re: PG # 1 group from old BBC

I've been reading, but haven't had time to really sit down and write ... and I don't right now either. I do want to say that my heart goes out to Meg, though! I agree you are making the right decision, but I know it must be so difficult. I agree with Stacie about finding a temp home for him. If he's biting, he shouldn't be around Jack at all. Keep us updated!

Karly

Hi girls. I just wanted to say thank you so much for the support! It feels like the people here aren’t being near as supportive as you all are, especially in regards to getting rid of Ben. I have been sort of in an exhausted daze all day, not able to get anything done and I made sure to be out of the house all day with Jack. I felt like I couldn’t manage a day of keeping them apart. Jack’s doctor apt went well and he prescribed an antibiotic for Jack’s ear. Ben did bite through it although when it heals, I really don’t think it will be noticeable. I’m having trouble getting Jack to swallow the medicine which is making me nervous about infection. I think I’ll try to mix it in with his food tomorrow instead of using the syringe. I sent a mass email out to my friends asking for help and I am going to try to make a flyer to post. My DH called the shelter and they can take him on the 10th but I’m afraid I’ll just fall apart if he goes to a shelter. I just feel a tremendous amount of guilt for not being able to work it out and also sadness for having him for 10 years and then possibly sending him to a shelter.
Alrighty, thanks for listening! I’ll keep you all updated!!
Meg

2 things bring on such strong emotions as I read your post Meg.
I can't believe Ben bit THROUGH the ear! And also, I had no clue you had Ben for 10 years. This was fear followed by sadness. If you do have to go the shelter route, just keep telling yourself that this guilt is better than the guilt of having to raise a child without an eye (if that were his next bite) or with a disfiguring scar on his face etc. Ben deserves a home where he can be the #1 organism it seems and many people can give this to him . . . just not you now. You had no way of knowing 10 years ago that this would happen. In short, you did nothing wrong. This is not an easy situation but a necessary one for not only Jack's well being but also your sanity in not being mediator for his toddling years (and perhaps a new baby's down the road). Stay strong and just realize that the situation would just have gotten worse as Jack became more able to pull at and chase Ben. I am so sorry you are having to deal with this. Perhaps an old couple or lonely old single person can give Ben the 1 on 1 he needs. Put an ad in the paper. . . is there a "free" section in the classifieds? Put a Craigslist ad out.
Good luck, my heart is with you!
Stacie

Meg- I agree with Stacie that there is no way you would have know 10 years ago that this would happen. I'm not sure if it will help, but this reminds me of a story of my SIL, except it was while she was pregnant. She had had her dog a long time & while she was preggo he got really aggressive. He ran after a runner & bit her & then also bit my SIL in the leg. They had to take him to a shelter because he was just getting worse & he actually got better once he was in the shelter. They would go & visit him every week until he found a home. They now have a very high energy golden that absolutely loves the kids. I can't imagine the pain you are going through, but it will turn out ok. Hang in there.

Hi Stacie, Karly & Amber

Happy Halloween everyone.

So my U/S was canceled on Thursday due to weather, but I was able to get in yesterday & everything is good. I was so thankful because the tech was extremely informative. She said my uterus & cervix looks perfect along with my Rt ovary. My left ovary is good with the exception of some fluid collection around it. This means I had a cyst of ovulated from that ovary, but nothing to be concerned about. I'm so so excited & relieved. I don't see the Dr till Tuesday, but that's ok. So AF we will be TTC & I'm KMFC for a BFP the first month.  

Well we are headed down to my parents so I need to go have a great night.
Kim

Hey ladies! I'm a little behind but here is a quick catch up!

Kim-Wow, thanks for all the updates! I like hearing how everyone is doing! Good luck with the schedule/routine. It is so different for every family and baby! You’ll soon find a groove and just remember, when Tanner is 10, he’ll be eating those 3 solid meals and who knows what else so in the grand scheme, as long as they are healthy and happy then we are doing our job right! Jack is in the same stage where we are saying “No Touch”. Haha, but I don’t think they’ll get it for awhile. I just say no touch and then move him somewhere else. I think it just helps to teach them that there are boundaries and things they can’t do! But when they’ll start obeying..haha who knows when that will happen. That is so awesome that he enjoys the swim class so much. YEH! It must feel great to bring those kinds of smiles to his face J Sorry to hear about your foot. That is so painful. I can’t remember but will you have to go back for another shot? I hope it heals soon! And sorry about the stomach pains (And episiotomy pains) Since I had a c-section I didn’t have all of that but I still thought it hurt to have sex for awhile and sometimes even now it is not the same so I’m sure it is a lot different for you ladies! As for as the babies, Jack loves his sippy cup and seems to be doing well with drinking water. Actually he chugs it which is kind of funny but he also chews a lot too. …Ok now I just read your last post. YEH for the good news! I’ll be KMFC for a BFP too!

Stacie-How is the napping at daycare going? Jack’s been in dc for over 2 months now and he still doesn’t really nap there  He gets an hour and a half at most, normally just an hour when he is there. But it doesn’t seem to affect the rest of his schedule during the week. If Mia is sleeping well at night, and when she is at home, then I wouldn’t worry too much about it. I understand your concerns though. Remember when Jack was little and he wouldn’t nap? I was freaking out that he wasn’t getting the proper rest for growth! Our little ones are tough cookies though  

Karly-How’s little man? Is the CIO going well for you guys?

AFM-Well, things are of course not so hot here but we’re hanging in there. Ben is scheduled to go to the shelter on the 10th so right now we are trying to find him a home. I’ve made a flyer and sent it out and my friends are spreading the word. Maybe we’ll luck out and find him a good home. Jack’s ear is looking much better now. It’s practically healed. He just has to keep taking the antibiotics through Thursday. Things have been hard for the dog though and I feel bad. He’s locked in our laundry room quite a bit when we are downstairs and he hates it. But I try to take him on walks and give him extra treats although I know that doesn’t make up for anything. I’m sure the next few weeks will be tough as we are in this ‘waiting’ period!

On a cheerier note, Jack has been such a busy body lately. He is getting into everything, pulling himself up on everything, eating everything…etc. He just got his 5th tooth and I think there is another one not far behind. I can’t believe how quick they are coming in! He loves to climb back and forth across our legs when we are on the floor. He practically hurls himself across, face plants in the floor and laughs. He always has red marks on his face because he's constantly falling and running into things! They're just growing up so fast! I feel like he's so close to being a toddler!

Alrighty, I'm off to take some Nyquil and hit the hay. I managed to catch a cold with all the stress  

Cheerio!
Meg

Quick sleep update:
So Mia has been sleeping better at daycare (they moved her crib to a corner) and we are finally getting my nursing rhythm there (they call me when she wakes up from her AM nap and I nurse, then I go about an hour after lunch and sometimes I go about an hour before DH picks her up or else they just give her snacks). Since they can't let her cry much at daycare (against rules AND it would wake others) we decided to change our habits for putting Mia down at home so as not to confuse her (this decision was made before her napping at daycare improved. So now we rock her to sleep and transfer her as best we can. Whether it is this change, her teething, her not too distant cold or a number of other things (including becoming an avid fan of pulling herself up in the crib) she has been waking up A LOT in the middle of the night. We're talking at 10:30pm, midnight, 3am, you name it. I really think it is her teeth but DH thinks our new way of putting her to sleep is making her cry to get us to hold her (again, because our new thing is not letting her cry much since they can't do that at daycare). But I swear this top left tooth is about to poke through. Also with the side of our crib broken and not dropping it is really almost impossible to transfer hersleepingto the crib. This has resulted in way too many sleepinterruptionsand extreme frustration on everyone's end. Wish us luck and please pray that herfreakingtooth erupts soon.

Kim, good luck TTCing!

Hello everyone else. . . if you haven't noticed yet I finally joined FB. I think I found everyone but Karly but then again I didn't look for long. I was just tired of missing all my family's photos and stuff.

Have a nice week!
Stacie

If we stop posting for more than 30 days this forum willdisappear. I know it will go eventually but given that it has all of our exciting first days as moms I wasn't sure I was ready to let it die.
That's all. . . you don't have to respond.

Thanks for keeping it! I'm not ready to let it go. I was hoping maybe over Christmas break to find a way to copy some of our stuff!

Thanks Stacie, I'm not ready to either. From what I can tell we would have to go in & copy each post. It's not as easy as select all. Maybe we could split it up & each of us could take a few pages??