re: Divorce Laws?

in va irregardless how long you are married , if theres a child involved you have to be seperated the full year   .. its one of those states that want to make sure that you are sure things cant be resolved... Got to love my home state lol.... now if you were here in alaska it would be a done deal the day paper work is signed ....

Quoting Gabe & Jasmines Mommy  :“ Ok whatever think what you want it doesnt really matter to me. It was just weird how a while back ... [snip!] ... you get the marriage certificate, and that usally takes about 6-8wks but you might have to go up to the courthouse and check.”

I definitely wasn't being a bitch, I was just saying..why would you not want to bring anything back..but then bring it up in here? Or you could have PM'd me. I'm upset...so I don't see why you had to start.

Quoting ♥missa116♥:“ in va irregardless how long you are married , if theres a child involved you have to be seperated the ... [snip!] ... Got to love my home state lol.... now if you were here in alaska it would be a done deal the day paper work is signed ....”

That stinkssss.   TY.

Quoting Mrs♥Ladylike:“ That stinkssss.   TY.”

yeah my dad was married to some crazy bitch for only a month and he went to try to get annuled and they were like "nope" got to do the 6 months seperation ...but good luck with things though  

Quoting Mrs♥Ladylike:“ I definitely wasn't being a bitch, I was just saying..why would you not want to bring anything back..but ... [snip!] ... bring anything back..but then bring it up in here? Or you could have PM'd me. I'm upset...so I don't see why you had to start.”

I should of PM'd you so im sorry. But you have been through enough of your husbands bullshit and i honestly dont see why you put up with it. I mean i know you dont want your daughter around that because then she will think it's ok. Maybe the best thing for you to do is make him leave for about 2 weeks so that YOU can get your thoughts straight. And tell him that if he really cares about his family he will find a job.

Have you all thought of counseling? A non biased 3rd party to listen to each of you and help you listen to eachother? If you or your family is involved in a church they usually have something that is free. Also depending on where you work or your insuance you can go for cheap if not free. I know how you feel because from time to time i feel the same way but for different reasons, but then i look at the person hubby is and realize i couldnt be with out him. You guys are dealing with alot right now, new marriage AND a new baby. Mike and i were married for a year before i got preg. and still the baby has put a strain on our relationship. I think the best thing to so since it sounds like in your state you have to wait a while is take that time to work on your relationship. Because regardless of if you end up going through with the divorce or not you will stil have to have some sort of relationship for your daughter sake. I would say try the counseling that way you can tell him what you need/want from him as a husband and father and he can tell you what he needs/wants from you as a wife and mother. Things wont change overnight, you have to give it time, and trust me i know thats hard with the streses of meing a mother to a 5 month old and the stressed of being a "mother" to a husband that acts like a 2 year old at times   Keep your head up, and if you love him and want it to work, keep trying....you have about 9 months till anything can be final anyways, so whats the harm in trying to make it stay for longer and be better? Good luck sweetie  

in tennessee if the divorce is mutual and there are kids involved, theres nothing about being seperated but you have to wait 90 days after filing for it to be finalized. just hope the other doesnt contest anything.