Grandmother In Law [Long]

posted 8 min agoedit
Is a sticking bleepity bleep! & I'm pretty sure I'm going to go NUTS!

Since my fiance got out of the Army we've been staying in her home. She had her basement turned into an apartment & we rent it from her. We pay her, cook our own food, & stick to ourselves. Well, in the beginning we did need a bit of help until the Army gave my honey his severence pay.. Well, she was keeping a tab of everything.. which was fine. Once he got his money he paid her for what we owed plus some.

Well, during the time that we were having monetary issues, she went to a church auction & bought some baby things. Which would have been fine.. but she bought a swing that my Mother probably had with me, a playpen [when we opened it up, actual poop fell out of it, no joke], a cradle [which was old but very beautiful], and half of a carseat.It was missing a base so, not much good right?

Well, she added what that cost her & put it on our tab. We didnt ask for those things, we didn't want those things, she took it upon herself to get them.. But fine, no biggie, we paid her.

Well ,I had my baby shower & my friends and family got me a beautiful swing & a new playpen, a crib from my mom, lots of things. Well, when we came back from Georgia [thats where my babyshower was & my family is] she noticed all of the things & I gladly showed them off. My friends & family got me some amazing gifts. Well, she said whatever I had two of I should give to my father in law, her son, my fiance's dad, because him & his new wife are having a baby too. [the two of them are looney toons but thats another story]Anyways, so yeah, cool. I dont know if she assumed I'd give away the new things or what.. but when my honey was taking the doubles that she picked out [but made us pay for] to the car, she started going off. About how ungrateful we are & everybody does all kinds of things for us.. Blah, blah, blah. Which is a total crock. We pay for everything of our own.

I just want to tell her to get laid or buy a vibrator.. This isn't the only time she's acted completely rediculous. My honey says she's Bi-Polar. Well, she needs to take her damn medication before I seriously go Bi-Polar on her ass.

One day she was mad at her boyfriend for whatever reason, so whoever crossed her path, got to hear it. [She does that on a daily basis, by the way, if she's mad at one person you get to hear what you've done wrong lately.] Anyway, she went on to say how my family wouldn't do all that she does. She's sort of right. My family wouldn't make me feel like crap or let me know all the time that I owe them. I would move out, but we just dont have the money for it right now. Not with all the baby things & paying what we pay for our crappy basement apartment & crappy "neighbor" lol.

Quoting [9w to go]:“ posted 8 min agoedit Is a sticking bleepity bleep! & I'm pretty sure I'm going to go NUTS! Since ... [snip!] ... right now. Not with all the baby things & paying what we pay for our crappy basement apartment & crappy "neighbor" lol.”

My mother in law does the same thing. And it sucks, I know. Just try to ride it out as long as you can. I lived with my MIL while my husband came down on orders for Germany. Although, I got tired of her shit after 8 months, and got command sponsored to go over and join him. We have a great relationship now that I don't live with her. We are great friends as long as you don't put two territorial women in the same house and ask them who's boss. Oh yeah,, and I was paying all of our BAH ($1100 per month) on a $750 per month house note, buying our own groceries, cooking for myself, and everything. Nothing helps a situation like that except to ignore her when she gets unbearable, and work even harder to not have to be in that situation anymore. Good luck, hun.

Thankfully I got blessed with a great MIL. She goes over the top alot, but she is an amazing grandparent. We are from two totally different planets, I do not understand somethings she does for the life of me and vise versa. I just vent to my SO in private and he laughs at me by the time I am done and tells me calm down. Reminds me that just because its not my way, or the way i understand it doesn't mean its wrong. I am sure he has to do the same for her. We both are dominate terrioral women. I just hope she realizes that she is going to have to give up the title of Mom of the house once the baby is here. (his ex and him split up before his son was born and so she has played the mother figure for his son for the past 11 years while he is here, she got his visitation cause he was young and dumb back then, hense why we still live with his parents, he doesn't ahve the heart to pull the visitation from his mom after she has had for so long, and this way everyone gets to be an active part of his sons life. I have backed down since being here since I have no children of my own yet. But I feeling more and more motherly over his son and it will only get worse. I just hopes she realizes that we need to be family and I will be taking over my role as Mom, and she falls into the Grandma roll.)

But I do comend you, I couldn't imagine putting up with that with all the horomones. I would have snapped, possibly her. And don't feel guilty about giving the stuff away, she did after all tell you too! Sry I dont think anyone in their right mind would expect you send all the brand new stuff you know is safe for your baby to someone else and keep a poopy playpen. From what you said I agree the women isn't in her right mind.

Sounds like she upset and a little jealous that your family went out and got you all the brand new beautiful stuff! Let her rant and rave, you got what you wanted and needed and if she can't deal with that, than thats her problem, but it almost sounds like she really just wanted you guys to have to struggle and have crappy things, because if you guys had to pay her back regardless I don't know why she wouldn't buy you guys really nice, new things! You know you guys are not ungrateful, you accepted the gifts and even paid her for them, and I would have flipped out if someone tried to give me used gifts....especially one with poop in it...what the hell was she thinking....but she must have known her gestures were lame, and your family gave you both what you deserve, which totally back fired on her! Well Congratulations...it'll be much easier to put your baby in a playpen that you know has only been used by you guys! Good luck with the Grannie....and def get that lady on some meds!