I'd kill him if I could-really long

Well not really but sometimes I wish that I could. My husband gets on my fucking nerves! I hate him so much. I have been dealing with my daughter being sick since yesterday. I was at the hospital yesterday because she had a fever of 103.4. The docs wanted to get a urine sample so they had to do a catheter. They wanted to get blood so they had to draw blood. Through all of this, I had to hold her down to keep her still. If anyone has had to do this you kow that it hurts you more than the kids. I could not stop crying and shaking as she screamed at me. They could find nothing wrong with her and just told me she must have a virus. Forward to last night. I was up with her all night long.I am her mother, that is my job. I am not complaining at all. He was just in a meeting all day. He did not have to really do any work. I just spent the whole day taking care of her. I have not even had a damned shower. I got her to go for a nap at three thirty and went to sleep too. He comes in at four thirty and wakes me up. I am so pissed I cant see straight, but I manage to get back to sleep until the baby wakes a half hour later. I go into the living room and what is he doing? Sleeping on the damned couch! I ask him to get up to care for her so I can shower and he refuses. Our daughter starts climbing on him and trying to love on him and he puts her on the floor, gets off the couch and goes down the hall. I thought that he was just going to the bathroom. After 15 minutes he had not come back and I went to see where he was. He was in the bedroom! He locked us out and went to bed! I unlocked the door with a butte knife and he is snuggled up in bed with ear plugs in! What the fuck is wrong with this asshole? He doesnt give a shit that I am pregnant and need rest, but cant manage to get it because our daughter doesnt sleep through the fucking night. He doesnt seem to care that I too want to bathe once in a while. I get to bathe, but usually the baby gets into the tub with me. I just want a shower alone and a few minutes of the day when i get to be me, not just a mom. I am not sure if I am just being hormonal, or if I have a reason to be pissed. But right now, I HATE him and wish that I could kill him. Not really kill, but you kow what I mean.


Thanks for letting meget this off my vhest. I am often times long winded.

Grrr.. I want to punch him for you.

Talk to him....??

Wow I would have woken him up with a nipple twist or something, and said get the hell out of bed and take care of your daughter. That's unacceptable. You two need to be a team as parents. Men sometimes seem to think they are sperm donors. And they don't realize that SAHMs do just as much if not more "work" than they do in a day, andthey are often under appreciated. Don't take his crap sweetie. You need a break for you and the unborn baby. And also your daughter, she needs you to have energy to deal with her being sick.

I would be soooo pissed!! You shouldn't have to ask him for help he should want to it's his daughter too!

No, you have a right to be pissed.  I would let him go a few nights with no dinner and a few days with no clean clothes and when he asks why, tell him you were busy.

Wow... we'd be exchanging some ugly words if that was my situation. Tell him he helped make the kids... he can help take care of them. Talk to him about it without yelling... at first. But if it doesn't help, and he keeps acting like that I'd say tell him to help out or leave. Childcare isn't "women's work"... it's a joint effort.

Quoting Jessimica691:“ Talk to him....??”

If I could talk to him and make him understand I so would. trust me when I tell you there is no talking to that man!

Woah. You are for sure NOT just being hormonal. I would have been so pissed if my husband locked the door and went to sleep. Mine gets mad at me when I want a shower too. He says instead of napping when our son does, I should shower then. Men are assholes.

I would be beyond pissed. Maybe he needs to be treated the way he is treating you, like shit.If he wants his clothes washed, let him do it. If he wants to eat, tell him to go to the grocery store and get it and then cook it himself. Maybe he will think twice.

He seriously might have got the earplugs shoved up his ass if it were me!

Quoting natesmomma:“ No, you have a right to be pissed. I would let him go a few nights with no dinner and a few days with no clean clothes and when he asks why, tell him you were busy.”

I tried that before. I even stopped doing dishes except those I needed for me and the baby. But it backfired in my face. We live on an army base and he told his command that I was lettin the house go. They came into my home and gave me the what for even though it wasnt unsanitary or unsafe. They told me that this is my job, he doesnt need to have to worry about it since he is going to war here very soon. GRRR!

Quoting Azaera:“ Wow I would have woken him up with a nipple twist or something, and said get the hell out of bed and ... [snip!] ... You need a break for you and the unborn baby. And also your daughter, she needs you to have energy to deal with her being sick.”

I forgot about the sick part... you shouldn't even be dealing with a sick kid. The LAST thing YOU need is to catch a virus while pregnant. Although that'd really leave him to take care of both you and your daughter with no help at all... which would begood for himactually, but sick isn't something you need to be right now.

Quoting kayleighsmom:“ I tried that before. I even stopped doing dishes except those I needed for me and the baby. But it ... [snip!] ... They told me that this is my job, he doesnt need to have to worry about it since he is going to war here very soon. GRRR!”

Wow, that would have put me over the edge for sure!

Quoting Ashley (10w2dtilbaby):“ Wow... we'd be exchanging some ugly words if that was my situation. Tell him he helped make the kids... ... [snip!] ... and he keeps acting like that I'd say tell him to help out or leave. Childcare isn't "women's work"... it's a joint effort.”

I told him to leave and he wont he said that it is his house, not mine and I need to leave if I dotn like it. He irritates the shit out of me. He thinks because I wanted this new baby all the responsibility should lay on my shoulders with everything. He also doesnt think that SAHM's really do anything. But cant figure out how his clothes get clean and the food gets cooked or the dear child is fed, bathed or cared for. He wasnt like thsi before we got married five years ago. He helped out and was an equal to me, but since we got married, it is all me. He said it is not his place, it is mine. And until we got here on the base, I worked and took care of the house all alone.

Quoting kayleighsmom:“ I told him to leave and he wont he said that it is his house, not mine and I need to leave if I dotn ... [snip!] ... me. He said it is not his place, it is mine. And until we got here on the base, I worked and took care of the house all alone.”

Stress isn't good for you or the baby. I'd ask him just how much he values your relationship, and if he's really that willing to let it fly out the window. I wouldn't even bother asking nicely anymore. Enough's enough. What an ass...