setting the record straight from pregnant again!

i just wanted to set the record straight after all of the nasty posts on the pregnant...again thread.People might have got confused since the thread got changed into something its not a slagging match towards myself!there was so much critisism towards me with people commenting sayin i was ttc and now wanting an abortion if you look at what i said before it clearly says i want to wait a couple of year before planning a baby...yes i did also say that i wanted to hold a newborn again but that does not mean i was ttc.All i came on here for was support and help from people and i am grateful for people that have private messaged me or given me positive feedback.

I have noticed a lot of people talked aboput adoption but that is something i am not strong enough to do i could not give my baby away after carrying it and giving birth..my partner told me he could never do that as well.My mother also told me when i got pregnant with my first that she would adopt the baby anyway before letting it go to another family.

I also had comments from people saying the only reason i wanted to terminate the baby is because i won't have a social life.This is a minor part of my reasons for aborting there is financial issues and emotional issues. I'm scared because i really do not know what will be best i am scared i will suffer depression from having the termination and i am scared of suffering depression from keeping the baby, with jay now my life is back on track but the first year is so difficult and i don't want my mum to be ashamed of me.

Quoting jay-jays mummy:“ i just wanted to set the record straight after all of the nasty posts on the pregnant...again thread.People ... [snip!] ... the baby, with jay now my life is back on track but the first year is so difficult and i don't want my mum to be ashamed of me.”

Well if you don't want to keep the baby, you said your mother would want to adopt it instead of giving it to another family. maybe you should give it to her, why would she be ashamed of you? you already have a baby.

Hahahhhahahahhaha 

I think adopting your child to your parents is a stupid idea. My mom wants to adopt my child (Like I'd let her. ), she wants another child really badly but she's not really that great of a mother... Why would I want to put my child through her shit after I lived it for so long? If you want to have an abortion, have one. It's your body, your choice.

Quoting Nicole B:“ Hahahhhahahahhaha ”

 

Awww, you mom shouldn't be ashamed of you hun. For one, now you are 18. Another, you already have a child. Being a young mom is not a bad thing. Granted I was not a teen mom, and socially it muct be harder with all the judgement, but I am a young mom. I had my first baby at 21, and granted my family was ecstatic, I still got nosey strangers who had to put their two cents in about being a baby myself. Now that I am pregnant again? Well lets just say the other in the waiting room had a lot to say about what they thought about my personal decisions at the ob/gyn. I am 22, married, and planned the baby.

The point is you don't need to get youself down because people are judgemental. Obviously you had one daughter, and have done the right thing by her by any way nessicerey. Kudos to you. And after one, there is nothing you can't handle. Things always seem dim at first, but there is a light at the end of tunnel. It may be hard now, but I am sure in due time you cna find a way to make this work. Things have a funny way of working out. Don't sweat it.

In the end, the decision is yours alone, just make sure you think clearly when you make it. Good luck.

i don't think adopting is a stupid idea but i know i couoldn't give my baby away whether it was to my mum or anyone else.

i don't know i'm just really stuck and i don't want to talk to my mates and i don't want to talk to my bf he said he will support me but i know he wants an abortion i've already been through jays dad not wanting to be there and everything ending traumatically.

its just such a big decision and either way its life changing

i read the op on your other posting but didnt read what any of the other people had to say. my opinion is that getting an abortion would be selfish of you. getting an abortion would be an easy way out, but i guess, if your not 'woman' enough to handle what youve gotten yourself into, go ahead and do it.

people use abortions as a bandaid to cover there asses when theyve fucked up. think about the one whose being aborted.

       

Quoting jay-jays mummy:“ i don't think adopting is a stupid idea but i know i couoldn't give my baby away whether it was to my ... [snip!] ... not wanting to be there and everything ending traumatically. its just such a big decision and either way its life changing”

He's probably just as scared as you are, and it is way easier for guys to go along with abortion. Guys fail to have an emotional connection to a child until after its born when its unplanned, and sometimes even then there isn't one.

Also, again I personally don't know your boyfriend, but if he has suggested abortion, I would not count on him in future planning, regaurdless of what you do. Although many are sincere, there are those who aren't. If he sticks around, wonderful! If he doesn't, try not to let yourself be surprised.

I would though allow him the opportunity to provide support, and give him the benefit of the doubt.

I really can't tell you whether to keep your baby or not, but I can help provide insight.

Quoting Jyn +2:“ Awww, you mom shouldn't be ashamed of you hun. For one, now you are 18. Another, you already have a child. ... [snip!] ... out. Don't sweat it. In the end, the decision is yours alone, just make sure you think clearly when you make it. Good luck.”

lol its a boy actually. I think i'm swaying more towards keeping the baby now..i think my bf is going to propose in a couple of weeks...he is taking us away and already asked what would i say if he asked me to marry him...at least then i could say to my mum i'm engaged as well!i just went through so much last time..i fell pregnant a couple of months after my 16th and my life was a misery for ages i couldn't enjoy being pregnant and its really making me nervous about this time.Not to mention the fact i'm still living at home with a 1 year old in my room and still doing hairdressing at college and not working because of that i got excellant grades but how can i support two children when i wasn't going to start work till next july or finish my course?when i was 16 i was doinbg my A/S levels 36 weeks pregnant but those exams were at the end of may and i wasn't due till july this time i will be due in april and the course doesnt finish till end of june there is a heck of a lot to do this year and i can only do assessments on clients

Quoting Lesley-It's a Boy!:“ i read the op on your other posting but didnt read what any of the other people had to say. my opinion ... [snip!] ... a bandaid to cover there asses when theyve fucked up. think about the one whose being aborted.        ”

yeh your entitled to your own opinion but it isn't real helpful having an abortion is nothing to do with being a woman sometimes its the best option under certain circumstances

Quoting jay-jays mummy:“ lol its a boy actually. I think i'm swaying more towards keeping the baby now..i think my bf is going ... [snip!] ... and the course doesnt finish till end of june there is a heck of a lot to do this year and i can only do assessments on clients”

Aww a boy! I hope I get a boy this time!

Anywho, there are actually lots of ways to get help. You can get government grants to help pay for college. You can ask in advance if it would be ok to postpone your exam, or prepare to take it early.

If you want to finish school, and find yourself a great job, many people are willing to help!

If your boyfriend is serious, take him up on it (if thats the way you feel) It's more likley to be approved by family, and taking steps toward living independent.

There is no shame in asking for help through a rough patch, as long as you are responsible.

Quoting jay-jays mummy:“ yeh your entitled to your own opinion but it isn't real helpful having an abortion is nothing to do with being a woman sometimes its the best option under certain circumstances”

abortions are best under certain circumstances IF your baby is not going to live, or puts the mother in a life threatening situation, NOT because your 18 and dont want to miss out on your social life.

im 22 years old, and i found out 2 days ago that im having my THIRD boy, im freaking the fuck out, how am i going to deal with 4 boys (that includes there daddy, who also acts childish!) but i sure in the hell wouldnt let the idea cross my mind to abort a baby. kids are overwhelming, you wont find a person who wouldnt agree, but if you choose to lay in your bed, you have to deal with what comes.

Quoting Lesley-It's a Boy!:“ abortions are best under certain circumstances IF your baby is not going to live, or puts the mother ... [snip!] ... to live, or puts the mother in a life threatening situation, NOT because your 18 and dont want to miss out on your social life.”

I really don't want to start anything, but do you really think bashing her helps her decision? It's not that I don't agree with your views of abortion, but I don't think this is constructive criticism.

And in the end, you really can't stop her, but you could fuel her to be defiant. (And I am not saying you would OP, just making a point)