Quoting j0cElYn:“ I was in business mngmnt for over 10 years so Ill offer what advice I have: though it might not be ... [snip!] ... self created!) then get unemployment while you look for a new job. ( I dont think your job is secure with what they are doing.)”
yeah. i agree. it isn't secure, it isn't secure one bit. and yes, they ARE trying to force me out. my fiance and i have known that a long time. the feign compassion and generousity but really, they ARE crooked, selfish and out for themselves.
i agree as well with the hearsay aspect of this quandary. everyday it's something new. they've spoken to someone else, they've changed their minds on this, they've decided against or for that. it's insane! i literally just had a conversation with the owner (about 10 minutes ago) about what we've been discussing the past few days. he came up and asked me when i've been "starting my time" here at work. i looked at HIM like he was stupid and said, "ummm, when i get in every morning. what else would you expect me to be putting down?" and he said, "oh nooooo...that's not good."
oh my God, what now? so he starts explaining that when they hired me they hired me knowing that i was not able to drive (oversome things from my past)and that because i was justin's fiance, they did what they could "to help me out." *shakes head* no no no, when i was hired i was techinically hired to learn the president's position (his wife's). since i started i have not ONCE looked over a print, gone over a bid or been advised/educated on any of her practices. like i said, once he realized he didn't like me (and she didn't like me either) they started to change their minds. the owner's wife comes across as very naive, impressionable and pussy-footed. she does WHATEVER he tells her to, WHEN he tells her to do it. no questions asked, she jumps when he tells her to. but i've witnessed/seen recently her sheep's clothing revealing her true colors/skin (so-to-speak). she's not as gullible or "woe is me, i'm JUST a girl" as she comes across. she's the heavy fist behind a lot of the goings-on here.
i don't know, i just don't. i know that there would be an awful lot to prove. it's their word against mine and my fiance. if the other men they've spoken to, inappropriately about my employment, were willing to step forward and offer a statement of some kind--there might be a chance for me to expose them. but i don't know. after discussing things with the old man today (the owner), he was being very cordial and agreeable. i explained my side of things and expressed my appreciation for the things they have done for me but i am not one to be intimidated or pushed around. i just am not made of that kind of stuff. i was raised to be independent, to look out for myself and to be strong. i don't back down unless i should, you know? and these people have been constantly pushing me. i know they want me to quit. i know they do. what's funny is they keep telling me, lately especially, that when i was hired this "position" was never meant to be full-time. they tell me that i only was working 40 hours a week because my fiance does. *shakes head vehemently* NO! that wasn't the case at all or i'd have never come here. i would have found OTHER employment because there's no way i could have survived on part-time work, car or no car.
i'm really bothered by all of this and feel like they're trying to bamboozle me. the president (his wife) is not as stupid or naive as she'd like to come across. she is not going to endanger her business or her income. i think she's very well aware of what SHE'S doing but her husband keeps opening his mouth and inserting his foot. he's old (he's 74) and she's about twenty years younger than that. so she's got the upper hand in their marriage and in this company. she knows what she can and can't do. her and her lawyer are not estranged, i'll say that much.
the old man said he's "re-think" some things in order to "help me out." i explained that i was
always planning on working as long as i could. no one bothered to ask me or tell me otherwise. all of a sudden they feel the need to makes all of these changes. it's ridiculous. i realize the weather has been horrible this year. it's affectedmany, many fields of work and their companies drastically. they want to "cut costs" per their accountants advice and i get that. i see where they are coming from. but it is wrong how they've treated me and how they've mistreated the other men that work here. i'm one of only two females that work here, me and his wife. i'm the only one who's ever been pregnant here. neither his wife nor himself have ever had children. he actually told my fiance that six weeks off after delivering a child was too much, too long an amount of time off.