Im SOOO aggravated with my babys father (looonng vent)

so i never made my own posts im more of a browser but im so irritated right now i have to get this out somewhere so here goes.......

Me and my ex broke up a while ago in May. Circumstances surrounding break up......his phone was off i was newly pregnant freaking out everyday and needed to talk to him about what we were going to do. i couldnt reach him caz his phone was off so i start freaking out more and finally end up sending him messages on myspace to see what he wanted to do about the baby and our relationship since things had been tense. he doesnt respond to any of them. about a week later his phone gets turned back on still he doesnt want to talk really i ask him about the baby and he sends me a TEXT like "i cant have anymore kids right now" (he already has a 2 yr old son from a previous relationship which is a whole other topic) anyway i thought it was extremely disrespectful for him basically to tell me to get an abortion through a TEXT so i am still trying to get him to sit down and talk to me but hes all of a sudden soo unavailable and busy. so about 1 week later im just like look....i can tell u are being a bitch about this whole pregnancy or me or both or watever so wat is our status.....status is we are breaking up.. okay fine.

so basically in between the break up in may and through june everytime i talk to him hes a complete asshole (even when he calls ME first) and all he cares about is if i got everything "taken care of" and he gets super irate every time i tell him no i didnt do anything. one day he finally comes over so he can talk to me about it all and he brings his son! and im like are u serious. u bring ur son to a conversation about abortion. just annoying. so after that im pretty much done with him because hes obviously being mean just so i will have one but the meaner he is the more im like hell no its not the babys fault hes an asshole so i decide to keep it but i dont say anything to him. fast forward to july hes harassing me again and i basically snap and tell him to leave me alone because he clearly doesnt give a fu*k about me and if he thinks im gonna just go get an abortion hes psycho and i cant believe how he turned out to be such an ass. so then he turns around and tries to be nice and tells me we can work everything out i just need to get this taken care of. so basically he thinks that im one of those girls who just NEEDS a relationship so bad i would get an abortion just to keep a relationship. um hell to the niz. so after that hes all super nice and baby this and basically wants to get back together and in the back of my mind im like yeah right if u think im gonna get an abortion and then we are gonna go back to like we were before all this and i sit all traumatized while u play with your son. get real. 

so finally after a talk one night i tell him im keeping the baby. and he goes into this whole thing about how could i do this to him and he knows its not easy for me but this is not a good time and he knew i was gonna do this and im so sneaky and he lost his respect for me. basically any last attempts to piss me off so i wont have it. didnt work. anyway i told him im not talking to him anymore and if he wants to know the baby he can caz my number wont change.....

about a week later he calls me . im like why are u calling me i thought u hate me and im terrible. he ignores that and has the nerve to ask me for something like he wants me to do something for him. im in shock like how can someone be so stupid. so i tell him i cant caz im out of town at my familys and wont be back for a few weeks and he actually gets mad! like he is mad because i wont be back to atlanta for a few weeks and cant do wat he wants! i mean i was so disgusted with him like wtf im like 5 months pregnant and u call me to ask me to do something for u not hows the baby how am i feeling???? so that was about 3 weeks ago and i have never been so done in my life so i hadnt talked to him since. so about 5 days ago i start getting theses calls from a private number and i have a feeling its him. then i get a call from his house phone which he doesnt know i saved the number to and my brother gets a random call from a cali number (where hes originally from) and i spoke to him last from my brothers cell so i know its him. but i just ignore all the calls because im so sick of being nice to him for him to turn around and basically shit all over me.

 so today i  log in myspace and he wrote me a freaking message like i need to answer my damn phone. i swear i wanted to just slap him so hard when i read that. i KNOW he doesnt want anything positive, and im on my last week of vacation and i dont need his crap until i have to deal with him in atlanta.and like an hour ago he calls my cell. im just like so annoyed because he wont leave a message and he keeps calling me and im just like shoo fly dont bother me. ughhh im so irritated i want to yell but ppl are sleeping. anyway thanks for letting me vent im just so pissed guys are soooo dumb and i am NOT in the mood for his bs anymore like im so done i need a new word for done.

Good for you! Sounds like you've got all the makings of a good Mommy! Glad you stood up for your baby & yourself.

Girl, my kids dad did the exact same thing! I ended up getting back with him when he came back around when my daughter was 8 months old. Turns out that was a bad idea, cuz now im 5 months pregnant with our second baby....and Im alone!!! So you go girl, stay strong and dont fall into his web!

Wow that sucks! Sounds like the guys here!! He basicly doesnt want anything good from u so....good luck tryin to get rid of him...Good decision on keeping the baby!

Ok... All I have to really say about him is.... FUUUUCCCKKK HIM AND WHAT HE'S GOING THRU! My BD did the same shit, he was trying to convince me to have an abortion saying that it'll "bring us closer together" and how can I do this to him and am I going to choose the baby over him?... Uhhh yes BITCH this my baby, you just a man, men come and go. I'm happy for the decision that you are making to keep the baby. He wasn't thinking about none of that shit when he had your legs open and nutted in you right? FUCK HIM GIRL.... The reason I sound so angry is cause men have some nerve. My BD was begging and "crying" for me to have an abortion and that he loves me, he can't have a kid right now, and he doesn't want to lose me. Guess what happened? I found out he was cheating on me since november of last year(2 months b4 I got pregnant). He's a BITCH! I'm sooo glad I wasn't stupid and said "ok, ill do it for you" fuck that. My baby will be here soooon and I'm super ecstatic. Focus on you and your baby, that's all that matters. No man should come in between. Good luck!

What a knob-end, you're better off without.

Another phrase for done? DAMN WELL OVER IT!

I am SOOOOO proud of you for sticking up for yourself!! You're going to be an awesome mother!!!! 

And my guy was almost the same exact way when he found out I was pregnant. He treated me like crap too.... until he realized that I wouldn't be swayed by anything he was saying. He said he wanted to break up, I said "okay." and let him leave. 

Five days later after not talking at all, he apologizes and admits that he was wrong... things have been awesome ever since. 

Fuck what that guy wants to do, it is your body and your choice with what you want to do with it. You don't deserve to be treated like that by ANYONE, especially not the guy that's supposed to be your child's father.

Wow!! Your doing right, keep it up... you sound like a strong woman!!

Quoting waiting4[Jayden] ♡:“ Ok... All I have to really say about him is.... FUUUUCCCKKK HIM AND WHAT HE'S GOING THRU! My BD did the ... [snip!] ... soooon and I'm super ecstatic. Focus on you and your baby, that's all that matters. No man should come in between. Good luck!”

Thanks i feel the same way like he was trying to make it seem like an abortion was going to be the thing to save us and we would live happily ever after. he literally did not understand that if i had an abortion we would have been over forever and always. but im happy with my choice now and guys are dumb.

Keep ignoring him , please!! He can't be aroudn you..he is evil. He obviously won't come u with anything positve about this whole thing.. and if he is not gping to be there 100% then he doesn't deserve a hi form you, like you're gonna answer his phone calls. pssh give me a break...there are millions and millions of man out there that will appriciate you and admire you fo bringing such a blessing into this world while that stupid ass is wishing you to get an abortion ..what the fuck is that. Keep him away as possible now during ur preggo experience..he can go fuck himself ..he may realise later what he just lost and it gonna be too latee..and you will be soo happy. HA HA HA into his face..man wouldnt it be cool if all the girls from BABYGAGA spits on his face? hehe well im done..im just so mad.

OMG your story sounds so close to mine. My babys father is a Bitch. He wanted me to get an abortion because we wasnt ready and he already has a lil boy with his ex (which is another story.) Im so pissed at him for acting like he is so fucking busy all of a sudden and he cant call anymore but maby once in a while, and at a time when i feel i needed him the most which i had to go to the hospital for early contractions and pain, His ass was at home wacthing tv. I got so pissed off and just called it off. Im tired of feeling alone and i have told him this plenty of times before so its not like i kept it inside. I told that ass that he needed to be around and i would have been better off talking to my dog, because he did nothing. So now im just focusing on my baby boy who is due Dec 11, and i can hardly wait.

He sounds like somebody I know! GA boys are all the same...for the most part.

Quoting Waiting..:“ He sounds like somebody I know! GA boys are all the same...for the most part.”

lol he not even from Ga. hes from cali like me but just livin in Atlanta. but california boys are rude too.bottom line..N.A.S.

Quoting baybegyrl17:“ so i never made my own posts im more of a browser but im so irritated right now i have to get this out ... [snip!] ... im just so pissed guys are soooo dumb and i am NOT in the mood for his bs anymore like im so done i need a new word for done.”

FUCK HIM. He's a peice of shit. and goo for you for sticking up for yourself and telling that asshole off.