i'm a little hurt

So my new boyfriend...not the BD...but an ex from high school....when we first got back together everything seemed like it was going to be great. He was helping me out with a new car and he wants for me and my kid and him to get a place together up in big bear and he just wants us to be together and he loves me....but i've noticed that he seems to get stoned and just forget about me alot

i mean...all we really do is text back and forth...he lives irvine and i live up in arrowhead for the time being...but he will say "ill text you when i get off work" and sometimes he will but lately he just gets really stoned and "forgets"

i know i dont need some stupid pot head around my kid...and im not going to start smoking with him again...and he knows not to come near my son while hes stoned and knows ill cut him in way that will make him useless to a woman if he even thought about bringing that shit around my kid...so i wasnt really to worried about him smoking pot....but now it seems to be getting to me

am i over-reacting by being a little hurt about him forgetting to text me after work? i feel like i am...but im hurt right now because he didnt text me last night....and i told him that and he said sorry but its like...i want to be able to rely on him...and i dont want to be the kind of girlfriend that tells him "its me or the weed" but im actually pretty hurt

i feel...like such a freakin girl right now...im not normally like this around this guy.....am i just being a baby? UHHGGGG! i dont know =(

I say ditch him...you broke up for a reason before. And, if he's flaky now, it won't get better...

hmm maybe it should be you or the weed? If he's forgetting about you now, don't think it will improve if you move in with him.

I think it should be you or the weed. 

It should be you or weed. Don't be afraid to be that girl. It's what's best for you and your future.

I think you can get better, girl. To be completely honest, I don't know how many times I've been in this situation. Ugh. And, as much as it seems right at the moment, it's gonna be so frustrating in the long run. If you let it last that long. And, I've found out that all the happy talking about the future is only wishful thinking.

Not to mention, you've got a bundle of fun coming and if he's gonna get too stoned to text'cha.. Well.. Apparently, you're thinking about it..

i dont want to get rid of this guy...hes the only decent guy i've ever been with...and other than the forgeting about me thing he treats me so well and he makes me feel like im actually worth something because the BD made me feel so worthless and horrible and made me think i was just nothing.....i dont want to set these rules for him because i dont like those kinda girls.....i think its only getting to me because i used to be a huge pothead with him and now im givng it up for good....and he still does it.....grrr! i hate these hormones!!!

JMO, but I know I'm not about to take second place to pot.

Quoting TaraBanana- 15 days to go:“ So my new boyfriend...not the BD...but an ex from high school....when we first got back together everything ... [snip!] ... such a freakin girl right now...im not normally like this around this guy.....am i just being a baby? UHHGGGG! i dont know =(”

i made my bf stop smoking because he was the same way ... and i was like what ! are you goining to forget to pick up the baby form daycare one day? he shut up and understood that it stops you from being a good parent .

Quoting TaraBanana- 15 days to go:“ i dont want to get rid of this guy...hes the only decent guy i've ever been with...and other than the ... [snip!] ... i used to be a huge pothead with him and now im givng it up for good....and he still does it.....grrr! i hate these hormones!!!”

You don't need a man to make you feel worth something. 

Quoting Dec.7th is tooo Far!:“ i made my bf stop smoking because he was the same way ... and i was like what ! are you goining to forget ... [snip!] ... to forget to pick up the baby form daycare one day? he shut up and understood that it stops you from being a good parent .”

but the thing is its not his kid...he isnt coming into this relationship takeing the daddy role...i dont want that anyway....this kid has a dad....hes worthless and a disgusting pig....but hes the dad and im not going to just og and find another guy to take this role.....he is a better role model than the BD....but its not the dad and i dont want him to come in thinking he is....does that make sense?

Quoting TaraBanana- 15 days to go:“ but the thing is its not his kid...he isnt coming into this relationship takeing the daddy role...i ... [snip!] ... a better role model than the BD....but its not the dad and i dont want him to come in thinking he is....does that make sense?”

But do you really want to be with a guy that choose weed over you? That's basically what he's doing. He makes promises to you he can't keep because he's too busy getting high.

If you used to smoke with him a lot, imagine how hard it's gonna be to stay off it and focus on your little one if you all three move in together. And try not to compare him to your BD. Just because he treated you really bad doesn't mean you should settle for this. JMO, but you and your baby deserve better. There are great guys out there. Sometimes it just takes a while to find one.

Quoting Dallas Lorraine:“ You don't need a man to make you feel worth something.”

i know i dont...i am worth something...i will find happiness...and it wont be in anyother man other than my son.....but the BD made me feel so low and made me feel like no one would ever want me again.....and this guy came in and just.....made me feel better haha....i dont know...im being stupid i guess

Quoting Dallas Lorraine:“ But do you really want to be with a guy that choose weed over you? That's basically what he's doing. He makes promises to you he can't keep because he's too busy getting high.”

he hasnt done that yet....it just really annoys me that he forgets about me...its like...come the fuck on! uhgg!