Why do I have to watch other peoples kids?
3814 postsposted 26th Aug
I am the mother of a four year old son. I live in a small town. Because my sons only four I do nt allow him to run amuck unsupervised outside.When Gabriel andIare outside the neighbors think that since there is an adult out and allow their kids to be outside too. Should it be my responsibility to watch these kids, ages 7, 5,and two three year olds. I say obviously no, but why would a loving parent allow this? Am I a crazy over protective mother, should I allow them all to run around and just be boys? Plus the seven year old isa punk and teaches the younger ones inappropriate words which I would not allow Gabriel to say and he doesn't hear from my mouth.So Gabriel is not allowed to play outside when the seven year old is out. He will eventually hear these words but is it ok to shield him from these. So am I jsut being a bitch?
quoteI'm TTC since November '04, have 1 child & 2 angel babies & live in Wisconsin
610 postsposted 26th Aug
nope! they are lazy moms or are taking advantage of the situation., can ur son play in the back yard maybe?
quoteI'm due March 4th, have 1 child & 2 angel babies & live in Rockford, Illinois
12254 postsposted 26th Aug
Nope, I think you are right. I would never leave my 4 yo out by himself. I especially wouldnt want him learning bad language fromt the older child either so I dont blame you. As far as the parents maybe talk to them it. I dont know how thats a toughy but it should be addressed.
quoteI have 2 kids & live in Florida
59 postsposted 26th Aug
They're taking advantage of the situation. I wouldn't tell you not to keep an eye out for them because if something were to happen, you'd undoubtedly feel bad about it. However, perhaps you should tell the neighbor how you feel about the situation.
quoteI'm due February 24th & live in Hammond, Louisiana
1196 postsposted 26th Aug
Hmmm...first off, no your not being a bitch. IMO, I won't 'hide' words from my son. He is going to hear them...whether another kid is teaching him, or from an adult. I will do my part and not say them, and teach him that they are adult words and he is not allowed to use them. I also don't think it's your obligation to watch the others; however if you are out there with your son, it doesn't hurt to keep an eye out. I wouldn't stay out there longer than planned just because they are still out and the other parents aren't watching.
quoteI have 1 child & 1 angel baby & live in Abilene, Texas
452 postsposted 26th Aug
I was going through this same situation with my next door neighbors, it got to the point where I was spending less time outside because of it! Thankfully they moved out last week, but still, you should not have to watch other people's kids! Maybe mention to them that you don't want to feel responsible for their kids when playing outside and that if the little ones are going to be out, they should have a parent with them, and remind them to let the older one know he needs to use appropriate language around your son.
quoteI have 2 kids & live in Minnesota
692 postsposted 26th Aug
Nope your not a bitch in the least just a caring mother who looks out for her child. I would make it known that you aren't a babysitter and that parents need to supervise there children while they are outside. Do you have community watch meetings? If so I would go to one and make it known that there are little kids outside not being supervised and that anything could happen to them! Hit by a car, abduction, etc. I would voice your opinion.
quoteI'm due January 31st & live in Huntsville, Alabama
8391 postsposted 26th Aug
Quoting kc_jones78:“ I am the mother of a four year old son. I live in a small town. Because my sons only four I do nt allow ... [snip!] ... seven year old is out. He will eventually hear these words but is it ok to shield him from these. So am I jsut being a bitch? ”
I'm always confused on how to allow Aidan to play when he's older... I grew up on a Navy base so most kids were out playing by themselves by 4 or 5, we just all stayed together as a group and watched out for cars and whatnot... I would love for us to be able to always live on base so Aidan can experience the same freedoms and security but I think if I lived just in a regular neighborhood (out in the scary civilian world, lol!!) I wouldn't feel comfortable letting Aidan just go play, and I would probably let the other parents in the neighborhood know that just because I'm keeping an eye out for MY child, does not mean this is a free babysitting service... though if we DO live on base the cursing thing will definitely be hard to prevent, lol, there's a reason for the saying "curse like a sailor" lol...
I have 1 child & live in Pensacola, Florida
1018 postsposted 26th Aug
Quoting kc_jones78:“ I am the mother of a four year old son. I live in a small town. Because my sons only four I do nt allow ... [snip!] ... seven year old is out. He will eventually hear these words but is it ok to shield him from these. So am I jsut being a bitch?
omg! i know exactly what your talking about. i keep my kids under control and they have rules and limits and our neighbor kids are completely wild and so are some of my nieces and nephews whose parents choose not to make them behave so when they are around me i make them listen so they dont like me very much
I have 2 kids & live in Adona, Arkansas
posted 26th Aug
Quoting momof2beautifulgirls:“ ”
Are we related some how cause thats exactly my situation-I love my princess of a neice and nephews even though they are sometime bratty. but Yeah,same thing even with them I always seem to be on my sons back telling him not to act like the other boys. But I jsut wanted to know If I was being bitchy for thinking that I shouldn't have to watch others kids and not wanting Gabe to play with the older kid.
I'm TTC since November '04, have 1 child & 2 angel babies & live in Wisconsin
posted 26th Aug
i know what you mean, i have had to flip out on my sil before because she dont spank her kids or even make then listen half the time and one day she yelled at my daughter and tried to spank her and OMG i went off big time i was like hell no you aint even gonna make your bratty kids listen but then your gonna try to spank mine i told her if she ever touched my kids it would be the last time ever...
quoteI have 2 kids & live in Adona, Arkansas
posted 26th Aug
Quoting momof2beautifulgirls:“ i know what you mean, i have had to flip out on my sil before because she dont spank her kids or even ... [snip!] ... kids listen but then your gonna try to spank mine i told her if she ever touched my kids it would be the last time ever...”
My BIL is always disciplining his kids by spanking, never had him attempt to spank Gabe. But Gabe hasn't been a lot and if he gets a swat he act like it is the worst thing that has happened. And he knows that that was the last straw.
I'm TTC since November '04, have 1 child & 2 angel babies & live in Wisconsin
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