i really need to just vent

So lately i haven't been able to go to sleep at night... i was hoping i would have been able to last night but i had to watch a friend of mines son until 11:30... i was hungry after he left so i ate and then went out to smoke a cigarette... by the time i got done it was between 12:15 and 12:30.. Jeremiah has been waking up around 1 lately so i stayed up the extra half hour ... He didn't go back to sleep until 2:30.... so right when i finally got to put him down i went to bed... my husband came home for lunch maybe 10 minutes after that... but i didn't get up... he came home from work a little after 7 this morning and when jeremiah woke up i made his bottle and chris came up the stairs and fed him... so i went back to sleep.. Jeremiah woke up again at like 9 :50 so i got up with him and he stayed awake until 11:50... and so i layed down with him it tookme about 15minto fall asleep he woke up at 12:30... now this is understandable that jeremiah sleeps when he wants and i should be trying to sleep when he does... but my issue is that when i asked my husband if it would be alright to pay our neighbor 10 bucks to watch him for an hour or two so i could catch up on some sleep.. he YELLS at me.. " your his mom YOU watch him " " it's your own fault that you aren't sleeping " and a few other choice words... seriously... i have sleep issues.. i try to go to bed.. and i just lay there and can't fall asleep... I even asked him not too long ago if he would let me get some Ambien from the doctor so i could get my sleep schedule right and him get up with him for a night or two.. he said NO.. so what the hell.. ok i'm done venting i guess.. i might add more.. i dunno.... i'm probably in the wrong.. but damn he doesn't have to be so damn mean all the time

..i would love a cigarette..im in turkey and EVERYONE smokes here like crazy..i havnt smoked for a year now.

If I were in your shoes and my husband refused to let me get some sleep, I'd pay the neighbor to watch the baby for a couple hours. Unless he's willing to help, I'd say you should do what you need to do. You deserve rest as well.

you arent wrong... its not just your child. he should let you sleep sometimes and get up with him too, and if you feel like you need to get some rest and you need some help from a willing neighbor, who is he to tell you no?

You shouldn't have to explain that it is exhausting watching a baby all day and night. Get sleep, through your neighbor or ambien....your man needs to watch the baby all day and find out how exhausting it truly is.

he also wants me to get a job.. which ok thats fine.. I go to school fulltime... so if i go to work after he gets off... then come home and do all my homework... what time will i really have to sleep.. especially if he's not willing to help when he's working

Quoting LotusBaby:“ You shouldn't have to explain that it is exhausting watching a baby all day and night. Get sleep, through ... [snip!] ... Get sleep, through your neighbor or ambien....your man needs to watch the baby all day and find out how exhausting it truly is.”

My husband would have this arguement allllll the time. He would never watch her alone, or even let me sleep since we got 8 hours of sleep since day one at night. I told him that wasn't enough and yada yada yada.

Since school started I decided I would take one course four hours a day four days a week and he was forced to watch her between 3:30/4 - 7:30/8 M-TH He can't even handle it. By the time I get home, he is cranky exhausted and hungry from all the "stress" and crying she does. I laugh, because I need to go to college I deserve it so he has to get over it but he definitely understands a little bit better where I'm coming from when I say I need a break. lol

Quoting egyptiangodss [MAEK]:“ he also wants me to get a job.. which ok thats fine.. I go to school fulltime... so if i go to work after ... [snip!] ... home and do all my homework... what time will i really have to sleep.. especially if he's not willing to help when he's working”

i find it horrible when people dont understand that being a mom is work..and your in school! He's an ass for even bringing it up!! Chris works and i stay home because he makes excellent money,and we know its best for zoe. It was something i used to feel really bad about but have realized that i defiently do alot. Your guy is a jerk 

Quoting egyptiangodss [MAEK]:“ he also wants me to get a job.. which ok thats fine.. I go to school fulltime... so if i go to work after ... [snip!] ... home and do all my homework... what time will i really have to sleep.. especially if he's not willing to help when he's working”

Now that's just asshole to me. I'm a SAHM, but I help out the family business every so often so I don't consider that work. My husband in his eyes has to be the bread winner, so he'd prefer me not to work and work on my schooling.

Quoting Bee's Mommie:“ Now that's just asshole to me. I'm a SAHM, but I help out the family business every so often so I don't ... [snip!] ... consider that work. My husband in his eyes has to be the bread winner, so he'd prefer me not to work and work on my schooling.”

i don't think he truly considers what i do.... he's actually a really good person.. but it's always a "who works harder" argument.. .. .. i try to tell him.. yes you work hard.. but i work hard to.. nobody has to work harder than the other... we do what we do and we're tired by the end of the day.. end of story... ya know? ... i also believe that he thinks that because my classes are online that they are easier then in class... it's actually not... i do both in class and online... this semester it's all online until i can get comfortable leaving Jeremiah with a sitter.. which will HAVE to be by january because i have to take business math... but when you do online you still have the same load as in class.. but your basically learning on your own and doing the work on your own.. unless you get a tutor.. so it seems like it takes more time to me... but yeah anyway i'm rambling.. the point is .. i wish we could just trade places... i know and understand his job is hard and stressful.. because i truly try to empathize with him.. but he doesn't do the same.. and that is where we butt heads.

I think u deserve ur rest!!! if u have the money and someone willing to help u out, u should go for it! ur baby needs u to have rest in order to be the mommy u can b! good luck mama