Grand M.I.L. [kinda long]

Is a sticking bleepity bleep! & I'm pretty sure I'm going to go NUTS!

Since my fiance got out of the Army we've been staying in her home. She had her basement turned into an apartment & we rent it from her. We pay her, cook our own food, & stick to ourselves. Well, in the beginning we did need a bit of help until the Army gave my honey his severence pay.. Well, she was keeping a tab of everything.. which was fine. Once he got his money he paid her for what we owed plus some.

Well, during the time that we were having monetary issues, she went to a church auction & bought some baby things. Which would have been fine.. but she bought a swing that my Mother probably had with me, a playpen [when we opened it up, actual poop fell out of it, no joke], a cradle [which was old but very beautiful], and half of a carseat.It was missing a base so, not much good right?

Well, she added what that cost her & put it on our tab. We didnt ask for those things, we didn't want those things, she took it upon herself to get them.. But fine, no biggie, we paid her.

Well ,I had my baby shower & my friends and family got me a beautiful swing & a new playpen, a crib from my mom, lots of things. Well, when we came back from Georgia [thats where my babyshower was & my family is] she noticed all of the things & I gladly showed them off. My friends & family got me some amazing gifts. Well, she said whatever I had two of I should give to my father in law, her son, my fiance's dad, because him & his new wife are having a baby too. [the two of them are looney toons but thats another story]Anyways, so yeah, cool. I dont know if she assumed I'd give away the new things or what.. but when my honey was taking the doubles that she picked out [but made us pay for] to the car, she started going off. About how ungrateful we are & everybody does all kinds of things for us.. Blah, blah, blah. Which is a total crock. We pay for everything of our own.

I just want to tell her to get laid or buy a vibrator.. This isn't the only time she's acted completely rediculous. My honey says she's Bi-Polar. Well, she needs to take her damn medication before I seriously go Bi-Polar on her ass.

One day she was mad at her boyfriend for whatever reason, so whoever crossed her path, got to hear it. [She does that on a daily basis, by the way, if she's mad at one person you get to hear what you've done wrong lately.] Anyway, she went on to say how my family wouldn't do all that she does. She's sort of right. My family wouldn't make me feel like crap or let me know all the time that I owe them. I would move out, but we just dont have the money for it right now. Not with all the baby things & paying what we pay for our crappy basement apartment & crappy "neighbor" lol.

ohhhh finally, someone else having g-ma in law issues! i lived with my fiances grandparents for a year, and ill tell you, i was singing halleluigah (sp?) the day we moved out. i think she also has mental issues.. severely. she treated my fiance like a 5 year old, and hes 25! she would bring him his dinner plate, tried to give him a bedtime, told him to never get a job because "he didnt have to work, hes the baby", and she would FLIP on me if i wouldnt wait on him hand and foot. she would tell me i wasnt going to make a good mother or wife because i never did anything for him. well, no shit, im not his slave! ugh. the day we moved, she was crying like my fiance died or something. we were moving 2 hours away. she actually had a neighbor ask me a question, just like this- "grandmother is having a really hard time letting him go. do you really have to have him with you? well, would you be mad if your man stayed down here and you just moved? grandmother needs him. shes not ready." i wanted to rip their heads off! i think 25 years old is a more than ready time to move out on your own with your fiance and baby on the way! ugh. now her and her hubby keep saying theyre going to buy this and that for the baby, but havent done anything yet. whatever.. i could really care less. i could go on and on about her and what she says, but i dont want to flood your posts! lol.

Yeah my FIL is bi polar too and the only way to make things better is to LEAVE i know you said you couldnt but thats really the only thing that will work. Skip out on paying her one or two times and go get an apartment. I promise its much easier when they cant police you. Althoug i granutee she will over step when that babies born but put her in her place i had to with my FIL and it worked.

Kick her ass!!!

Don't worry about her...she'll get over it in time. I would have done the same thing. Call me a bitch/spoiled/whatever you like, but I wanted all new things for my baby. I got a lot a of hand-me-downs and what wasn't up to par to me was sent straight to goodwill. If I could afford to buy brand new or recieved it as a gift that is what I kept.

Wow that is crazy!! Moving out before you have your baby would be a really good thing to do. I know you can not afford it, but wow is their anyway? She is just gonna be the type who always wants the baby and then acts like she is helping you and watches the kids all day and then she will tell everyone how lazxy you are and she feeds and changes the baby. Crazy woman are like that.. they ask to watch your kid and when you agree they act like they are doing you a favor.. I'd say if you can not move out don't let her "help" with the baby cuz knowing her she might charge you!!

Quoting kR!sta:“ Wow that is crazy!! Moving out before you have your baby would be a really good thing to do. I know you ... [snip!] ... doing you a favor.. I'd say if you can not move out don't let her "help" with the baby cuz knowing her she might charge you!!”

Haha! You are probably right.

Quoting lainybabi:“ ohhhh finally, someone else having g-ma in law issues! i lived with my fiances grandparents for a year, ... [snip!] ... i could really care less. i could go on and on about her and what she says, but i dont want to flood your posts! lol.”

omg yes!!!
lol when he was still in the army he was stationed in ga, well, we came up here at christmas time.. we didn't leave her house but one time, to go to the movies
the day we left she was screaming about how he didnt spend any time with her and how he is so mean to her. she was balling her eyes out. it freaked me out. lol
i told him she wants to marry him, lol

Quoting ..andrea..:“ Don't worry about her...she'll get over it in time. I would have done the same thing. Call me a bitch/spoiled/whatever ... [snip!] ... up to par to me was sent straight to goodwill. If I could afford to buy brand new or recieved it as a gift that is what I kept.”

All new moms want everything new and perfect for their 1st kids .. it is normal anyone who thinks it is being a bicth or spoiled are just confused with being concerned and wanting safety for your children. My mother in law tried to give me a used mattress and I explained to her that used mattress can cause SIDS she thought I was crazy so I was like whatever and I went to go and see this mattreess [it was used for 3 kids already] and it was actually outside in the backyard, been rained on, and all kinds of crap and I said no.. I was called stuck up.. to me it was basic standards.. I didn't even give my 2nd baby my daughters crib mattress

Quoting kR!sta:“ All new moms want everything new and perfect for their 1st kids .. it is normal anyone who thinks it ... [snip!] ... I said no.. I was called stuck up.. to me it was basic standards.. I didn't even give my 2nd baby my daughters crib mattress”

Ummm...gross. Who in their right mind would actually want to put their child on a mattress that had been living outside? They aren't that expensive. Yeah, you were stuck up all right...shame on you for caring about your child's well being.

Well, I want the best yes, but my whole life I've been a consignment shop queen! They've got some amazing childrens consignment shops out there. & they're completely picky about what they sell. I bought a bouncy from one near here & it looks like it's never been touched seriously. we got the pack n play from there too. & if aaron's ex step mom, yeah i know, doesnt get the stroller like she swears she will, thats probably where we'll end up getting one.
I just have a standard of if it looks like crap I'm not using it. lol Especially if a piece of doodie literally falls onto my feet.

Quoting ..andrea..:“ Haha! You are probably right.”

I already told my honey.. Once we're out of here that is it. I dont want her around my baby unless I'm there & I dont want to be around her, so oh well. He completely understands how I feel. He knows she's crazy, hes not blind to it.
She's got club feet so she obviously has trouble doing things. As I meantioned earlier we're in the basement, well, at one time we were on her actual second floor of the house & she couldnt just come upstairs because it's hard on her so she made up excuses after excuses for us to move to the basement just so she can come to the damn door whenever she pleases & bitch about something.
Sometimes when she speaks directly to me, I outright ignore her. She just sits there & stares back but I cant help it, I get so pissed off. lol

When I went for my Phase two u/s the doc told me i could be there a few hours because people being seen before me may have complications or i may have complications & just to be prepared & to clear the day. well, when we were getting ready to go to that appt she asked how long we'd be gone & i told her. she called me a liar & said she knew how long u/s took. yeah, i'd really lie about that. lol. PSYCHO I SWEAR!

Quoting [9w to go]:“ omg yes!!! lol when he was still in the army he was stationed in ga, well, we came up here at christmas ... [snip!] ... how he is so mean to her. she was balling her eyes out. it freaked me out. lol i told him she wants to marry him, lol ”

the sad thing is, kerry is her OLDEST grandson! her youngest is turning 9 soon, so you would think she would be babying them, but nope. she continues to do that crap to a 25 year old man. ughhh.. she came up to our apartment one time, and it took her and kerrys grandfather 4 1/2 hours to get here (we live an hour and a half to two hours away!), and now she wont come up here again because of that, and she tells everyone in her family to make us come visit them because we "live 4 1/2 hours away". she actually flipped out on me and him because my sister bought us a brand new crib, and she was accusing my sister of "trying to kill the baby" because the baby's head can slip in between the bars and suffocate.. ok, seriously?! LOL!!!!!!!!! she also had head lice in the beginning of this year, and actually stood by my bed (when we still lived there), scratched her head like crazy and was throwing the stray hairs on the floor AND my mattress. needless to say, the next day my fiance and i had lice. disgusting. i honestly think she did that on purpose too, because at the time, i was "taking her baby away from her". ugh.

Quoting lainybabi:“ the sad thing is, kerry is her OLDEST grandson! her youngest is turning 9 soon, so you would think she ... [snip!] ... disgusting. i honestly think she did that on purpose too, because at the time, i was "taking her baby away from her". ugh.”

Oh my God! lol.
His grandmother is only 60 and he is 26 somy grandparents aremuch older thanhis Grandparents. & they just dont act like this. I do not understand it. lol.

Quoting [9w to go]:“ Oh my God! lol. His grandmother is only 60 and he is 26 so she's much older than my Grandparents. & they just dont act like this. I do not understand it. lol.”

his grandmother is 66. its kinda funny, she was born in 42 and in 2004 she kept saying she was "63 years old".. but she was actually 62! haha. all i keep getting told is to "suck it up" because she "is old and very senile". but honestly, from what ive heard shes ALWAYS been like that. so idk. haha.. im just glad i dont have to put up with her anymore!