re: i'm a little hurt

Quoting TaraBanana- 15 days to go:“ but the thing is its not his kid...he isnt coming into this relationship takeing the daddy role...i ... [snip!] ... a better role model than the BD....but its not the dad and i dont want him to come in thinking he is....does that make sense?”

yes it does , but you dont want him high around the baby all the time, my friend smokes outside and her little kids bangs on the slider for her to come in side , its a sad thing to see he just wants her attention . i dunno i just made a vow to myself that my baby wont see it ... i understand though its kinda a rough spot your in.

Quoting mom o'mia:“ If you used to smoke with him a lot, imagine how hard it's gonna be to stay off it and focus on your ... [snip!] ... this. JMO, but you and your baby deserve better. There are great guys out there. Sometimes it just takes a while to find one.”

it wont be hard....i know what important and thats getting my sons and my life together...im definatly not going to let weed get in the way of that...the only reason i started smoking in the first place was because it was just like...why the hell not? and then it was because life just sucked and i didnt want to deal with it....i know now what needs to happen and if i were to start again then i would be letting my kid down....im definatly not worried about starting up again

Quoting Dec.7th is tooo Far!:“ yes it does , but you dont want him high around the baby all the time, my friend smokes outside and ... [snip!] ... . i dunno i just made a vow to myself that my baby wont see it ... i understand though its kinda a rough spot your in.”

oh...he knows not to smoke near me or my kid....and if he ever did i definatly would drop his ass like nothing....and i would never leave my kid alone with him if i knew he was stoned....its just annoying me that he forgets about me....and it didnt annoy me until like last week...and we've been back together for about a month now.

Quoting TaraBanana- 15 days to go:“ he hasnt done that yet....it just really annoys me that he forgets about me...its like...come the fuck on! uhgg!”

I think you can do better. 

Quoting Dallas Lorraine:“ I think you can do better.”

Thanks

Quoting TaraBanana- 15 days to go:“ Thanks”

Welcome and good luck with everything   I'm off to bed. Goodnight!

Quoting TaraBanana- 15 days to go:“ he hasnt done that yet....it just really annoys me that he forgets about me...its like...come the fuck on! uhgg!”

To me it looks like he is chosing weed over you right now. He choses to smoke and then forget to call you. To me it really doesn't make much sense that he smokes and often just forgets to call. Before I had kids I smoked for about 3 years and I don't understand how you would just forget to call someone to the point it's going to bother them.

Why can't he just call you before he smokes? Do you ever try to call him?

Quoting brianamarie21:“ To me it looks like he is chosing weed over you right now. He choses to smoke and then forget to call ... [snip!] ... someone to the point it's going to bother them. Why can't he just call you before he smokes? Do you ever try to call him?”

well he doesnt get off work unti like 2am on some nights...and thats definatly too late to call my house phone...and my old cell had only one bar of service and that was barely enough for texts....and i just got my new cell last night

Quoting TaraBanana- 15 days to go:“ well he doesnt get off work unti like 2am on some nights...and thats definatly too late to call my house ... [snip!] ... my old cell had only one bar of service and that was barely enough for texts....and i just got my new cell last night”

Ohh I see I was thinking he got off at like 4 or something. Does he call you before work?

Either way I would tell him he needs to really cut back on the weed if you are going to move in together.

Quoting brianamarie21:“ Ohh I see I was thinking he got off at like 4 or something. Does he call you before work? Either way I would tell him he needs to really cut back on the weed if you are going to move in together.”

he used to...and he used to call during his break....but work has been shitty for him lately.....its not a set plan that we are moving in together yet....he really wants to but he needs to get other shit figured out first and if he does that before i can afford my own place here then ill move up there....but if i find a place i can afford here first then im going to do that...i have a problem with waiting for people to pull through for me and getting let down lol so im trying to break that little habit.

Quoting TaraBanana- 15 days to go:“ he used to...and he used to call during his break....but work has been shitty for him lately.....its ... [snip!] ... have a problem with waiting for people to pull through for me and getting let down lol so im trying to break that little habit.”

He used to call before work and on his breaks?

If I am understanding this right he really never calls at all? If so forget him and move on.

Quoting TaraBanana- 15 days to go:“ oh...he knows not to smoke near me or my kid....and if he ever did i definatly would drop his ass like ... [snip!] ... me that he forgets about me....and it didnt annoy me until like last week...and we've been back together for about a month now.”

yeah my man turns into a complete zombie and acts like i dont exists when he smokes its very irritating !!! its like at least if your going to smoke get your shit done!