why wont he perform when required

i just cant understand my partner atm we are ttc and hav been for 13 months and he just wont do it on the days i ask and i keep a calender around so he will know with out me forcing it but still its the same old thing.. im tired..im sore etc etc has any one else had this..

Quoting Cheyenne2008:“ i just cant understand my partner atm we are ttc and hav been for 13 months and he just wont do it on ... [snip!] ... so he will know with out me forcing it but still its the same old thing.. im tired..im sore etc etc has any one else had this..”

dont let him know its time....just suduce him sp? take what is yours

I quit telling my man when my fertile days were because he always seemed to not be feeling well or something like that. Guys don't like to stress or even think about that stuff, they just want to do it whenever the mood strikes.

It took us 2 years...

Good luck!

Quoting missie1721:“ dont let him know its time....just seduce him sp? take what is yours”

lmao i agree
try pretending to be spontaneous ;) make him feel that it is for pleasure rather then ttc


TTC to men must be just as stressful
i mean they have to rise for the occasion, it must be too over whelming to them and probably freaks them out


so like missiel posted, be spontaneous.. seduce him, arouse him!

I have been going through the same thing with my husband.
He keeps telling me it doesn't just work on command like women seem to think it does.
I hae tried to just seduce him but he knows I don't really want it, he knows I am only doing it because we have too lol.

i try so hard i try to you know give him head and he just pushes me off im to sore to tired its driving me insane i really dont understand

To be honest~ it's sounding like you both are getting stressed out over it~ he also probably doesn't want to be thought of as a baby maker~ instead of telling him "okay it's time"~ try to be more subtle~ I HATED it when DH would just assume because he made a comment about wanting sex, that I was automatically going to go strip down & jump in bed~ kind of makes you feel like a whore~ So I wanted it even less~ also stressing about it isn't going to increase your chances of conceiving @ all~

thanks for being so supportive guys i really appreciate your answers and support

if a man denies head he's truely fed up cause my mans never turned that down even dead dog tired unless he knew I was up to something

Quoting xamandica42o143x:“ if a man denies head he's truely fed up cause my mans never turned that down even dead dog tired unless he knew I was up to something”

That actually could be a good tactic for you.  The night before you want to BD, offer up some pleasure for him...then the next night it might throw him off the O radar!  (o:

just jump him if need be tie him down...

Make him go without it for a couple weeks. Seriously. He's probably so used to doing it all the time that it's getting old. It's causing him too much stress TTC all the time, more than likely. There needs to be more spontaneity to spice things up. Go a few weeks without pursuing him (even if it means you have to give up this cycle) and just make it about the two of you the way it was before you started TTC. Make HIM have to come after YOU. But don't give in until it's "time", lol. Don't even mention TTC anymore. You may find that a little time off is exactly what he needs, as well as getting the TTC stress out of his (and your) mind. Many couples have found that stopping the focus on TTC actually causes them to conceive because they are no longer stressing about the temping, the timing, etc.

Good luck

Quoting aryn12205:“ Make him go without it for a couple weeks. Seriously. He's probably so used to doing it all the time ... [snip!] ... on TTC actually causes them to conceive because they are no longer stressing about the temping, the timing, etc. Good luck”

Well said~ we ttc for 4 yrs & decided to stop~ I was planning on going back to work this fall~ then one January morning I got a BFP!

I agree.. girl.. I was in your same shoes not too long ago.. Keep in mind men think WAAYY to differetly than we do.... TTC can be equally as stressful for them as it is for you... For me it was super frustrating cuz I don't ovulate due to PCOS/ Infertility. So I had to take meds to help me conceive.. it was SUPER important we had sex when I was ovulating in order to catch that eggie. He gave me the I'm tired BS and all that crap.... I was so frusstrated I sobbed for nights.. and nights.and months and more months!!!. not getting why??...Why was it that he didn;t understand?? Then.. on this cycle.. at least in my case.. I was honest with him.. I sat down in tears.. ( not faked ones) I was hurt.. I told him from the bottom of my heart if he didn't put his part on this I would never achieve my baby dreams...
I did ask him to be honest with me.. if he prefered for me to tell him when to do it or to just "seduce" him liek someone said here.. he prefered not to know and for m to just seduce him. He said that men get stressed when sex is a must and it doesn't help "when preforming" time comes.. so I totally would recommend not talking about it at all.. you keep the calnedar don't let him see it..keep it to yourself. It can stress him out. on those days you need it then he will know by your seductive cues.. it's fun that way for him... .. just seduce him. Momma it worked for me. Me and my best friend always talk abotu this because men can ne quite "AAAAARRRGGHHH what's the word..... STUPID??..IDIOTIC??? JACKA**ES????"" GGRRR when it comes to TTC. 
It worked for me hun.... hubby knew that when I tried to seduce him it was time.. but I never spoke abou tit this time.. it worked hun!!! it worked!! Good luck sweets.. I walked the TTC road for 3 years with nothing but dissapointments & despair.
From the bottom of my heart I wish you and all TTCers the very best!!
C'mon Sept. BFPS!!!!!

Good luck hun!!

Ruthie

get him when he has morning wood
hahah

i work nights and when i come home on weekends and mark is asleep..

low and behold... he's hard.... whats the first thing i do ..

attack that shit


hahahah