ahhhhh!!! vent!

my boyfriend isnt talking to his parents, he hasnt for a few months now. one night he had been drinking while he was living at home and as his parents do they started on him about stupid things, which just gets my boyfriend in a bad mood. after 2 1/2 years of being with him i have realised its best to not talk to him when he is drinking... you would think his parents would know this after 21 years!
anyway, so after this particular night they kicked him out and said to never come back until he says sorry. my b/f is the most stubborn person and i honestly doubt he will say sorry anytime soon. i think he should but i cant tell him that. so since this is his parents first grand child they are missing out on everything and occasionally his dad calls me at work or emails me... well yesterday i got one just asking how i was going and seeing if everything was ok with the baby. i wrote back saying that everything is fine etc and then i just got an email back from his dad whinging and bitching again about how my b/f wont say sorry and that his grandfather is upset that we have already bought a pram for the baby and how they would love to buy stuff for the baby but b/c of the current situation that isnt possible.

i feel sorry for them in a way but just b/c they arent talking to my boyfriend shouldnt mean they cant buy things for the baby. its kinda made me a little angry at them.

Just tell them you and the baby can still be in their lives even if your bf doesn't want to be.

They can still be active with your pregnancy even though they had a falling out with their son. However, you shouldn't just be upset with them...it sounds like all three of them are being a little immature about the situation. Maybe they could sit down over dinner and try to resolve their conflict...that way it would be easier to function as a family without the tension.

It made you mad because your bf is being a brat and not apologizing so they won't get to see the baby or you're mad because they're not buying things for the baby?

^^I agree with her
Tell them if they want to help you out at all, they could send you a gift card to babies r us or something... Are you going to take the baby to see them if your boyfriend hasn't made up with them by the time the baby comes?

Quoting ♥ Hunter's Mama:“ It made you mad because your bf is being a brat and not apologizing so they won't get to see the baby or you're mad because they're not buying things for the baby?”

i dont care that they havent bought anything, its frustrating that they say they want to but cant b/c they arent talking to my b/f. they still could. im annoyed that my b/f needs to grow up and admit he was wrong and just say sorry so they can be a family again and my baby can know all her grandparents and see them without tension around

Quoting Breanna(Pretty Whale):“ ^^I agree with her Tell them if they want to help you out at all, they could send you a gift card to ... [snip!] ... something... Are you going to take the baby to see them if your boyfriend hasn't made up with them by the time the baby comes?”

i think by the time the baby is here something hopefully would have been resolved but if not then yeah i will take my baby to see them. its only fair, she hasnt done anything wrong and shouldnt be denied her grandparents

Quoting Toria ♥:“ i dont care that they havent bought anything, its frustrating that they say they want to but cant b/c ... [snip!] ... and just say sorry so they can be a family again and my baby can know all her grandparents and see them without tension around”

Well if that's how you feel, then you should let your husband get over whatever little hissy fit he's throwing and you can still talk to them and keep them involved. You should definitely make every effort to see them but don't expect them to buy a lot of things. From their point of view it may cause problems between you and your bf so perhaps they don't want to rock the boat on that front.

Quoting Toria ♥:“ my boyfriend isnt talking to his parents, he hasnt for a few months now. one night he had been drinking ... [snip!] ... they arent talking to my boyfriend shouldnt mean they cant buy things for the baby. its kinda made me a little angry at them.”

Girl they can't hold that against you and the baby. That's a sorry excuse in my opinion. If they wanted to give to the baby they still can and not have to go through him, they are emailing you and what not...Sounds like the stubborness runs in the family then. Not to be mean, but that kinda got me...Since you want them to be apart of your babies life and they show some kind of interest but hang that over your head that it's the only thing holding them back makes not sense. Are they gonna do that when the baby comes, or on birthdays?
"Oh we want to see the new baby, but..."
"Oh we wanted to get the baby a birthday gift, but..."
Hope everything has smothed over already!
(sorry hormones got me!)