re: Bringing babies to baby showers...

There is a difference between babies and toddlers.

I personally see no problem for babies to go to a babyshower....

thanks for all of your inputs and opinions. I think that im just going to let things go with the flow and if they bring their babies then fine, if not then fine too (more time for the guest to enjoy some alone time for themselves).

Quoting qdhilton88 [HBC]:“ My friend just asked me if she could bring her baby to my baby shower. I told her I dont see why not ... [snip!] ... hours to myself and to be involed in the shower instead of taking care of my baby the whole time. What are your thoughts?”

Totally depends. Some women want their showers to be adults only, some want whole families there. I personally prefer adults only showers just beucase its fun to have that "adult girl time", but my best friend hada family shower/bbq with her first and it was a blast as well.

I also was debating about this. More because no one in my family or my husband's family have kids but some of my friends do and from what I have seen they don't really watch them and they are all 2+. I really don't want kids at my shower. For one just because it'll be the first time and probably the last time for awhile that I will see my friends and I don't want to have to think about ways to entertain them adn pay for more food and stuff for them... I wouldn't know how to tell people that though.

Quoting MzGuillen:“ I also was debating about this. More because no one in my family or my husband's family have kids but ... [snip!] ... think about ways to entertain them adn pay for more food and stuff for them... I wouldn't know how to tell people that though.”

I would just put "Adults Only" on the invitation. Its simple and youwont have to have tons of people calling to ask if they can bring their kids.

Quoting qdhilton88 [HBC]:“ My friend just asked me if she could bring her baby to my baby shower. I told her I dont see why not ... [snip!] ... hours to myself and to be involed in the shower instead of taking care of my baby the whole time. What are your thoughts?”

Why not? Its not a kegger, its a baby shower. I myself wouldnt waste a babysitter on a baby shower. I would hold out an use my babysitter for something like a night out with my BF, or my girlfriends.

Baby showers are usually a time to meet with old friends, maybe make new ones...talk to a bunch of women about what? You guessed it...babies! I would never go to a baby shower without my baby. (unless I was told no kids of course). My kids are my pride and joy, I take any opportunity to share them =)

Quoting Kelli Jo & Bebe:“ Why not? Its not a kegger, its a baby shower. I myself wouldnt waste a babysitter on a baby shower. I would hold out an use my babysitter for something like a night out with my BF, or my girlfriends.”

because the party is about the person that it is for, not about the people who are coming to it. So if the host or honoree at the party does not wish to have children at their party her friends should be kind enough to indulge her wishes. Etiquette says unless the childs name is on the invite the parent should know that their children are NOT included. They can call and ask as that is what is proper to do if they are unable to find a sitter, but don't just assume that it is ok to bring your children. Just because you would be ok with it at your party doesn' t mean everyone else it and remember it is not YOUR party!

Quoting Michimommy:“ because the party is about the person that it is for, not about the people who are coming to it. So if ... [snip!] ... children. Just because you would be ok with it at your party doesn' t mean everyone else it and remember it is not YOUR party!”

What party isnt mine? Hers? lol
It's called my opinion. She asked for it I gave it.
Geesh.

Quoting Michimommy:“ because the party is about the person that it is for, not about the people who are coming to it. So if ... [snip!] ... children. Just because you would be ok with it at your party doesn' t mean everyone else it and remember it is not YOUR party!”

I'm sure if people knew kids weren't welcome, no one would bring their child. I've never been to a baby shower like that though. I couldn't believe people asked if they could bring their kids to my showers. I assumed everyone would bring their children! And not one child was on an invitation...

Quoting J e s s i c a:“ I'm sure if people knew kids weren't welcome, no one would bring their child. I've never been to a baby ... [snip!] ... could bring their kids to my showers. I assumed everyone would bring their children! And not one child was on an invitation...”

Exactly, now before anyone gets butt hurt.... I am not saying the OP said this....k???
I am referencing a post a while back. The girl said she didnt want any kids at her shower and asked if it was rude to tell people to either have the SO stay home or get a sitter. IMO its rude to expect people to leave their kids at home, when they are coming to celebrate and bring gifts for your baby. You have to ask yourself if it would hurt your feelings if it was said to you.
Now the OP was very polite about it. Irespect her POV.

I involved the kids in my 1st baby shower.. I think its all up to u and what u want to do..

Well I can tell you I did not want children at mine as it was at a restaurant where it was a cost per plate and I didn't want the people who were throwing me the party to have to spend more money on entertaining my friends children. If it would have been at my house or a free for all type situation then I can see everyone being welcome... you never know if people were bothered by you bringing your children as they might be too polite to say it to you directly. My best friend was pregnant at the same time as me and had someone call and ask if they could bring their children and while she didn't want them too, she didn't really have the heart to tell her friend no... it put her in a very awkward situation. While this may come off as harsh to you and maybe I feel this way because i don't have my child yet... but you should remember that just because you love your children and want to spend every moment with them doesn't mean everybody else wants to as well!

Quoting Michimommy:“ Well I can tell you I did not want children at mine as it was at a restaurant where it was a cost per ... [snip!] ... that just because you love your children and want to spend every moment with them doesn't mean everybody else wants to as well!”

I think this is about babies, not children. I bring my infant to things that I wouldn't bring my toddler to.

i don't know i see both sides but the shower is supposed to be about you and your baby girl. you don't want someone stealing your shine LOL