So Upset!!!

I think my BF likes to hurt my 3 year old son, just to start an argument with me... Just a few minutes ago, he hit my son on the head with his knuckles "playing around" and my son started crying, so I was comforting my child, like any other mother would! So, my BF is quick to start yelling, telling me to just let him cry, because he "has to grow up"!!! WTF, does he expect me to just sit there each time my son gets hurt, and let him cry??? Maybe I do baby him too much, but am I wrong for comforting him each time my BF hurts him, "playing around"? He does not feel what I feel when my son is hurt, because he's not a father yet, and I don't think he understands how much parents hurt when their kids are hurt. IDK, but I personally think that he has something against my son. I can't even defend my baby without him getting upset!!!

defend that baby till your last breath! thats your job, and if he doesnt understand it...maybe hes just not the one.

Not a good sign.. The hell if I'd let anyone, even my husband, tell me how to love and parent my children..  

I'd keep my baby far away from that man!

If he is hurting your kid you should not have him anywhere near your child.

Quoting Proud Mommy.:“ I think my BF likes to hurt my 3 year old son, just to start an argument with me... Just a few minutes ... [snip!] ... IDK, but I personally think that he has something against my son. I can't even defend my baby without him getting upset!!!”

Honestly, if I had a boyfriend who was like that to my child, who was not his own, dude would be in the ER.
My fiance has a son, who is not mine, and I would never intentionally hurt him "playing around". You are that childs mother. I dont think the issue should be whether or not it is okay for you to comfort your child, but more so whether or not you should have this man around your child if you think hes got something against your son...

If your BF is going to be with you, that baby might as well be his--And he should treat him that way. If he doesn't, his place is at the curb with the rest of your garbage. Period.

Quoting *Impatiently Waiting *:“ Honestly, if I had a boyfriend who was like that to my child, who was not his own, dude would be in the ... [snip!] ... child, but more so whether or not you should have this man around your child if you think hes got something against your son...”

Agreed!

In my opinion, it's a form of child abuse. I don't care if it's just small things; he is still intentionally hurting your child. It shouldn't be about whether you should comfort your child or not. Get that man away from your little one.

It's your job as the mommy to protect your son and yes that means even from the men in your life. If they can't treat him like he deserves to be treated, then leave. He'll always be your son, men are temporary. Protect and baby that boy all you want. My husband is the father of my children and I would leave his ass for hitting them just for the hell of it. Fuck that, beat his ass! I'm getting so mad for your sons sake. Why the hell does that "man" think it's ok to just thump on your baby? Drop him like a bad habit!

Quoting Proud Mommy.:“ I think my BF likes to hurt my 3 year old son, just to start an argument with me... Just a few minutes ... [snip!] ... IDK, but I personally think that he has something against my son. I can't even defend my baby without him getting upset!!!”

Tell him to STOP! And SHUT UP your son is THREE YEARS OLD!! He does not need to grow up just yet.
Yes, I understand when a child is whinny or "faking" hurt to get your attention but when they are genuinely hurt there is NOTHING wrong with comforting your child... especially when he is hurt by someone else even if they are "messing around" (also keep in mind that children feed of our emotions! He may not be as hurt as he makes it out to be if your immediate reaction is to be upset!)
It sounds like you need to have a serious talk with your boyfriend....  

Quoting Proud Mommy.:“ I think my BF likes to hurt my 3 year old son, just to start an argument with me... Just a few minutes ... [snip!] ... IDK, but I personally think that he has something against my son. I can't even defend my baby without him getting upset!!!”

OH HELL i would have hit him back. My DH does that crap and thinks its funny too. I slap him back the same way he hit my kids to show him its not funny or playfull. I dont give a crap i mean playing is one thing but just hitting cause its "playful" is BS im like how bout i just smack you randomly for the hell of it and see if you think im playing with you!! Well i dont think you will!!! God men are stupid

Thanks ladies... That's the reason we mostly argue... And you guys are right, I will defend my son NO MATTER WHAT OR WHO has a problem with it. I tried talking to him about it, and he says he just plays around with him, and does not hurt him intentionally, but he does get pretty rough when he plays around. I just don't understand why he gets mad when i comfort my son.

Quoting Proud Mommy.:“ I think my BF likes to hurt my 3 year old son, just to start an argument with me... Just a few minutes ... [snip!] ... IDK, but I personally think that he has something against my son. I can't even defend my baby without him getting upset!!!”

Your not wrong. He's wrong for doing stupid shit like that to an infant/toddler. WTF? I would comfort my baby too.