***I Hate My BD.. kinda long vent sorry but plase read and g

     ahhh im soo sad right now and need some help!    .... ok so i havent seen my bf in over a week we been fighting but we talked today and hes like i promise i will see you later and we will takl about everything.... i was like ok but plase dont lie i miss you and wanna talk, hes like ok ill call you in about a hour that would of been 5 o'clock still waiting!!!!!!!!!! sooo crazy me just starts blowing up his phone and he wont answer then turned it off.. so i drove past his house (thinking ok maybe hes sleepin, nope he aint there) hes never gonna change and its just soo hard to let him go!!! i love him with ALL of my heart and want him to be around but he aint at all...... today was the 1st time i even talked to him like like 3 days... ( he texted me like 2 days ago saying "i love you and miss you" but didnt even call me then next day WTF!!!!!!!!! he wants be in a "relationship" with me but never wants to spend time with me im soooo hurt right now, and its so hard to just wait and see what happends!!! PLEASE give me some advice, or if you were in similar situations let me kno! thats soo much and sorry if its a little hard to understand......

sounds like he doesn't know what he wants.

It sounds like he isn't ready to be in a relationship, or a daddy for that matter

I have a friend that just had her BF leave her and wouldn't speak to her even after the MC.

My best advice.... You deserve better than that. It's OK to love him, but you deserve better and can and WILL find someone who will love you AND treat you with the respect you deserve. Do what is best for YOU. (it may not be the easiest choice).

I'm sorry your going through all this so close to your due date. Maybe he's scared about thebaby coming or is trying to have some fun before the baby comes. If he still acts like this after the baby is born, then maybe it's best your not together. Good luck!

Quoting alison / mommy of two:“ sounds like he doesn't know what he wants.”

i know he obvously dont miss me bc he would seen me and talked about things... i dont understand guys i wish it was easy to let him gooooo!

im sorry to hear that..mayb hes gettin a little nervous with ur due date gettin close... i just hope hes around more to be with u after the baby comes 

i call bullshit on his part.

if he really loved you and really wanted to be with you. he would find a way. if he truly has no good excuse that he hasnt seen you in so many days - like super busy with work or family or other important issues - then that just goes to show you that he is unreliable and that is not what you need. everyone needs someone they know for a fact without a doubt that they can count on.

All the love in the world cannot keep you together with someone who you cant count on. Trust me, Ive been there. And its soo hard to realize and takes a really long time to. But once you do, you find out you are better off alone than to be with someone you never actually got to be with. Physically or mentally speaking.

Quoting *natalee*2 weeks & 4 days:“      ahhh im soo sad right now and need some help!    .... ok so i havent seen my bf in over a ... [snip!] ... some advice, or if you were in similar situations let me kno! thats soo much and sorry if its a little hard to understand......”

remember this if he dont want to spend time with you he isnt worth your time.... u should tell him he dont kno what he is loosing and he is even loosing his child...

Quoting *natalee*2 weeks & 4 days:“ i know he obvously dont miss me bc he would seen me and talked about things... i dont understand guys i wish it was easy to let him gooooo!”

it's never easy, but it sounds like that's what needs to be done. anybody can do better than that.

i dont get it, like hello asshole your baby can come any day now and you wanna act lke a little ass kid, i didnt do this myself and thought you would be around! ahh i cant stop crying i ust wish he would answer the phone! i dont know what to do, if i leave he alone for a couple days its like it dont matter bc thats what i did all week!

Quoting *natalee*2 weeks & 4 days:“      ahhh im soo sad right now and need some help!    .... ok so i havent seen my bf in over a ... [snip!] ... some advice, or if you were in similar situations let me kno! thats soo much and sorry if its a little hard to understand......”

Trust me I am going through the same thing...My bf/bd promises me that he is going to move into my house (i live alone and i am on bedrest) and help me with this pregnancy...he promises me that he is going to be at every appointment and ultrasound...he promises me so many things...Then he breaks them...He was supposed to move in over a month ago...still nothing...his mom is going to duluth this week and won't be back till saturday and my doctors appointment is friday and he even asked me if he could come with and I told him yes and now he is blowing me and his son off to go to duluth for the week...pisses me off...He doesn't talk to me at all...refuses to see me and help me...but then gets mad at me for telling him that since he won't come around and help then I am making him pay child support...I have already told him that he will miss his son's birth because he only has a cell phone and turns it on silent and doesn't answer it and sleeps all day...you can't wake him up with his phone...I can barely wake him up when he is next to me...He thinks I am threatening him...No...it's just that he won't wake up right now...and he isn't living with me...He is 26 and still living with his mom and blowing me off...Especially when I went to the hospital a few times...He wouldn't pick up his phone or answer my texts or anything...Then he bitched at me because I went without him...We fight so much but then we have our good days when he is actually helping...We have been together for about 1 1/2 years...I am hoping that everything will change after our son is born otherwise I am throwing him out of mine and my son's life completely...He already isn't being a father and I am on bedrest...why would he be any different after his son is actually here and has to be taken care of...I know exactly what you are going through...

Quoting nwatermelonsugar:“ I have a friend that just had her BF leave her and wouldn't speak to her even after the MC. My best ... [snip!] ... who will love you AND treat you with the respect you deserve. Do what is best for YOU. (it may not be the easiest choice).”

I agree that is is okay to love him, but that doesnt mean you need to be with him. I still love my last boyfriend, but I know we cant be together. I know he loves me too, but he is very unreliable and I cannot count on him. I deserve someone who will be there for me when I need them to be. So I know that I am better off alone.

Quoting *natalee*2 weeks & 4 days:“ i dont get it, like hello asshole your baby can come any day now and you wanna act lke a little ass kid, ... [snip!] ... the phone! i dont know what to do, if i leave he alone for a couple days its like it dont matter bc thats what i did all week!”

at least try to act like you don't give a shit. usually when guys feel like you're needy, it's a turn off & they act like dicks.

Quoting Jett has arrived!:“ i call bullshit on his part. if he really loved you and really wanted to be with you. he would find ... [snip!] ... find out you are better off alone than to be with someone you never actually got to be with. Physically or mentally speaking.”

i know bc when i talked to him thins morning i asked him what he was doing today if he was busy and he said no.. so its not like he had shit to do...   it just really sucks that he would rather be with his friends or at hoime all day knowing how im feeling and cant take any time for me!