Such a great feeling...

To know my boyfriend finally supports me (sort of). We've gotten past begging me to get an abortion, hiding me from his friends, and crying about how he's not ready for a change. The other night, he told me that it felt like we were married. For once, that was a happy feeling for him; we've been together 4 years,and he's still scared of commitment. He doesn't want to think about kids or marriage until after college, but he's sure about me. It's so hard because just weeks ago, we were planning how perfect our lives together would be, and now I'm so worried about how I'm going to finish school and make a living. I'm afraid that my boyfriend will feel burdened because of our baby. I want to know how it worked out for other girls in this situaltion.

thats awesome that he is finally realizing that the little one isnt going anywhere ...i too, have the same situation only worst...he still will not cope with me deciding not to get rid of my son and i dont regret any of it...im gonna love my son with or without...but on your note, congrats hun!!!!

thats good of him  

My boyfriend is afraid of commiment too but I have his ass tied down! hahah JK. .He finally did tell my lastnight that he's excited for our baby. .he asked me "when's it gonna get here?" lmao.

my fiance wasn't exicted at first about this pregnancy but he always supports me. I don't like the idea that your guy wanted you to get an abortion. I mean if he loves you then that shouldn't be an option. I can see him getting mad and nervous and all but abortion's not the way to go.....but i'm glad to hear that he's starting to support you cause you are gonna need his help and supportonce the baby's born.

sometimes it takes the guys longer to get use to the fact that they're going to be fathers .
It's all good ! =D

Quoting darkchild:“ my fiance wasn't exicted at first about this pregnancy but he always supports me. I don't like the idea ... [snip!] ... i'm glad to hear that he's starting to support you cause you are gonna need his help and supportonce the baby's born.”

that is very true and i agree 100 percent...i think that despite disagreements females need some type of support while preggo and even after the baby gets here....and i dont think men understand how hurtful it is to hear that they want an abortion knowing your werent the only one that made the baby..thats selfish

double post .

I really don't want to be the one to play devils advocate, but something you need to be VERY careful of, is the fact that he "accepts" you pregnancy only to set up scenarios for you to fall and "accidentaly" abort the baby. Not to make you not trust him, its just i have seen it and i dont want that to happen to you. Congrats, good luck, and be careful.  

I have been in your situation before too, and my boyfriend (at the time) went back and forth between wanting the baby and then begging me to get an abortion. he changed his mind every day and kept me so stressed that i actually miscarried... then he said "can we try again soon?" ... 3 days later he dumped me and i never heard from him again. guys can be real assholes. As long as you know he supports your decision and will be there for you to help raise your baby, then everything will be fine. it does take a while for guys to accept the drastic change a baby brings, and sometimes it is easy for us to forget that as soon as we are pregnant our maternal instinct kicks in and caring for our child becoms more important than caring for ourselves. men are different, they dont have the same bond with the baby... until its born of course   Just take it one day at a time, and as soon as you get further into your pregnancy I guarantee he will come around and get excited. just WAIT till he puts his hand on your belly and feels your little one kick. his life will change and you both will be on the same page. best of luck!

it took my boyfriend awhile to realize that I am not getting rid of my our baby. Its nice once they finally come around... People keep telling me also that it will change a lot more once the baby comes. because right now we are already attached to the baby. they don't get that connection that we do. so hopefully once the baby comes things will go alot different for the better for both of us.

Hun the way we can all look at it is that deep down no guys are actually ready for a baby. Others may get more exctited than the rest or more into it but it will all knuckle down to the final thing and all guys are immature and enjoy having a good time without any kind of commitment (aka baby) tying them down and making them become more responsible. My best advice to you would be to include him on shopping trips and getting the nursery sorted out but try not to suffocate him with all the details, in time he will come round and if not wait til' the baby is born. He will be there and excited, don't worry about that. Take care. Nikki xx