GAH! Do I let him back in my life?!?

I dont know how many of you know whats going on between me and my ex...

*its on my page if you are interested*

BUT.. he is still deployed.. and I cut off all contact a little over a month ago... I send him weekly updates on the baby... and I for the first time since I cut off contact.. sent him some pics of my belly.

And this is how he responded...

"hey shayna i know that you said that you dont want to hear from me again but i have to talk to you and keep in touch. i want to be here for you emotionally and financially. i still want to help out any way that i can let me know if there is anything that i can do tohelp you. and i would also love it if you would let me email you and you email me back and corespond as much as possible. and by the way you have the most beautiful belly that i have ever seen. i just wish that i was there to feel it and rub coco butter on it for you, LOL. i miss you so much and i still love you no matter what has happened to us in the past. again please let me know what i can do to help i am here for you dont you forget that.
Hanging in there for you and not running away, Joe"

I JUST got strong and accepted that I could do this alone. I have a job.. I'm moving to Beverly Hills on Oct 1st... Im in college... IM SET! He plays the good guy card when he wants too.. and then he runs to sexsearch.con or plentyoffish.com or craigslist.com to find his next booty call for when he gets back from deployment.

BUT HE IS THE DADDY! And god dammit... no matter HOW MAD or HOW HURT I am.. I still LOVE him. F***!

How do I respond to his email?!? I am SO confused here.. and I need someone on the outside of my shoes who has a level head on em.

Thank you ladies!

Shayna

Dont let him back in believe me its for the better. No one ever said you had to stop loving him, but if you feel you are doing the right thing then you do what you have to do. As foar as responding, go ahead and talk to him. it wont hurt anything. Just remember to be strong and not let him get to you. Im cheering for you. Keep your head up!!!

If he wants to be there financially for you that's great. Also, if he wants to be in the child's life that is good too. But if he's always wanting to get a booty call, I wouldn't want to be with him.

Right now is the easy part. I would talk to him, feel things out you are the only one that can tell how sincerehe is. When he gets home is when things get difficult. Be strong and take things slow if thats the direction you want to go. Do what you feel is right for you and the baby. I was stupid and played the games for 6 yrs which included an 8 month deployment. You deserve someonewho wants to be with you and your child without question. I'm still looking but i know I'm worth it and so are you. Best wishes

Hilarey

It's hard cause you do still love him and care about him but like you said he's just playing the goodguy roll for now he'll screw you over again they always do....DONT LET HIM!!!If he does wanna help you thats awesome but you dont want to set yourself up....cause your having a baby and then the last thing you want is to be stressed out and be put through his immature little head games...

ugh!! Don't you just hate that?!! You love the guy and you trust him but then the truth hits you hard in the face...

I'm sorry gurl but he's just lookin for a booty call where he can get it. You being preggos with his child makes you easily accessible (well, in his mind). My baby's father did the same thing. I told him I was pregnant and he dumped me three days later. He decided to get back with his ex and actually told me what was going on in his head -- "I'm still young and I'm tryna have fun. It's not my fault that you're sprung off me...I will always have you."

Guys just think that because you're pregnant,they can cheat and then come back because you had his child. And it's hard to accept that fact because pregnancy got your emotions swaying with the wind but try to keep it in mind that he's only trying to use you and he's only thinking with his dick and not his heart.

Honey, keep doin what you're doing. You're on the right track. In the long run, you'll be happy you kept your life together and not wasting your time on a user.

If he wants to support your child financially and be involved in your child's life, that's cool but don't get involved with him. He's not worth the emotionally stress. Snag yourself a REAL man!  

Maybe he realizes what a big fucking STUPID mistake he made?
Its possible.
My husband, before we were married, cheated on me ONCE, that was a few weeks after we started dating, and he had just gotten back from Iraq so he was all kind of fucked up in the head. I knew how sorry he was, I could just tell, and seeing him cry made me realize how sincere he was. I took him back and he's been more than perfect ever since. Sometimes it takes something bad to make things turn out better? if that makes sense.

Has he actually hooked up with anyone?

Idk, just talk to him. If you really love him, try to work things out. but he has a lot of ass kissing to do, and he better fucking walk on egg shells.

If you don't think you can ever TRUST him, because of that, then don't do it. Trust is very hard to get back, and once its broken, the relationship is pretty much screwed. [ this is coming from personal experience]

So if you do take him back, try your hardest to trust him, but if he does it again, throw his ass to the curb.

OH MY GOSH!!!!!! I just saw this post Shay-shay!!!!!!! Ahhhhh!!!! What did you do?!?!?!