He cheated on me!

I have had this feeling for so long. I knew the father of my baby wasnt the one for me. I have stuck around for so much of his bullshit and have tried to make it work with him. Last year I caught him in the act and moved to las Vegas. I was so happy out there but then I came back to live with him again in California. This time im 8 months preggo and found out from a friend who works with the girl he messed around with. This just recently happend and I just found out today. I am being very stong about it and confronted him like an adult, no yelling and no tears.All he had to say was "whatever".I took my things and left. Tomarrow is my baby shower and I am still excited about it but very bummed out. I should have know that he would do this to me again.
Any strong advice? Stories? Love to here from you ladies!
Quency

Quoting qdhilton88 [HBC]:“ I have had this feeling for so long. I knew the father of my baby wasnt the one for me. I have stuck ... [snip!] ... out. I should have know that he would do this to me again. Any strong advice? Stories? Love to here from you ladies! Quency”

I'm so sorry! You really are strong though!

I only have stories about meaningless exs, it's different when your pregnant.
I'd love to hear the story about you catching him in the act though : O

& don't let him bring you down before your baby shower! = D

wow..what an asshole. just remember soon you'll have a baby who will be so much more important than that idiot!

Aw hun, I am so sorry :[[. All I have to say is be strong, don't let him come crawling back again. You deserve someone who is going to treat you the way you treat him. He doesn't deserve you. The baby should be your number one priority anyways. I'm really sorry you have to go through this right now, you seem like a much stronger person than me. Good luck with everything hun.

my best piece of advice is...that its ok to cry. do what you have to do for yourself and to keep you and your baby healthy! i'mglad that you had the strength totake your stuff and leave. You live and you learn, not to say that it doesnt hurt!! make yourself happy first and foremost and good things will come. good luck

Fuck!!! What an ass! Yo I'm seriously soo sorry. I went through about 2 years of drama before my man (now Hubby) realized what he had. Not really cheating but just other dumb shit. Just be strong. Guys blow!

That sucks!!! I guess the only thing that anyone can say is to remember to be strong for your babies and to remember that your hatred for him and his actions should stay away from little ears. He is their father and they don't need to be apart of the mess. Focus on your babies and yourself. Don't get mad, get all his $$. ha ha ha Seriously, start paperwork for child support and such as soon as possible. I have a sense that you are strong and will be just fine. All the best to you!

What an ass!! Stay strong girl. My ex got another chic prego while we were split up for a month and a half and knew about it and had the nerve to get back with me, i wasnt prego but my daughter was about a month old when all this happened. Thats why I wont give a guy another chance for cheating, theres no excuse for that!

Have a good time at your babyshower don't worry about him, he's pathetic.

You should be proud of yourself for handling it so well.. He sounds immature and like he doesn't deserve you. The hardest part is not falling for his lies again. It sounds like you know better though. Most cheaters don't change there ways. You fought foritto work but youknow a relationship won't work if your the only one fighting for it. Good luck moving on with you life, and don't let that asshole bring you down.

I went thru the same thing with my bf. when I was 7 months, he didn't really cheat, I caught him tryingtalk to his exes on myspace, when I tried to end it with him he realized no other girl was worth giving up his family for and decided to man up and try to make it work. I know how much it hurts.

Um well. .He wanted a "break" and I told him I don't do breaks so I completely broke it off but we both had plans to get back together, he just had alot of shit he had to straighten out. .mainly drug problems. .But he went and had sex with his bestfriends girlfriend!

My husband cheated on me before we were married but after I was pregnant, I found out after we were married. I had a fit, but I stuck around till after the baby was born. I had a horrible pregnancy because I couldn't stand being near him, and he wouldn't treat me right mostly out of guilt, but I was too afraid to do it all alone. After my daughter was born we seperated.

Sometimes you have to lose something to realize just how much you really loved it. My husband and I are back together and so far have had no problems.... if he cheats again though I'll be gone!

You just gotta stay strong, and when he asks to get back with you say "no". Remember all the pain that he has caused you and will continue to cause you as life goes on. Maybe someday he will grow up and things can work out between you two or maybe you'll go off and find a different "Mr. Right".

Either way, congrats on being an adult, good luck at your baby shower and keep your head up!  

Quoting no longer empty arms:“ That sucks!!! I guess the only thing that anyone can say is to remember to be strong for your babies ... [snip!] ... for child support and such as soon as possible. I have a sense that you are strong and will be just fine. All the best to you!”

hehehe i agree..get his money!

aww im soo sorry i went through this about 3 months ago.... just stay strong and try to be without him.. i havent talked to my BF/BD in a couple of days bc he goes through his fase where he cares one day and doesnt thhe next, it sucks and is really hard but im trying not to call him AT all! they will realize it in the end.. sorry kinda vented lol

I agree that was the best way you could handle it by acting like an adult, many adults can't even do that. However if he isn't willing to change there is nothing you could have done but do what you did... and leave. I am sorry but enjoy this time for you and your baby!!