re: Single Moms With Assholes Dads?

Quoting Samantha10.31.08:“ lol me too! I'm just getting sick of the whole "wait and see" game we're playing...I can't really do anything BUT wait and see if he's going to do what he said and be involved or not.”

I told my ex that he needed to get a job, or else I'd leave his ass (but he could see Rowan whenever he wanted to). He got a "job" that "might" pay   what the fuck ever. I got sick of him skipping out and doing whatever the hell he wanted, not ever being around, and thinking a job will cover all of the parenting he's supposed to do.

I was screwing around with an ex fiance in dec.

When he and I were together five years ago, we talked alot about having a baby, even had names picked out for the "what if" scares... (we had three of them!)

I was on the pill, but my body just decided it was time to have a baby I guess.
He knows me VERY well, to the point that he knows that if there's ever a baby in my tummy for any reason, I'm keeping it!!!! But about two weeks after he impregnated me, he got back together with another ex of his..... I told him as soon as I found out, which was about a week later.... and his only reply was to "Take care of it." Since then, he bugged me until 13 weeks (the legal termination stage in my state) at least once a week saying that I was a bitch and that I had no business having this baby..... and that I was ruining his life......then after that date passed, I didn't hear from him at all...... I even hid the fact that I was pregnant for four months from our common friends because he made me feel bad for wanting to be a responsible adult. In May, he finally told the girlfriend, and she freaked out, but she didn't leave him as he expected. She moved in with him instead!!!   But, she is VERY controlling, and he's basically not allowed to talk to me.... so he doesn't...... And, this is not your typical "guy" - - - - he's embarrassing to go to wal-mart with - he stares at, smiles at, and talks to babies..... stranger's babies......


As his mother puts it, "His head is too far up her ass to realize that babies happen for a reason, and that he needs to be an adult.... he was adult enough to make him, he should be adult enough to take care of him.... " Luckily, he did manage to tell his mom, and the rest of his family knows me, and is going to be there for my son, even though daddy is an ass!!! I don't want to be with him, we parted ways for a reason, but we do have alot in common, and have managed to stay friends.... kinda, except he doesn't talk to me right now..... when we're both single, we tend to find comfort in one another's "company."


And when I do get a moment to speak with him, (once for maybe 5 min every two or three weeks) and I say anything about hurting or being uncomfortable....

He says, "Well, that's not MY fault...."

WTF?!?!?!

And, he wants me to sign away the support enforcement.... since we can "work it out on our own.... " Um, no we can't. Half of the conversations we have had throughout this pregnancy have been about how you can't afford a baby..... and you don't talk to me....... good luck on that one buddy.

 


Yeah.....the better part is that the gf wants to sit down, all three of us, and be "aware of, and included in, what's going on...."

Um, what's going on??? ........ NOTHING. He got me pregnant before you guys got back together.... and I'm having a baby..... that's it.

He's not even allowed to hang out with me when she's at work and he has the day off..... seriously girlie, he already got me pregnant....how much more trouble could we REALLY get into???  


So it's not just my bd being a jerk.... he has a helper.... and, even before finding out I was pregnant, she used to tell him how much she hates me..... ALL THE TIME!!!! It's because she's insecure, and needy.....oh... and clinically bi-polar.

So, yeah.... I REALLY   feel comfortable letting my bd have visits at their place.... hah. It's called a restraining order bitch.... If you hate me, you must also hate my son.

OP---

The situation you are in NEVER gets better. It only continues to escalate until someone winds up dead. And, while he might not bother your baby now, its only a matter of time. I grew up in a household like this and my only advice is to get out while you still can and before your child is old enough to resent you for staying. Get out before he hurts you seriously or your child. If he winds up choking you to death next time, do you want HIM responsible for your child, because he'd be the only parent then! Think of your child and get OUT as fast as possible. Every state has LOTS of resources to help you get away and stay away. You can find a list of them online by just googling "Domestic Violence Help" and searching for your state. I grew up with a father just like that and went to college and majored in something that allowed me to do the research and find a way to help women like yourself and from all of my case studies, personal experience, and discussions with other victims, it NEVER gets better, and it almost ALWAYS gets much much worse as time goes by. Please seek help.

Quoting ambSzx319:“ I have a pretty bad story about what happen since, I had my son between me and my ex boyfriend.. More ... [snip!] ... ex boyfriend.. More like since I got pregant.. and maybe someone else's storys might make me feel better, knowing im not alone.”

hey u arer not alone i found out i was pregnat july 15 and i told my bf he said it was not his that i cheated on him but i been with 8 months and never cheated but u know i would not let it bother me beause it not worth it we can do it right by our self we dont need no man

Don't worry. It's a part of life.... and everything happens for a reason. I have thee worst baby daddy.... to the point that I'm embarrassed I even dealt with the guy. When he found out I was pregnant he was "excited". God forbid I opened my own door. lol. As soon as I started to show, everything went down hill. In my mind he got cocky. Felt as if; now he "had" me. We stopped talking in April. By the end of May he was feeding me the lines. By June, the 23rd to be exact I decieded to start talking to him again. Give him a chance. Long story short, found out this girl kept texting him. So I wanted to text the girl. We got in an argument and he walked away from me and left me in a parking lot. (I had my car, lol) I just felt he was hiding something and pregnant or not- I'm not a sucker. So we stopped talking, right there. Then like a week or 2 later- he had "&& then Maury said" as his headline onmyspace. WACKKKK!!!! So I wrote him basically stating "What happens between me and you has nothing to do with our child. GROW UP!" && he couldn't write me back. He creates an AIM and IM's me.... we argue and it ended with him saying "Well then I guess your daughter would be better off dead. Should of had an abortion." How do you say such a thing?! I had nothing to respond with.... that was the end. Haven't talked to him since... going on 3months. && honestly I'm proud. He's recently started trying to talk to me again.... but I know I would never respect my self again... && as a mother now, I have to be a role model to my daughter. && no1 deserves an asshole..... there's more men in the see....

Quoting mommyof2!:“ My ex husband got 3 other women pregnant while I was pregnant with our son. He hasn't even tried to see ... [snip!] ... only only paid a few hundred dollars worth of child support in almost 5 years since I filed for it. Feel any better now???LOL”

that sounds so much like my story. my fiance and i wee living together 4 2 years i have been pregnant 4 times from this man. i have caught him cheating several times he was abusive and i just thought that it would get better. my dumb ass! he told me that he got his ex pregnant and out of spite i was still with him a month later i decided it was time 2 give it up. i threw him out he kicked in my door and had my aparment robbed. i had him arrested but they couldn't convict him of the burgulary cause i had no visual evidence. anyway in the process of all of this bull i found out that i'm pregnant again. i didnt want 2 get another termination cause i've had so many now i'm actually having complictions. so anyway i decided 2 keep the baby get help because of the abuse that i been taking 4 so long. i got a new place 2 live a new start and a new son on the way. i just hope that i'm strong enough 2 do this on my own. but i think i just might be okay.