Newborn's spending the night?

I'm not at all sure where I should post this, but here goes.
In recent conversations, my step-mom has made comments about keeping the baby at her house overnight sometimes. She even told me she bought a bassinet so he could sleep over there. Does this even sound normal? I'll be breast feeding so it's not like she can just feed him, and who has ever let their newborn be away from them for the night?
I'm not going to allow it, but feel like it shouldn't even be an issue because what normal person would expect me to let my newborn spend the night with them? Am I just being crazy? Sure, he can go over to their house as long as I'm with him. I'm a stay at home mom and I don't plan on having/needing a babysitter to ver often. Of course when DH and I want to go out, but that won't be for a few months.

Um no, that does sound weird. I mean maybe when the baby is older, but my son didn't spend the night away from me until he was 1 1/2. Partly because I was nursing and he would not take a pumped bottle in the middle of the night. My daughters 9 months and we haven't tried a night away from her yet. I would tell her she should invest in a crib or play pen because your not going to be giving her the baby overnight until after its too big for the bassinet!!

Quoting MrsJackson:“ I'm not at all sure where I should post this, but here goes. In recent conversations, my step-mom has ... [snip!] ... plan on having/needing a babysitter to ver often. Of course when DH and I want to go out, but that won't be for a few months.”

we did acouple times with my mil and made up bottles ahead of time..she LOVED it..i would let her do it,or maybe even if its just for acouple hours to get some coffee and maybe some sex or something(lol JK)..i dont think its weird,mils love it 

I wouldn't let my newborn stay overnight with anyone. For a few hours for a break yes, all night no. I would tell her that while you appreciate the thought and her willingness to help but the baby won't be making any overnight visits until you have stopped breastfeeding and feel comfortable. I would stress that it's not that you don't trust her but you feel that you need time to bond with your baby.

Quoting MrsJackson:“ I'm not at all sure where I should post this, but here goes. In recent conversations, my step-mom has ... [snip!] ... plan on having/needing a babysitter to ver often. Of course when DH and I want to go out, but that won't be for a few months.”

way weird!!! and you baby wont like it any more than you do!!!!!!!
With you is one thing.....
The first (and only) time i let my daughter leave with her Abuela she screamed the entire time.... and it was only for a few hours.

i wouldn't let my son spend the night, but the bassinet will be good for when your visiting her and the baby gets tired.my son is almost 7 months old and he's only been watched by someone other than me or my husband ONCE. this was my mil for my birthday so we could go out to dinner.he was pretty good for her, but i was a nervous wreck the whole time.

Wow! All of you mom's are making me feel like I am a bad mother! At 7 weeks I let Dylan stay the night with his Mimi and Papa and at 10 weeks I let him stay with his great grandparents. They adore him and have all had children of their own so it's not like they don't already know what they are doing! I just supplied bottles for them. I missed Dylan like CRAZY when he was gone, but at least I knew he was in good hands.
However, newborn is until what age? 4-5 weeks? Does that mean you view me as past the newborn stage or am I just a terrible mom for allowing Dylan to sleep over with grandparents?

My godson starteding spending the night at my house when he was about 4 months old. My friend was happy to get out for a night but she did call a few times to check in on him. He LOVED it. He slept through the night and he didnt even cry when she left.
It shouldn't be an ever dayevent but Overnight once in a while is good especialy for you.

Quoting ♥Just Juls♥:“ Wow! All of you mom's are making me feel like I am a bad mother! At 7 weeks I let Dylan stay the night ... [snip!] ... that mean you view me as past the newborn stage or am I just a terrible mom for allowing Dylan to sleep over with grandparents?”

absolutly not-i think its a very good idea..zoe has turned into a secure little baby regardless..right now she is at the pool with nanny and bumpa and she has been all day-she has a blast!(i on the other hand am bored out of my mind without her..shes never experianced any anxiety or playing strange EVER

Quoting ♥Just Juls♥:“ Wow! All of you mom's are making me feel like I am a bad mother! At 7 weeks I let Dylan stay the night ... [snip!] ... that mean you view me as past the newborn stage or am I just a terrible mom for allowing Dylan to sleep over with grandparents?”

No you are not a bad mom. Some people have really close family and trust them. Others hate there MIL or dont trust her or are just not comfortable with leaving there child. It is everyone own personal choice...like breastfeed or bottle feed, go to work or SAHM, shots or no shots? Ilet my son stay alone with my mom the first time at 2yrs old anly for the fact that before that age he was hooked on my hip and didnt want to leave me. Now he spends every weekend almost at my Moms.

Thanks, Katie. Dylan did breast feed for a little while but then I just couldn't produce anymore. The doctor told me that my whopping 5 oz a DAY supply wasn't doing my baby any good along with the formula so I needed to just relax and quit.   And yes, I tried ALL of the tips and tricks and I even have a great pump, the medela in-style. It just wasn't happening for me. I KNOW that Dylan going to formula made letting him stay with grandparents easier for me. I don't regret it. They are so good with him and to see them light up when they see him makes me feel good that I'm doing something to bring them joy.

Quoting Sara12345:“ absolutly not-i think its a very good idea..zoe has turned into a secure little baby regardless..right ... [snip!] ... a blast!(i on the other hand am bored out of my mind without her..shes never experianced any anxiety or playing strange EVER”

Self-Security. I agree. That is one reason I was happy I was doing this with Dylan. He is a confident little thing and he is happy with anyone. He LOVES his mommy, but he also feels completely safe and happy with other family members as well. I like something about that.

wow .. my kids stayed out when they were newborns after they had their first shots of course.. and i plan on it with this one too since i will be back at work oncehe hits 2 months i CAN NOT stay home. i love my job too much
my mom loves her grandkids and i would never deny her spending time with them.. and also i used work alot on the weekends when my other kids were newbies so it was just easier that way
i know i annoyed her by calling so much but they were fine
and also they stayed with daddy too..

i dont think its a problem as long as you trust them

Quoting PREGO & A LESBIAN YAY:“ wow .. my kids stayed out when they were newborns after they had their first shots of course.. and i ... [snip!] ... calling so much but they were fine and also they stayed with daddy too.. i dont think its a problem as long as you trust them”

I agree 100%.

Quoting ♥Just Juls♥:“ Wow! All of you mom's are making me feel like I am a bad mother! At 7 weeks I let Dylan stay the night ... [snip!] ... that mean you view me as past the newborn stage or am I just a terrible mom for allowing Dylan to sleep over with grandparents?”

Lol.. I feel the same way. When my daughter was born my sister would come pick us up and take us to her house on weekends, because my husband worked nights... and we stayed the night.. and then around 2 or 3 weeks old, Me and my husband were sick, so she stayed with my mother-in-law for the night. After that... My sister would take her on some weekends... She offered and I was exhausted. My sister still takes her every other weekend, and my daughter enjoys it. And I enjoy having thetime to do things I can't do with her following me. A few months ago, she stayed with my sister for 4 days while me and my husband went to Texas. It was long.. and we missed her like crazy.. but at the same time.. We had fun.. and I didn't have to worry, because I know my sister takes great care of her. I can totally understand someone not wanting their newborn to stay overnight somewhere though.