hubby issues!

I need husband advice!! I have been married to my husband since March and shortly after we got married we found out we were expecting our first little bundle of joy. At first he seemed really excited about having a baby, he told all his friends and family and just seemed like he couldn't wait. It made me feel more comfortable about the situation because he's a few years older than me ( i'm 19 and he's 24 ). I was really scared when I first found out because I felt like I was too young to be a mother and I was scared that I wouldn't be a good mom. Well.. months have passed and it seems like now I'm the one thats getting ready for the baby and he seems to ignore the subject. He's actually turned into quite the jerk about me being pregnant. One thing he said to me that made me start crying was.. " stop using pregnancy as an excuse.." I was shocked when he said this, how can he be so cold? I'm bringing his son into this world.. I just don't get it! He then uses his own excuse with saying.. he's stressed about having to take care of me and a baby. ( since he's getting out of the army in the next couple of months and won't have the medical and the paycheck coming in..) Doesn't he see that I stress too..?

The next issue is that he doesn't seem to want to be a part of buying baby stuff. Everytime we go to the store, I just love to peek at the baby stuff just because I wanna get an idea on prices and just what I will need to get. He hates it and thinks its pointless and thinks we should wait on getting stuff for the baby. At first his excuse was "we don't know the sex of the baby, so why buy stuff?" I could understand that, so I waited on looking and buying until we found out. Now that we know its a new excuse! "why don't we wait till after the baby shower to see what we don't have.." Ugh!

I guess my question to you ladies is... What should I do.. Should I just stop pushing him into being involved with the baby and just wait for him to come around? I've told him how I felt about the whole situation but.. It's hard because I recently moved down to Florida to get ready for the baby and he's stuck in colorado due to the army. I feel like I can't get through to him over the phone because he never wants to talk about whats bothering me.. Its just not the same as talking face to face.

I just feel like I shouldn't be going through this.. we are married! I didn't think my husband would be scared to start a family.. because its why we got married, we wanted to take the next step.. Now that we took that step it's almost like he wants to go back a few steps and it's to late for that!

He will come around. I've been married 4 years now and hubby is super excited about the baby, but has not bought one single solitary baby item. He's actually only been to the baby section of the store one time and that's because I had to exchange a couple things before the receipt expired. And he didn't oooh and aaah over the baby stuff like women do. It didn't really bother me because I just know how he is. (And you will learn your hubby once you've been married longer). I did ask him a couple days later why he didn't pick anything out, buy anything, etc; kinda like you're doing. He was just like "I don't know." I said "You didn't see anything you would have liked to get the baby??" Then he finally fessed up, "well there was this overalls outfit that I thought was cute, but...."
I know he's excited, but I think a little nervous too. Maybe your hubby just has some butterflys about being a dad and buying stuff before baby gets here.

Good luck!    

everything will be fine. im not married, but it seems that every man goes thru this. i had to talk to a friend who recently had a baby and he basically gave it to me raw what are going thru their minds. ur husband loves you dearly. they just dont understand what we really are going thru and deal with preparing for baby differently. the one thing that may be truly bothering him is the fact that insurance and money will not be there like before. my bf is dealing with, 'im afraid i may not be able to take care of my family'. its normal. they are just as afraid as we are. he's excited, but just looking at the bigger picture and it gets frustrating for him. when he's frustrated, it frustrates you, and then you're arguing. sometimes i just have to walk away, take a deep breath and remind myself that its hormones, things will be fine, we just have to continue to work together thru our difficult times. reality sits in a lot faster with us than them, because we are actually carrying the baby. we feel the baby, the baby is apart of us. they are pretty much on the outside looking in and know they have to step up to the plate whether they are ready or not. men dont show emotion, we have to remember that as well. not trying to give him an excuse, but we just have to sometimes try and understand what they may be going thru as well. try not to talk "baby talk" all the time either. i had to learn that the hard way! lol good luck mama. everything will be fine.

thanks   I'm hoping he will come around but its just so frustrating at times..

Ha I know exactly what your talking about...baby shopping isn't as exciting to men as it is to woman! I wanted to go out & go shopping as soon as we found out we were pregnant, my boyfriend wanted to wait till we found out the sex of the baby..we compromised & bought a few things that would be good for a boy or girl...then once we found out the sex i wanted to go by everything but my boyfriend insisted we don't buy too much till after baby shower..so we bought a few things but i'm glad we didnt buy too much cuz we got WAY more then enough stuff from our baby shower! My boyfriend is like most guys & doesnt really want to go in the baby section, i let him go wonder around & meet me back there..the further along i'm getting, the more involved hes getting & actually buying stuff on his own...some guys take awhile to come around! shopping just isn't a guy thing!!

Its the opposite for me and my fiance lol! He bought a crib already, and got a bunch of bedding and blankets at a yard sale, some John Deere toys (he loves john deere lol!) before we even found out the sex, he said he had the "instinct" it was a boy but I know he was just hoping haha. He was right though. I go looking for clothes and stuff and I have no clue what to get, and I keep telling myself to wait till after the baby shower, and Daddy's already getting a box of diapers each paycheck haha.