Ladies i would appreciate all of your advice from everyone who reads this.
My boyfriend does not live with me and currently i am 8months pregnant. He's an excellent boyfriend/ father to be but see ive only been knowing him about 9 months. Obviously the pregnancy was not planned but it hasnt back fell yet! The only thing that seems to be a problem is his income.I make more than him. he lives with his mom and grandma. As for geting ready for the baby ive done most of everything. i know more about responsibility than he ever has plus like i said his income is a problem. We have no plans for getting married right now but we are VERY happy. soooo here is the problem my lease is up a month ater the baby is born. I was thinking that we were going to get an apartment together but then i realized that that was a decision that i was making for the both of us. I asked him today and he said it depends on how his money goes. I told him "you make your money!"" your money is not supposed to make you!". He is putting me in a position to feel like i need limit myself because i might be taking care of this baby financaily alone. When i say he doesnt make enough money i mean he makes 600 dollas a month. He's a personal trainer so a lot of his job is commission based. If im gonna have to pick up the slack then whos gonna watch the baby or pay for daycare? Im thinking about putting him on child support because atleast i will know that im going to DEFINATELY be getting something for the month. If i have to get this apartment alone i dont want him over my house eating up all my food and running up my bills that i have to pay for. Thats not right. Im gonna be working to hard to be taking care of a grown man that cant provide for his child or living expenses and obviously not me. I dont wanna do it but i dont wanna be the fool eithier. Whn we talk about it he says" why dont i just give you money every month" He cant even give me the 250 dollars he said he was gonna give me every checkto pay for my matenity. leave and the only thing he pays for is a 74 dollars cell phone bill! WHAT DO YOU THINK LADIES!?? should i put him on or what? i still dont know everything about child support but one thing that i do know is that i dont wanna be in the system! ine been on my own for the past 5 years without a dime from anyone and i wanna keep it that way unless some money is coming from the father of our child. im doing pretty damn good for 20years old!

i didnt realize that im makignhim sound like he's good for nothing. i dont want to make it seem that way because mentaly he is the best man a woman could have. he cleans, is mentaly supportive, has great communication, awesome personality, funny and very respectable! He does anything he can at the drop of a dime! Now if he was rich than he would be perfect but perfect doesnt exsist. i dont want us to break up in the end over money! The number one cause of serious relationships.

You definately should make sure you get child support from him. Even if you don't need it, you can always put it in a savings account for the baby to use when they're older/unexpected child-related expenses, etc. There is NO reason that he can't help support the child that he helped create.

I don't think it's such a good idea if you are still in a relationship with him... I dunno.... I don't know what I would do.   I think it would put strain on your relationship though.

Thisis a tough one. I mean the two of you are together and do get along. But babys cost money. Both parents have to bring there part in finaciallyor it will be come a huge problem when the baby gets here. Has he tried to find another job or can he work two jobs. I would wait until the baby is born to see if he does something to better his situation. If he isnt trying to then go sue for child support.

i would deffently go after him for child support...unless youre married you need to. my ex/bd and i are trying to work things out right now, but i have made it very clear to him that i will be going after him for child support...you have to look out for the best interest of you baby and yourself .

Quoting ymj:“ Thisis a tough one. I mean the two of you are together and do get along. But babys cost money. Both parents ... [snip!] ... until the baby is born to see if he does something to better his situation. If he isnt trying to then go sue for child support.”

well i have talk to him about getting another job, the first time he wasnt to sure about the idea but now he says yeah but the way he says it he doesnt sound to sure. he has never worked two jobs at once. id rather do it because i have before. maybe he should be a stay at home dad!

THe worst thing about a father is when he's not on the same page with you. If your getting prepped and he's not then you may need to consider that he won't do whats neccesary for the little one once it arrives. He seems like it hasn't really hit him. IF you do all the worrying he probably feels like you'll do all the figuring out what to do for the baby as well. Get him on board or Get him in the pocket book.

Quoting Gina Davidson:“ THe worst thing about a father is when he's not on the same page with you. If your getting prepped and ... [snip!] ... feels like you'll do all the figuring out what to do for the baby as well. Get him on board or Get him in the pocket book.”

yeah yo are so right! right on the needle! the only thing is... im just now make him come out the pockett for everything the baby needs and even things around my apartment so that he can get a taste of what its going to be like on hisendbut now it looks like im not doing anything. all the little money that he makes. barely enough. he needs to make more.... way more. 600 a month is not going to cut it! He works too hard to be making only 600 dollars!