I Need Major Help

Okay so 4 days ago, i found out my fianceé and boyfriend of 4 and a half years cheated on me and got the girl pregnant. Im so lost here. She tells me they been together for 7 months and she 4 months pregnant and he told her he loved her. But he tells me they been friends for 5 months and he told her he loved her but never truly did. I have no idea what to do. My heart still loves him so much but my gut is tellin him to leave him alone. Im still pregnant with our first child and for the whole pregnancy was juss him and i. How could i go the last lap without my runnin mate? Im sorry its so long but im so screwed up right now and i cant have this stress. Thnx

He'd be kicked to the curb if it were me. Fuuuuuck him. If he can't respect you, then why waste your time? You dont deserve that shit. Once a player, always a player.

So he got 2 girls pregnant at the same time? Dump his ass he's a loser.

leave his ass.
hes not worth your time, trust me
i say this from expirience
if he did love you he wouldnt of cheated on you

Quoting LuckyInNovember:“ Okay so 4 days ago, i found out my fianceé and boyfriend of 4 and a half years cheated on me and got ... [snip!] ... i go the last lap without my runnin mate? Im sorry its so long but im so screwed up right now and i cant have this stress. Thnx”

I am very sorry to hear that. The pain of cheating is terrible. My advice, try and forgive for your child. When I say forgive I dont mean allow him to be apart of your life, your better than that. But forgive for your childs sake where you can be friends. My dad cheated on my mom right after I was born and all i heard my whole life was bitterness, not fighting but bitter attitudes. She couldnt ever trust him. then at 15 he cheated on her again. Divorced and couldnt be happier!

That's so fucked up! Leave his sorry, piece of shit, cheatin ass!

he can still be there to support you and this baby. But he doesnt need to be there in a relationship. he messed up you deserve better. But this is his child, and as long as he wants to be in the picture let him be there

His ass would be long gone. My ex-fiance and I were TTC and another woman ended up pregnant instead of me. I got out of that situation so fast.

You can do it by yourself. You don't need someone that just adds stress to be there for you. You can be strong, it is in you. You need to tell him to kiss your whole ass and move on!

Sorry you are in that situation!

I would kick him in the ass before throwing him out! You don't need him....he can still be a father without being with him....

If you stay with him, how are you gonna be able to trust him....hes gonna be back and forth between you and the other girl and thats not right....he owes both babies the same respect, so you can't judge the other child, just him... he isn't worth all the trouble he will cause you...get rid of him and just let him play daddy....well thats my opinion.

sorry to hear about him being such a scumbag because thats what he is if hes gonna cheat on you especially while your preg and to get another chick preg oh hell no that mo fo would get kicked to the curb faster than he could unzip his pants sorry to be so frank about it but thats how i feel

Leave him alone. He wont change.

when i was pregnant with my now 2 year old her biological father cheated on me and i left him several times. I did try to get him into her life but he would hve nothing to do with that, it was his lose though ebcuse when she was a year adn a half when he decided he wanted to be around she already had her daddy. The guy i'm with now whose also this baby i'm carryings father. He even told me to put his name on my daughters birth certificate because after the one time i told my daughters biological father i was done with him and wasn't putting him in and out of her life liek before he stop tryign and talking to me nad everything...havn't heard from him in six months

i'd leave his ass!!! once a cheater always a cheater then to have the other girl preg if he loved you and cared for you he wouldn't have done it. when you love someone you don't do that shit... you and your baby are better off without him!! I left my daughters dad after this pregnancy was planned (he wanted a baby girl sooo bad, i wanted to wait) and 6 wks after i told him i was preg he cheated and he got kicked to the curb... you gotta think of whats best for your baby right now... sorry he cheated guys are dogs....stay strong for the lil one though

Thanx girls and i kno you are all right, i would never take him from his baby but its gonna be so hard to have him around and not want him back. Im usually such a strong person but i juss get so weak with him i become putty.

Quoting LuckyInNovember:“ Thanx girls and i kno you are all right, i would never take him from his baby but its gonna be so hard ... [snip!] ... hard to have him around and not want him back. Im usually such a strong person but i juss get so weak with him i become putty.”

Good luck to you! Don't let him play you for a fool! Your sitaution will only get harder when both babies are born. my heart goes out to you, girly. be strong!

Just remember:
"Fool you once, shame on him"
"Fool you twice, shame on you!

Don't let him get the best of you!