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Coming from a similiar situation the only thing I can say is only you can make the decision to see him and let him be in your life. Even if you want to and arent ready to take that step you have to be ready and not let him force or guilt you into it. And you can let him know at this outing that you are still upset about the situation and when you are ready to start things over you will let him know but until then give you some space.

If you ever need to vent or talk about it message me.

I am a very forgiving sort of person and tend to believe that everyone makes mistakes in their lives. He is your father after all, and you wouldn't be hereif it weren't for him in the first place. If he is really trying to make things right I think you should give him a chance. If he blows it again, then maybe write him off.

I wish you luck, I am sure this is a hard situation for you to be in!

i say give him the benefit of the doubt. i had a very bad relationship with my father and similar to you, the last time he had called me when i was about 16... moved out of state and remarried and acted as though i didn't exist. when i was 21, he died and although he made a small effort right before his death to have a relationship with me, i never got a chance to forgive him. maybe he realizes that he fucked up and wants a second chance...

i'm in a similar boat with my grandpa. i haven't talked to him in years and we always avoid each other on holidays. all of a sudden, when i got pregnant, he's asking my mom for my email address and asking if she can ask me to send ultra sound pics to him... i was sceptical at first, expecially since i'm "unwed" and he's very old fashioned when it comes to stuff like that. but i gave him a chance and we supprisingly talk regularly now and he's very pleasant.

i hope you're able to fogive your dad and that he has realized where he went wrong in his relationship with you and is eager to try to mend that.

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