re: ::vent::: is a little help a lot to ask for? ::vent::

Quoting Kevin's Mommy:“ We have to do a schedule because we are both messy people, and if we don't have something that basically ... [snip!] ... this house has to be clean! I don't want him to choke on something that he gets off a table. I would never forgive my self!”

omg i know I freak about that all the time too, actually last night I had the weirdest dream about lib choking on something. Actually I was going to make a post about that because it was sooo weird...

Hmmm...I feel really bad for you right now.

My boyfriend and I always deposited/cashed both of our checks, paid all of the bills, bought groceries, took out money for gas, and THEN kept money for spending. He needs to learn how to manage his money and that he has a family to care for. He's not a single guy anymore.

And you need to sit him down and tell him every single thing that you've told us on here. Tell him you're at your wits end and you're going to break if he doesn't start contributing. Explain to him that you have TWO full time jobs and he only has one and isn't contributing to his child's care whatsoever. If he doesn't listen maybe you should take the one of the weekends he's off and go somewhere. Leave him with the baby and a list of things that need to be done while you're gone. Maybe he'll understand how hard it is for you.

I hope he comes around, no one deserves to deal with PPD and all of that. :[

Quoting Beth [due 12-25-08]:“ Hmmm...I feel really bad for you right now. My boyfriend and I always deposited/cashed both of our ... [snip!] ... Maybe he'll understand how hard it is for you. I hope he comes around, no one deserves to deal with PPD and all of that. :[”

 

Exactly!

Goo luck mama, I really hope you start feeling better and soon!!

Quoting Owens Mommy♥:“ I tried the not doing anything for him deal... didn't work. The house got DISGUISTING, and we were going ... [snip!] ... flipped out about it, written down what I need, etc. I've tried everything.I don't know what else to do to get through to him.”

  I'm sorry. Talking to him is obviously not going to work. He needs to go get a massive wake up call. The way he is treating you is not fair to you, or your son. He is ruining any chance of a good future because he doesn't realize he can not blow money like that 24/7. Does he not realize he's spending over 200 dollars a month in cigarettes alone?! (averaging one pack per day for 7 dollars a piece.) That's outrageous. He needs to realize that it's not just him anymore, he has a child and a girlfriend to care for, as well as a house and utilities. He doesn't have the money to blow on useless shit first, while putting the people he cares for most, second.

Wow!....it sounds like our husbands are related.....I havent even had my baby yet but i do already have 3 kids and my husband had 2 jobs right now so when he is home he feels that his job is over and mine never ends w/ the kids, plus he also buys scratchers and ciggs and what have u.............Don't get me wrong he does take care of us but emotionally i feel so freakin shitty, I feel like a fat cow, lonely, he never talks to me, and that just makes me feel even shittier......so I just let it go for a few days then finally I explode again.......but ya....its always meeee! I am always trippin...whatever.
Girl, I just wanted to let u know ur not the only one!