My husband is being a jerk....

and apparently his "what to expect when your wife is expanding" book fails to mention that I'm tired and that morning sickness isn't just in the morning. He thinks that I'm lazy because all I do is sleep on the couch and whine that I don't feel good. He has been a real jerk lately. He made me cry yesterday. I don't think I'm being overly sensitive, he is just being really insensitive. I have had to hands off help my 7 year old son clean the cat litter box because he never does it and it stinks. I made comment about wanting to give the cat to his parents because I can't stand the smell of the cat litter box and he freaked out. I'm so frustrated, I just want to cry. I have been slacking on the house lately but it's not like we are living in a pig sty. I used to sweep, mop, dust, clean the toilets, laundry, gardening and all that crap all week long and now I force myself to do something when I have too. I don't do the laundry until the hampers overflow and I don't sweep until I can see the dirt. I made a joke today about having more kids and he just rolled his eyes and said that we are never going through this again. I still have 28 weeks to go. I don't know what I can do to motivate myself to get up. I used to be such a clean freak. Someone please make me feel better. ={

Oh sweetie its just the beginning!! You will start to feel better, Personally I didnt feel pregnant at all when I hit Tri 2. and you will feel like doing things again. But cat litter can be very bad when your pregnant so I would watch that. But it just sounds like one of the many many fights I had with my SO when pregnant. But that is cute "what to expect when you wife is expanding!" lol its cute he is reading it  ---my SO did too and it really meant a lot to me!

Quoting Shannon&baby#2:“ and apparently his "what to expect when your wife is expanding" book fails to mention that I'm tired ... [snip!] ... don't know what I can do to motivate myself to get up. I used to be such a clean freak. Someone please make me feel better. ={”

Yeah he is being a jerk. but unfortunately, the only thing that will make you feel better is for him to stop being a jerk.
Oh and FYI...and you can possibly look this up or ask your doctor to explain it to him...you're not supposed to change cat litter while pregnant anyway. My doctor told me that when I was pregnant with my son and my ex roomie from waaayyyy back in 1998-99 and I had four cats between us when she got pregnant and her doctor told her not to change cat litter either. I can't remember exactly why, but it's what I was told.

im in the same boat- soooo tired. He doesnt get it, my husband doesnt think its " fair" if I take a nap- I raise an 8 month old alone! ass%$#@. His dog has nearly bit my 8 month old 3 xs and is pooing and peeing in the house cause LAZY&%$ wont take him out.., but if I try to get rid of him- holy hell! and I have another baby to take care of, not a dog who spends his days defacating in my house and eating bb toys!!! I contenplate divorce often!

Quoting Shannon&baby#2:“ and apparently his "what to expect when your wife is expanding" book fails to mention that I'm tired ... [snip!] ... don't know what I can do to motivate myself to get up. I used to be such a clean freak. Someone please make me feel better. ={”

first of all, you shouldnt be cleaning out the litterbox!! Thats bad for you and baby!! Make hubby do it, or your son! 2nd, husbands can be really rude sometimes and not even notice just cuz they are plain out MEN!!! I got so frustrated with him complaining about cleaning, that i hired a lady to come clean it for me. She is a family friend, but hey, she got the job done. Its what she does for a living. dont let him get to you, keep your head up!

He knows that I'm not allowed to touch the cat litter, my ob told him that at my first appt but he sees nothing wrong with only doing it once a week. I guess he thinks that I'm just whining when I tell him that I can't stand the smell. I don't think he realized how much I actually did until I stopped doing it. I don't think he realizes that our son is helping keep the litter box clean either. I guess he thinks that the once a week he changes the litter is good enough. I know that he is busy too, so I thought giving the cat to his parents would be a good compromise. It only started a fight...and he didn't take a hint. The freaking cat litter box still stinks. Grrrrr.

Oh my goodness, WE are not going through this again?!!! Wow, he doesn't know what YOU have to go through! I know that men go throughthings during pregnancy, but that is insensitive I must admit. I had to go on bedrest for 3 months of my first pregnancy and couldn't do anything but lay on the couch all day. I don't know what I would've done without my husband. Atleast your husband has some help from you and needs to realize what your body is going through. And especially with cleaning the cat litter box because your doctor will tell him that you shouldn't do that. I would have your doctor explain to him that it is normal to be tired and sick and you need to rest. The morning sickness should pass for you soon, so that is the only uplifting thing I can say! Feel better soon.

Hire a cleaning lady for the house and a teenager for the litterbox every few days. This is temporary but could last for a long time.

I'm the same. Used to be a total clean freak, now I couldn't care less if the cooker's still dirty from a dinner cooked 3 days before! It's not a pig sty either, but i'm doing minium. I'm about the same stage as you and the first trimester has been exhausting! Please don't berrate yourself for it. You're responding to what your body is wanting you to do - rest! Everyone says you perk right up in the second trimester, so I'm counting on that, and guarentee when it gets closer to the birth we'll both have the rubber gloves and scourers back out in preperation for our new arrivals! If you read anything that confirms what you're going through, maybe keep it to show him and hearing it from anyone else but you will probably mean he takes it on board better! And definately keep reitterating that if he wants you to have his healthy child, he needs to cut you some slack! He has no idea what your body's going through! Chin up, you're doing great. J