Single Moms wit relationships.

Hey I am going to have my baby in about 7 weeks. Super excited. I am just curious. I mean I have worries. My ex is the baby daddy to my child. We are not together, no plans to get back together. 

I just want to know. Honestly. Where u able to have ur baby and have a relationship with another man. How was that man with your baby? Did you get married? Did u have children with him? Did he change with your child?

My biggest fear is that I have my baby. I am not going to date right away LoL. But maybe when he is 2 or 3. I find love. We get married. Will he change with my son. Once we have a child will he change with my child. I mean I know it is far in the future. But rite now this is my fear, and I want to talk about it. PLEASE HELP!!

In my situation my husband was a great dad to my girls before Andrew and still is a great dad. But saddly in some situations men or women will change. Good luck.

I'm worried about that right now. Kyle and I just split up and I hate being alone (bad quality I know) so I'm worried about finding someone. I know it sounds cliche, but if he's the right person, he'll fit with your kids.

My sister in law had a baby and then less than 4 months had a new relationship where the guy was great to the baby.. They got married but it didn't work out so then when the baby was 3 she got with another guy and he was also great with her child - they now have a kid of their own and he still is great with her child. It is possiable..

keep your child first, im sort of going through this right now... i dont bring any one im talking to around my baby which is a rule that i have.

Basically it is alot harder to date when you have a child, you have less time to meet guys, and you have the potential to scare off a potential boyfriend.

But the guy that does stick around through all that is a keeper, if he treats your child good (not like a parent) then he is worth the extra time to get to know.

I've been worried about the same thing.
My boyfriend and I are doing great, but in reality..Im a teenage mother. And there are NO guarantees that at my age I'll be with him for the rest of my life.
I'll always try and salvage a relationship with him for the sake of our son, and I would LOVE to stay with him for the rest of my life, but really there's a slim chance of that happening.
I don't want to date right away, but I'm so nervous that I'll never date again until I'm like 35. Haha.

That's the last thing I should be worried about, but still..it crosses my mind from time to time.

Quoting Randee:“ I've been worried about the same thing. My boyfriend and I are doing great, but in reality..Im a teenage ... [snip!] ... until I'm like 35. Haha. That's the last thing I should be worried about, but still..it crosses my mind from time to time.”

im thinking the same thing! I'm a teen too, & not to say I dont love my boyfriend or anything but if me and him ever did split up I just think like what guy would look at me as girlfriend material after they know i have a kid? guys my age dont wanna deal with that kinda stuff.

Quoting ∑vie:“ im thinking the same thing! I'm a teen too, & not to say I dont love my boyfriend or anything but ... [snip!] ... guy would look at me as girlfriend material after they know i have a kid? guys my age dont wanna deal with that kinda stuff.”

[read my above post] My sister in law was 15 when she gave birth and found a man afterwards and then was only 18 when she found a 2nd guy. It can happen don't worry just because you have babies and are young does not mean no one will want you.. you are not damaged goods guys! Also my mom in law had my husband at 15 got a new guy at 17 had 2 more kids by him and then at 27 found a new man had 3 more kids by him and THEN at 36 with a total of 6 kids youngest being 4 yrs found a 4th husband!!!!! They aren't total catches of the world either .. men will like you regardless

Quoting ∑vie:“ im thinking the same thing! I'm a teen too, & not to say I dont love my boyfriend or anything but ... [snip!] ... guy would look at me as girlfriend material after they know i have a kid? guys my age dont wanna deal with that kinda stuff.”

Exactly!
I can't blame them, I wouldn't expect anyone to be a "father" to my son, or to take care of him, it wouldn't be their responsibility. 
But I'm so nervous about that. Even if it wasn't 'serious' it'd be nice to have a companion, or someone to at least hang out with, and talk to. But who knows?

Like you said..I love my boyfriend very much but I'm thinking realistically here.
I just have a feeling that it will be a LOONGG time before I date. I'm sure I won't have time to!

Quoting kR!sta:“ [read my above post] My sister in law was 15 when she gave birth and found a man afterwards and then ... [snip!] ... youngest being 4 yrs found a 4th husband!!!!! They aren't total catches of the world either .. men will like you regardless”

Haha, thank you for being positive!
You give me hope  

This is all just so hard. Of course we are mothers. We will put our child/children first, but I guess it is just nerves. When it comes up, you will know. Right? 

I just don't to get back with my ex because he is my sons father and no one will love him as much as he will. LoL. So cliche. So dumb. But these are my worries. LoL