I NEED ADVICE!!! please

Ok, My mom puts way too much stress on me. I need some advice on how to tell her that I don't want her in the delivery room with me. I want it to be just me and my b/f and my b/f said he agrees but will support me in my decision. Well when I told her that the baby was going to have his daddy's middle name, she got mad at me and started being a bitch because she said that it should be named after her, my mother. She also said that I probably just picked his middle name because my b/f's mom likes it and she thinks that I'm letting her make my choices and she's jealous that i'm not letting her have ne say in ne thing. Well I told her that I would feel way too uncomfortable and that I just wanted it 2 be me and my b/f in the room. She laughed it off and said "oh I've seen ur pus b4 and u won't be focused on who's looking down there." Then she just blew it off like I was just having second thoughts and she's set on her being in there. I don't want her 2 be in there.I know that if I don't want her in there, then all I have 2 do is tell the doctor that I don't want her in there and I call the shots, and I won't hesitate 2 do that, but if I do that, she's gonna get pissed off and yes, I know for sure, that if she gets pissed enuff then she'll say "well since u didn't want me in there then y shuld I watch him while u go 2 school?" I have other ppl who will watch him, but she offered and I figured that I'd let her because she wants time w/ him. And I know that if she gets pissed of enuff, she'll kick me out and try and get DCFS involved because she has alot of friends in there, and that's what she did2 my sister, and my sister was 19. I'll be 18. I'm not worried about DCFS because there is no way that she's gonna beable 2 prove that I'll be a bad parent. I just don't want 2 piss her off and make a big war about it. WHat do I do?

why dont you want your mom in the room?

ETA: i know its your choice.. but seriously why wouldnt you just let her in the room.. and then she wont be mad at you and hold it against you!?

She said she's seen you "pus" before? lol.

Anyways, she sounds like a 2 year old. She needs to grow up. Don't have her in the room if you don't want her to be there. And if she holds it against you then oh well. You can't control what she does you can only control what you do. And if she wants to be a bitch and lose out on interacting with her grandchild then so be it. You don't NEED her.

Quoting Jala:“ Ok, My mom puts way too much stress on me. I need some advice on how to tell her that I don't want her ... [snip!] ... gonna beable 2 prove that I'll be a bad parent. I just don't want 2 piss her off and make a big war about it. WHat do I do?”

Have the L&D nurse tell her she isnt allowed in the room. That is what they get paid to do. Well part of what they get apid to do. Most L&D nurses love to piss people off that dont have respect for the ladies in the delivery room

Just tell her that you think that it will be stressful to have more than your babies daddy in the room, and that she can be the very first in right after the baby is born to see the baby, Or you can make a deal with the nurses that if she starts bitching that they can just remove her, believe me they don't mind having one less drill sarg. in the room!

because, my mom puts on a huge act for people. She says does things that she wouldn't normally do and she has this annoying fake laugh. She tries to look like she cares, and tells lies to make herself look good, and when I confront her about them when we're away from the public, she's a bitch 2 me and tells me how bad of a mother I'm gonna be because I am not her biological daughter. She's annoying, she gets on my nerves, she puts way 2 much stress on me and I don't think that I culd take ne of her when I'm trying 2 give birth.

it's all up to you. You can tell her to bugger off if you want and it's totally fine.
You don't need this stress, and you can name YOUR baby whatever YOU want.

My mom is being a bitch a lot lately, and i'm getting really sick of it. To the point where i don't want to live with her for the last 7 months i'm in this town, and i don't want her in the delivery room either. She got mad at me for not incorperating any "Neilson" names into Kylers name. I told her to shove it, cuz we're all girls anyways and i'm having a boy.

So pretty much you have the optionto do whatever. and if she takes it to the government or anything, they'll probably laugh at her and tell her to stop being a controlling bitch.

Quoting Jala:“ because, my mom puts on a huge act for people. She says does things that she wouldn't normally do and ... [snip!] ... gets on my nerves, she puts way 2 much stress on me and I don't think that I culd take ne of her when I'm trying 2 give birth.”

my mom is the same way. Stress is not good for u or the baby during delivery anyway. If u dont want her in the room, i think u should let her know in advance and when it comes time for delivery, tell the nurses.

My mom is mad because I don't want her in the room. I only want my fiance in the room with me... Mainly because my mom has issues. I know how she'd act around my child, and it's my child... not hers. I want her to know where she stands.

OF COURSE; eventually I will change my mind... Well, not of course, but more likely... when she decides to lay off...
Don't be angry with her, or seem to be kind of impatiant with her... Just tell her how you feel, she may not even clue in until the time comes.

Just have a nurse tell her they only allow two people in at a time! We tried kicking my mom out but she snuck back in.

If you dont want her in there you need to stick to that,
explain to her that you only want your b/f in there and it has nothing to do with her but a comfort thing for her.
Try letting her know that she can be the first person to see the baby once it is born.
Tell her you are greatfull for her help and all she wants to do but this is the beg. of you becomming a mother and you need to start to learn the struggles on your own

I just told her that, and now she won't talk 2 me, she thinks that his mom made the choice for me. That she was just mad. My b/f told me that I shuld've waited because he don't think that she willl help me out w/ taking me 2 my doctors appointments now. which I'm afraid he might be right. She got all bitchy so I told her that it was my decision and it was final.

Go to your doctors appointments by yourself? Take a bus... walk... My mom doesn't take me to mine, and my dr is across town.

Quoting Jala:“ I just told her that, and now she won't talk 2 me, she thinks that his mom made the choice for me. That ... [snip!] ... now. which I'm afraid he might be right. She got all bitchy so I told her that it was my decision and it was final.”

She'll come around eventually... My mom is like that too. Big bitch. I tell her she can't watch my child, and that I'd trust my brother over her... mainly 'cause she's a smoker, and I don't want smoke around my child... She flipped on me.

well, no i can't take a bus or walk, i don't live in town, I live out in the country, and I don't have a car of my own and my b/f works so I can't take his car...I have 2 have a ride in2 town which is 45 minutes away