Young mum- Troubles With inlaws.

So this is whats going on. I am a young mom of 2. I am 21 with 2 kids. My husband is away in Saskatchewan working on the oil rigs so that we can pay off debt and save to buy a house. In the mean time I am still here on the coast. Being as our house is not near anything (pretty much in the middle of nowhere) I thought it would be safer for me to stay with my inlaws for the time being.
I get tons of help! And i appreciate the fact that i can go and have a shower or go for a run while they are sleeping and know that if they wake up someone will be there for them before i get home. The problem is... They dont seem to take me seriously. I dissipline my kids, and they always come back with " ohh come to nana/papa" Ive noticed a big difference especially with my 2 year old boy. Anytime i tell him no he freaks out and starts balling. He never did this before. I have told my inlaws to try not to override what i say. and If i am not around whey they need to be diciplined that they can go ahead and do what I would probably do in the situation. I feel so stuck. I dont want to step on toes because They are having me here. But at the same time, My job as a mom is becoming more and more difficult each day. Also, I am getting told to go to bed early. When I sayed please dont boss me around, they came back with "we were just joking". but i dont think they were. Any advice? Is anyone else going through this? (sorry for such a long post).

I have gone through it with my parents.
I moved out when my daughter was about 3 months old because I didnt want everyone to make the choices for me. Unfortunately it feels like your hands are tied because it is their home and they are helping.

Do you think I should just deal with it untill I move back home? Or should I stand up for myself? I dont want to hurt their feelings.. But i truly feel i know what im doing when it comes to raising my kids, and they make me feel like im doing a horrible job.

Quoting AlyssaW:“ Do you think I should just deal with it untill I move back home? Or should I stand up for myself? I dont ... [snip!] ... But i truly feel i know what im doing when it comes to raising my kids, and they make me feel like im doing a horrible job.”

If you can talk to them and tell them you dont want to confuse your kids with 2 sets of parenting styles and you would appreciate if you could make the decisions. Especially if its on an important topic. I used to let my ex SIL take care of my daughter while I was working and I found out she was spanking her here and there. Its not acceptable to me. If its something you totally dont stand for then I would speak up.