re: When "Time Out" loses it's effect

Ya you have to stay super calm, just say-------is not ok and now you need to sit and time out and then IGNORE her don't let anything she does annoy or upset you cause that is her mission don't let her win.

When I started to do things like pick paint off the wall in time out my parents made me balance on foot with my hands on my head. It sounds more cruel than it really was. I was actually in time out and had to focus on what I was doing so there was no chance to mess around. It also made me think twice about what I had done.

Usually if I have a hard time with my daughter (shes 4) I do time out. If that doesnt seem to work, I'll take away t.v. for the rest of the day/evening Or I tell her she cant play with ANY toys the rest of the night. That right there works wonders. I also have to make sure I stick with whatever I say.

When she pees on the floor I definitely get upset, maybe that's what she is feeding off of.

Thanks guys ^_^

put her in a spot where theres nothing around her, i ended up having to put a chair in the corner and face it at the wall he eventually got bored. i dont know what to say about the urinating on the floor my son never did this, but i would deffinetly take anything from her, we dont get to play while being punished. or you could always make her look you in the eyes and you sternly let her know that what she is doing is not ok, i find that when my son look me in the eyes while im talking to him he understands better. but remember shes in her terrible 2's so things arent going to be great.

Right now she knows she is in control thats not good

She's apparently learned that doing these things get you to pay attention to her, when she should be in time out. When you put her there, I'd tell her that she'll lose a toy or get more time out for not sitting there quietly. When My daughter is being especially bad, I put her in a dining room table chair and face it at the wall. I can take away a toy my daughter NEVER plays with and she still has a total melt down about it. Maybe it would work for your daughter.

Quoting -Sam I Am-:“ What kind of consequences would affect her though?”

By taking away things that she likes, like toys or a fav book or something like that. Explain to her that until she behaves she cant have these things. Usually that works for me.

My daughter used to do that. I would make her clean it up her self then clean her panties her self and put her back in the corner ( I do the nose in the corner thing) she has to stand there with her nose in the corner and be quiet for 4 mins (1 min per year of age) I turn off all the stuff in that room and go to another room where I can watch her. I don’t talk to her or interact with her until its time to get out then I ask her why she was put in the corner and explain to her why mommy is upset. I have done this since she was about 2. I know not showing your frustration is hard but they feed off of it. I also suggest once T/O is over don’t bring that up again bc she is so young she wont remember later in the day (i/e telling daddy then daddy yells at them when they get home). . I hope that works. It works for me

Quoting J e s s i c a:“ She's apparently learned that doing these things get you to pay attention to her, when she should be ... [snip!] ... away a toy my daughter NEVER plays with and she still has a total melt down about it. Maybe it would work for your daughter.”

That's a great idea, I am sure that would do something for her anyways

Yeah you can also try taking away certain toys as further punishment. You could tell her you're going to get rid of such and such toy(and then tuck it away in a bag in the closet or the basement and give it back to her at a later date as a reward for behaving really well.)

How does she feel about wearing diapers? Unfortunately my daughter thinks it's cool, so it wouldn't work for her, but maybe tell her if she pees on the floor she has to wear a diaper? You'd obviously have to follow through...but yea, just an idea.

Quoting -Sam I Am-:“ When she pees on the floor I definitely get upset, maybe that's what she is feeding off of. Thanks guys ^_^”

her peeing on the floor is definately an issue that you need to figure out. she's doing it for a reason, not just to get a reaction out of you. when she does it, get down to her level, and look her in the eyes while you're talking to her and explain why that is unacceptable, and ask her why she's feeling the way she's feeling, and tell her she needs to use her words rather than acting out because that's not the way to handle things.
the key is really communication with her.

Quoting Felicia♥:“ her peeing on the floor is definately an issue that you need to figure out. she's doing it for a reason, ... [snip!] ... use her words rather than acting out because that's not the way to handle things. the key is really communication with her.”

I see it as her doing it for revenge. Mom puts her in the corner she pees on the floor because she knows Mom doesn't like it.

i saw this on jon and kate plus 8   If she pees in her pants, make her just sit there in them for a couple mins. Dont run straight over there and change her and clean it up. make her sit there til time out is over, clean it up, THEN she gets to change. I understand UTIs might be a concern of that, but kids that wet the bed sleep in it all night sometimes. i bet 2 or 3 times of that and she'll learn not to do THAT anymore.