re: Is it really THAT bad?

I saw something on TV one time where they did a study of which parent newborns looks the most like because they had found that almost 100% of the time, when a baby is born, people always tell the father how much the baby looks like him. So they showed strangers pictures of the father, the mother and the baby and asked them who the baby most looked like. And the study found that a brand new newborn 9 times out of 10 doesn't really resemble one parent or the other yet. They said that people automatically say the baby looks like the father because subconsciously you don't want the father to doubt the paternity of the child. Weird, huh?

Quoting Sarah_Marie {*HBC*}:“ I saw something on TV one time where they did a study of which parent newborns looks the most like because ... [snip!] ... baby looks like the father because subconsciously you don't want the father to doubt the paternity of the child. Weird, huh?”

Totally off topic buuuuttttt....

My son looked exactly like my husband. It was the weirdest thing. Everyone said he looks like a little old man because he didnt have fat on him yet. I mean it was the funniest thing. Now, he looks more like me because he has my chubby cheeks, but man he looked just like my husband.

See, just like a little old man.

Quoting Sarah_Marie {*HBC*}:“ I saw something on TV one time where they did a study of which parent newborns looks the most like because ... [snip!] ... baby looks like the father because subconsciously you don't want the father to doubt the paternity of the child. Weird, huh?”

I totally agree with the TV thing. When Maddy was born she looked JUST like her dad. But now, everybody says she looks just like me.

And the paternity test thing, it depends on the circumstances.Maddy's dad and I aren't together anymore, but he very well knew I didn't cheat and that she was his, which is why it pissed me off when he asked for a paternity test. And on the subjecty of cheating,he's the one that cheated on me, yet I stayed with his sorry ass for 5 more months. Biggest mistake of my LIFE.

we were together, we broke up, a month later we were back together and i got pregnant...He asked me to take a test because he wanted to make sure it was his...i didnt have sex the whole month we werent together but i didnt blame him for not wanting one, because shit like that happens

but the moment i gave birth to him, he looked like his daddy, and even had the birth mark on his neck that all of his family has..

he cant deny him

I think alot of teenage boys ask in hopes that the baby ISNT theirs. At least thats how it seems to be around here.

Quoting Barfy McVomitron:“ I think alot of teenage boys ask in hopes that the baby ISNT theirs. At least thats how it seems to be around here.”

 

and I don't blame them.

Quoting Chicki-Chicki:“   and I don't blame them.”

I cant say I would either....its like "C'mon .....no Whammys no Whammys"


aww, man.
lol

I broke up with my baby's father when I was 2 months pregnant.. He knew I was pregnant when we broke up... and for about 3 months I dated another guy because I really needed someone to lean on... well later on in the pregnancy I got back with my daughter's father (around 7-8 months) When we got back together he said he wanted a test... I started crying and askedif he was serious.. and he appologized and admitted he knew she was his. Later on his family wanted me to get a test because our daughter has blue eyes and neither of us do.. I got a little heated and said if my baby's father had any doubts I'd go do it... but he said no he knew she was his and thats all that mattered.

It was pretty offensive to me when he asked the first time because I hadn't cheated on him and he knew before we broke up. It did't just feel like an accusation that I had cheated, thats exactly what it was.

Quoting Sarah_Marie {*HBC*}:“ I saw something on TV one time where they did a study of which parent newborns looks the most like because ... [snip!] ... baby looks like the father because subconsciously you don't want the father to doubt the paternity of the child. Weird, huh?”

That is wierd, but ya know, my babies all have resemblences of each other. My little girl looks exactly like my oldest son, but when she cries, she makes my youngest son's face. I dunno...for me, there was no denying my husband as father. I mean, for obvious reasons as he was my only sex partner our relationship and then the fact that my babies all have his nose. There's no denying those fat heads either. My poor vag.  

I see nothing wrong with it. I offered one to my boyfriend, and he declined. Now both my brothers have babies on the way, and I can hear the doubt in their voices. Women have the "luxury" of being the child bearer, therefore not only is there no doubt, but it's also real to them a lot sooner.

im not sure if it is all that bad ...,. I all but demanded one from my oldest daughters father . He denied her for a year then he met her and it was readilly apparent he was her dad . He isnt in her life much but he isnt denying her now .

Quoting Tara Maureen:“ For a guy to ask for a paternity test? I see alot of girls bitching about their baby's father's asking ... [snip!] ... children are ours. Men don't have that, so is it really a horrible thing for a potential father to ask for a paternity test?”

I don't think it's too much to ask. I've heard more than enough stories of father's being lied to and raising kids that aren't theirs. If my fiance had wanted a paternity test it would have stung a bit, btu I would have given it to him. I agree with the whole, it came out of the woman so she knows for sure, but the guy doesn't have that luxury. And cheating is hardly a novel thing.

*For the record, my fiance didn't ask for a test. And he most certainly didn't need to considering our daughter is a spitting image of him. She only has my eyes and ears.