re: I'd kill him if I could-really long

Quoting Ashley (10w2dtilbaby):“ Stress isn't good for you or the baby. I'd ask him just how much he values your relationship, and if ... [snip!] ... really that willing to let it fly out the window. I wouldn't even bother asking nicely anymore. Enough's enough. What an ass...”

His own mom tells me to leave him, but we are 1000 miles from hom enow and we have one car. When I tell him I want to leave he threatens me with having kidnapping charges brought on me since I will have to cross state lines with the baby.He is just an ass though, and I think that he is enjoying finally being in a position to hae control of me. I think that deep down it makes him feel like a man or something. He doesnt have sex with me anymore. Hell three times since May. He said it is because I dont fix my hair, wear makeup, put on pretty clothes. When the fuck do I have time? And I never have time to shave my legs because as I said before, my daughter bathes with me. I am so pissed right now damn it. Thanks for talking to me. And if I smack him like I really want to, he will have me arrested. Hell I just want to sock him in the fucking balls and make him as miserable as I am.

Quoting SarahAnn:“ Woah. You are for sure NOT just being hormonal. I would have been so pissed if my husband locked the ... [snip!] ... gets mad at me when I want a shower too. He says instead of napping when our son does, I should shower then. Men are assholes.”

I get that too. do dishes or vacuum while she is sleeping. Dont nap. I have no right to nap.

I know what you're dealing with, I dealt with it for the first 7 months of Mya's life.

I stopped doing his laundry, cooking his meals, cleaning his messes, ect. He bitched at me because he didn't have clean uniforms. I told him that I was not his mommy and I shouldn't have to treat him like a child. He's a grown man that can take care of himself. Now, that worked for a couple weeks...and then he just stopped doing his things all together. The house fell apart.

If he won't leave the house, why don't you leave him? Give him the choice to shape up or lose his family. That's the only thing that changed my husband.

Quoting kayleighsmom:“ His own mom tells me to leave him, but we are 1000 miles from hom enow and we have one car. When I ... [snip!] ... really want to, he will have me arrested. Hell I just want to sock him in the fucking balls and make him as miserable as I am.”

I've been through the scare tactics. He canNOT get you on charges for kidnapping because you are the mother and have custody of the child as of right now. He also canNOT call in the vehicle stolen by you because you are his WIFE, reguardless of if your name is on the vehicle or not.

Wow.. I hate to know that there are people like your husband out there. What a jerk. I trully feel for you. I do..You could always tell him your leaving to go to the store and he has to take care of the baby. Back a back pack with clean clothes and go to your friends house shower and such..LOL.. He will then have to take care of your child. Come back in an hour or so.. He doesn't like tough shit. You didn't get yourself pregnant...

Quoting kayleighsmom:“ His own mom tells me to leave him, but we are 1000 miles from hom enow and we have one car. When I ... [snip!] ... really want to, he will have me arrested. Hell I just want to sock him in the fucking balls and make him as miserable as I am.”

My cousin was going to leave her daughter's father at one point and he threated to have her arrested if she left with their daughter too. She called the state police and they informed her even if they are both on the birth cert unless there is a custody agreement set up by the court he can't have her arrest and she could leave with their daughter. (They aren't married but I don't think that matters.)

Quoting kayleighsmom:“ His own mom tells me to leave him, but we are 1000 miles from hom enow and we have one car. When I ... [snip!] ... really want to, he will have me arrested. Hell I just want to sock him in the fucking balls and make him as miserable as I am.”

Doesn't sound like he cares... he just wants someone there to take care of him! Leave anyway. I'd call the PD and talk to them about it to reassure you that he can't charge you with anything. Sure, eventually they may make you give the car back, but as long as you get to where you need to be.

Wow. Just....wow.

My husband was like that with the shower deal. He wouldn't watch her so I could bathe alone. I had to take her a bath with me, cause he wanted to relax or play a game. It pissed me off, and I would talk to him, yell at him. Everything, finally I just layed my daughter on the bed with him while he played a game, grabbed some clothes and got in the bathe.

He was pissed and came in the bathroom with our daughter cussing and crap. I just told him, "i need to shower alone for once in a damn while, take her and shut up about it."

He 'says' it was because she was an infant and he wasn't sure what to do with her if she started crying, yeah right.

If I were you, i'd hesitate, but eventually I'd leave. He sounds like a total jerk. Especially getting his commanding officers to come to ya'lls house. FORGET THAT SHIT. They certainly wouldn't tell me how to hell I run my home or what my 'place' was. Fuck them!

Leave girl, it isn't kidnapping. You aren't harming your daughter in anyway. He's a scumbag who obviously doesn't really care anymore,.....sorry hun but do what you have to do. I'm sure you wouldn't want any man treating your daughter that way when she's older....dont let someone treat you like that either.

Kick him in the balls and leave girl.

Quoting kayleighsmom:“ If I could talk to him and make him understand I so would. trust me when I tell you there is no talking to that man!”

I would lock him out of the house. Tell him since you are doing all the work then you might as well be a single parent! Sorry but for him to be that rude to you is crazy. I would have dragged his butt out of bed and said either grow up and take care of YOUR child or get the heck out of my house!!

Quoting Matthew John's mommy:“ My cousin was going to leave her daughter's father at one point and he threated to have her arrested ... [snip!] ... court he can't have her arrest and she could leave with their daughter. (They aren't married but I don't think that matters.)”

Yeah 10 years ago I had an ex husband who said he would have me arrested to. Right infront of the cop who was watching him so I can get my shit and leave. The cop laughed at him and said he couldn't do that.. There is no cause. And my child was not in any harms way..
If you cant take it anymore and he wont change and he is being an selfish ass hole. Leave! I did. I mean my situation was even more than that cause I was getting abused. But it started that way. Now I have a great husband who helps all the time and I am having our 3rd (4th all together) child together. haven't heard or seen my ex husband in 10 years... I never looked back..

You really need to think about your children.  I would leave his ass.  Find a way to leave and just do it.  He isn't worth it.