she now lives in Heaven. God bless you!

I am very sorry for your loss.....
When I lost my little boy 3 years ago it was real hard for me.... I was 33 weeks pregnant. When I got pregnant I was 117lbs and at 33 weeks pregnant I was 198. My stupid doctor said that I was okay...and like a dumba@# I believed her. When I went for my first 2 week check up they couldnt find a heartbeat...I rushed to the hospital and it was confermed that we had lost our little boy.. I began to have sezures and blue coded shortly after being admetted. It took me 2 days to finally go into labor and have our beautiful little boy. He was 3lbs 10oz and 17 inches long.   I couldnt even look at another baby without crying. To this day I still look at his pics and his erun and cry my eyes out. We had to make a birth certificate and then a death certificate. It was the hardest thing that I have ever gone through. I am sorry for your loss and if you need to talk to anyone you can email me brighteyez13@yahoo.com    

I am so sorry for everyones loss.....having a pre-term labor and then not being able to save the baby is horrible.....I almost had my baby at 29 weeks because of a severe inuntirine infection...thank God they were able to see what it was and the cervix hadnt opened.......now i know to look out for the signs of infection and say something to my dr. and not ignore it.........also we as women need to learn to stand up to Dr. and nurses at times because we have to listen to our bodies...my insurance covers it so i would rather be paranoid and make sure my baby is alright than not....if I had of stayed at home because of the first nurses advice I would have continued pre-term labor and it would have gotten worse   I decided I was going to the ER told my doc what was happening and he agreed and they stopped it and now I have antibiotics to prevent this from happening again. If you feel something is wrong screw it just go to the ER or if you can your Dr. and say look here is whats going on. At times though its nothing one can do about it, this happens and its horrible.........brighteyez13 it sounds like you had pre-clampsia......they had to take my first son at 37 weeks because by then I was 195 and had started off at 100! So they thought in order to prevent health issues with him or I that they had to induce and thank God they did.....I was way to big to be normal and I had a seziure shortly before labor and got bells palsy......so again, ladies listen to yourselves....if YOU feel something is wrong say something and ask them to check and double check! They will do it and if nothing comes oh well...but at least you will have peace of mind. I like my Dr. and nurses I have now...they listen to me and if I feel I have an issue and even when I myself feel like a nut, they indulge me and answer all my questions. God bless and I wish you all well ......xoxashaxox im so sorry hon, but please dont blame yourself...there was nothing you could have done..........

Hey. I'm so sorry for your loss. And just like everyone else ahs said..it wasn't your fault. I've always been worried that I would have my daughter too soon aswell, because I myself was too soon, 2 months and 3 lbs. But just remember God is on your side.