over reacting?

good morning to all i have a question for u guys and if u could please tell me if u think im over reacting 
ok so my husband and i have been together for 5 years and its been pretty good so far we have our issues but for the most part were happy well last week i was informed that his mom was inviting his ex girlfriend to my baby shower she said she didnt think i would be upset about it because she knows im not an insucure person at the time it didnt really bother me because to hear a compliment from his mom is very rare so i decided that i would just try to suck it up even if i was a little unhappy about it anyway to make a long story short....my husband and his ex are now talking she found him on his myspace and they have been writting eachother she left comments on his pics saying oh u look so good in this pic and this is how i remember u were my papi .....do u remember? so i asked him about them and he said i have nothing to be upset about there just talking about what has been going on in there lifes now and he tells her about me and the baby and that she is engaged anyways well ok i said if this is true then can u show me your emails to her? and he said no u should just trus me i have never given u a reason not to.

im very upset about this am i over reacting i was fine with it untill i saw some of the comments she was leaving him what should i do?

Sorry, I don't really have any advice. But, that would drive me absolutely insane!!! I wouldn't be okay with it.

Quoting adalina'smomma:“ good morning to all i have a question for u guys and if u could please tell me if u think im over reacting ... [snip!] ... upset about this am i over reacting i was fine with it untill i saw some of the comments she was leaving him what should i do?”

Did you have your baby shower yet? Have you ever met her?

Uhh, I'd tell my husband he better fucking show me those emails

Quoting adalina'smomma:“ good morning to all i have a question for u guys and if u could please tell me if u think im over reacting ... [snip!] ... upset about this am i over reacting i was fine with it untill i saw some of the comments she was leaving him what should i do?”

I'd be really pissed! It doesn't matter if he says they are just being "friendly". That is completely disrespectful to you and if he was any kind of boyfriend then he would see that for himself, IMO.Or at least, see it once you pointed it out. The only time I think a SO has an excuse to have contact with an ex is if they have a child together. Other than that, I don't think it's ok. Well, at least not IMO. I'm sure there are plenty of women out there who feel totally different and think that maybe I'm insecure or whatever. But I think it's just a respect thing. How would he feel if the shoe was on the other foot? He'd probably be really upset. And no, I would not let my boyfriends ex-girlfriend some to my baby shower! That's just crazy! LOL

He would be showing me those emails and leaving his ex alone. You are by no means overracting. And I don't care what his mom said, she would not be coming to my baby shower.

You should cut that short really quick. They is noway in hell I would let my husband even think about communicating with his ex in such a way. Hs mother was wrong for inviting her to yourbaby shower. She is out of the picture. It seems to me your mother in law sis that out of spite because she likes the ex more than you. Grow some balls sweetie and let your man know its not going down no matter what!!!

Quoting adalina'smomma:“ good morning to all i have a question for u guys and if u could please tell me if u think im over reacting ... [snip!] ... upset about this am i over reacting i was fine with it untill i saw some of the comments she was leaving him what should i do?”

i dont think you're over reascting. I got in touch with one of my exes on mysapce and my husband found out and he was furious but to calm him i told him he could read the messages and everyting ,becasue nothign was going on at all. We would jsut bullshit about my child, my husband, his loserish life, jsut boring sutff.
But seeign that he wont let you read the messages i would be a little apprehensive about the whole thing.

If nothing was going on he wouldn't have nothing to hide.

Quoting Carmen *MHB*:“ Did you have your baby shower yet? Have you ever met her?”

no my baby shower is on the 12th and ive never met her i seen only one pic of her on her myspace but her profile is set to privet so really cant look at anything else

Quoting adalina'smomma:“ no my baby shower is on the 12th and ive never met her i seen only one pic of her on her myspace but her profile is set to privet so really cant look at anything else”

if you've never met her and she has nthing to do with your child why is she invited? Isn't the baby shwoer about you adn your child?

Quoting ♥ D'Ann ♥:“ Uhh, I'd tell my husband he better fucking show me those emails”

lol well i said some things to him i kinda feel bad for saying i told him if he wants to keep things privet then fine having a baby is privet and i want him anywhere but next to me when im having her lol i feel kinda bad though

If he has nothing to hide, he shouldn't have a problem showing you the emails. I think it's okay to stay friends with ex, but not if you haven't talked in years, moved on with your own life, and definitely shouldn't be talking about "old stuff". You don't know her, she's not your friend, it's your baby shower, she shouldn't be invited.

Quoting adalina'smomma:“ no my baby shower is on the 12th and ive never met her i seen only one pic of her on her myspace but her profile is set to privet so really cant look at anything else”

ow old is your husband. You said you have been togeter 5 years but your 20..Just curious!! You have to be care IMO because if you feel you have reason to doubt him then demand to see them. If you truly feel you can trust im then give im some rope. He will either hang himhelf or it will fade away...

Baby showers are suppose to be with FRIENDS and FAMILY. And she is nothing to you. Your mother inlaw has some nerve to invite her. And if she shows up she has some balls to do so.